Help with LOVE?????????

Question

what if i am in love and my parents do not like my boyfriend because of the things we have done(you know)and they want me to stop seeing him however i am very happy with him and i feel i am old enough to make my own decisions and decide what i want in life but because of this my parents do not want to talk to me about him or even want him at my house we have been seeing each other for 2 years and 3 months so please some advise:)thanks

Answer 1

well your parents must have a good reason for why they don't like him, but in spite of that, if you love each other, see each other, you can make it work, my gf and i have been together for a year and 2 days =] and we've made it work, for half of it she's been in ohio because she moved, and her parents HATE me, for no reason, they've hated me since they found out about me, the only good reason i know of is i told her dad to kiss my a$$ because i was sick of how he treats me and thinks that my gf should "see other people" but the point is, anything's possible if you're willing to make it work

Answer 2

Yikes. Sounds familiar. :) This is a barrier hard to break, because you can't help the protectiveness of your parents. It also doesn't seem like you're old enough in their eyes. It also seems like your family is quite conservative. You have to sit down with your parents and boyfriend all together and discuss all these matters. Perhaps compromises and some sacrifices must be made, but sometimes.. you really just have to put everyone in the same room, and be at the center. Tell mom and dad that you love them, and tell your boyfriend that you love him too. Tell mom and dad that you can't stop dating your boyfriend; you're in love (or something like that :D) and you want them to be happy for you. If this relationship is a mistake, you don't see it just yet. When (and if) you do, they'll be the first to know.. But this is also one thing you have to experience; they can't protect you from everything, and you'll be strong enough to work through this. They'll say they want to protect you as much as they can, so tell them that you're growing up, the number of things they can protect you from aren't that many anymore, but it doesn't mean that you think they love you less or that they aren't good enough. It's just growing up. You can also talk to your boyfriend and tell him that there's also something you both have to give your parents.. if you really can't put a hold on the "things you've done", then it's still time to be vocal about it and tell your parents that you'll play it safe, (bring in his parents too if you want) and talk about what should happen if the worst case happens. Some parents will be really shocked about this, but it shows how grown up you really are; if you can handle such a situation. They have to get to know your boyfriend too, that's for sure. I do hope your boyfriend's a really great guy, otherwise, he won't be able to handle this, and it will be a mistake. It sounds like it's some sort of preparation for marriage, but it really isn't. It's just that time that came too early, as the relationship between you , your parents, and your boyfriend have gotten messed up. It shouldn't be this hard, yeah,...but parents will be parents, we gotta live with that. It's now just a matter of breaching that gap and show that growing up doesn't mean you don't love them or that they didn't protect you enough. This is just who you are, and you're happy. You also want them to be happy for you, and that you aren't taking them for granted. Good luck.. Ball's in your court. :)

Answer 3

First, you are not old enough cuz you live with your partents. If your old enough get a job and move out so you can do what you wish. If you still have to live under your parents you have to live by their rules. If you boyfriend was smart he would try to mend things with your partents. He should be a man, go to your parents say sorry and ask for another chance.

Answer 4

i have a feeling that with your parents involved that your at the age that you think your in love but unfortunately you have no idea what love really is. your parents are only looking out for you even though you may feel differently. personally, as long as you live under their roof then they make the rules. you want to be treated like an adult, move out and be an adult and then they may respect you like an adult

Answer 5

omgggg u soooo totally remind me of me. Well i take it u are somwehere around the age maybe 16,17,18 something like that. i am kind of in he same situation except my paretns dont kno dat we doing that kind of THING. but to be honest, when they found out, they urged me terribly to end it. But to tell you the truth, if our parents really lvoe you... they will understand that you want to be happy, and that if it is a mistake you willl learn a valbule lesson from it. I told my parents i was not gonna end it whether they liked it or not, and dey were extremely pissed at me for months. but i never gave up in my love. me and my boyfrend were strong for eachother and now my paretns understand. And we are still going strng.... even tho we a lil less den u... its 1 year and 4 months :) but good luck to u darlin ;)

Answer 6

Loulou, Hon boyfriends will come and go but parents are forever ! Respect their wishes. They are also wiser and have been through what you are going through !

Answer 7

tell your parents to stop interfering with your relationship.dont they want you to be happy?that's not fair to you if you dont get to date who you want to date.just try telling you parents to let you be the judge of who you want to date.or otherwise your relationship wont last for long.