He was caught falisfying information and I am kinda surprised that he did not get fired. Ever since then, he has had a chip on his shoulder convinced that everything is not fair and that everybody is against him because he is black and gay. He makes snide remarks at everybody, particulary me, and never stops pouting. I am on the verge of blowing up at him, but I do not want to risk my job. How can I handle this?
2007-06-12 09:08:15 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
Stay cool. The old expression still applies, "If you give that kind of person enough rope, he will end up hanging himself."
2007-06-12 09:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what you explained in this question and in the previous one you posted, you were hired conditionally - meaning you get your license or you don't get the job. Along this line, you also knew your car needed repairs in order to be functional for use on your job. Unless the new company offered to pay for it, those repairs are your responsibility. Since you did not have your license you gambled on accepting the job offer. When you gamble you have the possibility that you will lose. You say the boss is pressuring you to get the license and repairs, and why shouldn't he? He hired you to do a job that needs to be completed. Think about it from his point of view. He is losing money, time, efficiency, whatever by having this position open and he wants it to be filled as quickly as possible. Heck, maybe he has to do the job himself since it is open. If the thought of making these repairs and taking the driving test are so upsetting to you then perhaps you should reconsider taking this job. That being said - call and tell the boss you are unable to take the position. Don't be unprofessional and call him names - just tell him that you made an error taking this job and you don't think it's going to work out. Going forward you might want to think more carefully about a job before you take it. It sounds as if there were a lot of hoops that had to be gone through in order for this job to work for you. Take the time to fully consider all the implications of the job and responsibilties (both for completing the job and financially in order to do the job) before saying yes.
2016-05-18 03:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by tanna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep your cool. If he approaches you when he's in a mood, just tell him that you don't want to deal with him on a non-working matter. Let him know that you prefer to keep your relationship professional and if he can't manage that, you will have to speak with your manager about it.
I don't know the man so I don't know if he was always the type of person to be moody or to falsify information. If this is a sudden new side of him, I am wondering if there is something personal going on with him. Perhaps he is having relationship problems, financial problems, health problems, any number of stresses that could cause him to act out in ways that he never would have before.
Just keep things professional. Treat him the way you wish he'd treat you.
2007-06-12 09:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by K. F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Union shop or not? that is a big part of the equation, either way he was most likely written up, and is being watched, it will not be long until he screws up again, then they have a paper trail and records of his mistakes, and will be able to defend against the lawsuit for wrongful dismissal this guy will no likely file, considering his attitude. Sometimes justice takes time, but it always arives.
2007-06-12 09:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Pengy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you is to try and distance yourself from him. If you work in close quarters then kill him with kindness do not let him know how much he bugs you. Getting mad and showing it would just be giving him more power. Talking to your Human resource manager is your best bet. Make sure you tell them you feel uncomfortable in your working enviornment. HR must do what is in the best interest of the company. Hopefully this will give you something to go on.
2007-06-12 09:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Melanie O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you can go speak with him one on one. Calmly explain to him that he made the mistake of falsifying information, so it's not fair to YOU or anyone else for him to take it out on you or any other co-worker, and what he's doing is unprofessional as well as making it hard for everyone else to get along with him.
If you don't want to confront him yourself, try asking his manager to speak with him about his attitude. Again, explain how his actions are affecting everyone else's work and the entire work environment in the office. They should be able to speak to him about his "chip" and they'll probably monitor him to make sure that his attitude affecting everyone else does not continue.
2007-06-12 09:20:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
By confronting him directly and privately, as a professional. something like this:
"Fred, I know there's been some difficulty lately between you and Jane Boss. I don't really want to talk about that, and I don't really want to get into the details of your personal, or business, life. That's between you and Jane.
What I DO want to talk about is our relationship. Lately I feel like you're upset at me because of the situation that happened with you and Jane. I want to be supportive of you here at work, but you're making it difficult. I'd like to understand why you're upset with me, and how we can resolve this so that we can continue working together."
Sometimes it just takes bringing a problem into the open to make it go away. It appears that Fred is misdirecting his anger at Jane toward his co-workers. You don't need to condone his actions, which were clearly wrong - you just need to let him know that you're a professional and you expect him to act like one, too.
If he continues to behave badly, you'll know that you tried....hopefully he will improve, or leave, on his own.
Good luck.
2007-06-12 10:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give him the first opportunity to stop his complaining to you. Go to him in private and let him know you do not appreciate his behavior. Be sure to tell him specifically what you object to. Then, explain that if he continues this behavior with you, you will have to speak with his supervisor. Be as kind as you can be. But, he needs to know he is creating a "hostile work environment" for you that you do not have to tolerate.
Good Luck.
2007-06-12 09:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I encourage you to go to your supervisor and let them know what is going on. If this jerk isn't big enough (I would normally say "man" enough) to realize he has gotten a 2nd chance and to take responsibility for his actions, then he is the loser. Don't let him drag you down too.
On the other hand, if your company willing acknowledges an employee has falsfied information and they retain him as an employee, perhaps its time to be looking for a new job and company.
Good luck!
2007-06-12 09:12:36 · answer #9 · answered by Debette 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to ignore this guy as much as possible.
Be polite and professional(even if he is rude). Do not make his problems your problems. Blowing up will serve NO good purpose.
Good luck
2007-06-12 09:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋