Do you think that cheaters should get a 2nd chance?

Question

Why or why not, I think they shouldn't , cause I couldn't bear the pain of what they did to me, and I think the saying is true, once a cheat, always a cheat, what do you think

Answer 1

it depends on the situation. how bad he cheated, how you found out-like, if he confessed or not, how he begged you to take him back, and your personality. oh-and how much you loved him.

Answer 2

I think everybody deserves a second chance. At everything. Sometimes life doesn't offer second chances though. Like I tell my children, "Life does not come with an eraser, so be careful with the choices that you make." The pain is unbearable. Believe me. I have been there. However, if you love the person and you are willing to forgive and to work it out, talk it over, then things can work out. I don't believe, and have never believed, that once a cheater, always a cheater. People change and realize right from wrong.

Answer 3

I believe that everyone deserves a second chance, but it's up to the individual who experiences the turmoil/hurt to decide on whether the circumstances/situation is unforgivable. There are a lot of reasons why a person may cheat and sometimes it's not always one or the others fault but a lot of additions. We are all human and therefore prone to make a mistake, but it's all about how you go about correcting the mistake. Of course it will not be an easy road but if you honestly care and have any love in your heart for the person you will forgive but not FORGET! Have the individual gain your trust, respect and love back and not easily either. You have to work hard if you want something and if you really want it bad enough that hard work will seem like a breeze for the accomplishment. Remember, it's easy to make a mistake but it's not so easy owning up to that mistake. It takes a strong person to admit when they have messed up but an even stronger person to make up for their error. If you find that you are not willing to FORGIVE and leave what happened in the past, then don't waste anymore of your time or theirs. Life is all about what you make it and if you feel like certain things will keep you down or make you question your decisions then leave it alone. There's nothing better than a sane mind oppose to a insane one.

Good luck!

Answer 4

Wow this is a cituation I went through just three months ago sweetie. My man cheated and let me tell you it hit me like a ton of bricks and didn't see it coming. It was with an exgirlfriend. It is still fresh and still hurts at times deeply. But yes I am giving him a second chance and this is the last one. If you decide to give whoever it is that cheated on you one more chance make it their last. It is so not worth going thru that **** of all that pain and wondering all the time. Because I know I won't let this man that I love so much hurt me like that again.

Answer 5

Ask yourself this: If you love someone very much and were about to cheat on that person, the moment you did you would be aware of how much pain it would cause that other person. If a person could hurt you that much just to have a moment of pleasure what's to keep him or her from doing it again?
The mind that cheats does not think like the mind that doesn't, and never will.

Answer 6

Heck no! Once a player always a player as they say. I got cheated on and made the stupid choice to stay with that person and all I did for months is stress over if they were off doing it again or what they're constantly doing. When trust is gone to hell the relationship always follows. Do yourself a favor and find someone that wont pull that BS. There's plenty of fish in the sea you know. Best of luck

Answer 7

I have cheated and would never do it again. What I did was a huge drunken mistake and my bofriend gave me another chance, our relationship has never been better! However I think if the person is starting a relationship with someone else that is another level of cheating that should not be forgiven. It really depends on the cheating and your level of love.

Answer 8

it depends, no matter how many times i say this, it cant be heard enough. if there is no trust in a relationship, it is doomed. there will always be the pain and the what if he's cheating right now?? if a girl (or guy) has the patients to deal with it then more power to them, but you have to be a very trusting person to take someone back after the hurt they put you through.

Answer 9

I definitely agree, once a cheat always a cheat. if a person cheats on someone then that person doesn't have the morals or the love that it takes to be committed in a relationship..

Answer 10

From experiences all my own, the saying is most definitely true but can be altered depending on the person. What I mean is if the party in question is willing and sincere enough to beg for another chance, then taking the risk is worth it unless you know that it's not. I say listen to your heart if that's what you want to do. And listen carefully to avoid future heartbreak.

Answer 11

Well, it would be hard for me to live with the pain of what he did (I've been cheated on before), but I would probably give him a second chance if he genuinely wanted to get back together with me. He'd have to beg for a long time and beg for my forgiveness, but I might take him back. We all mess up--my ex bf does it quite often, so it'd be hard to give him a second chance....Just because they did it once doesn't mean they'll do it again, they just choose to keep doing it. But I'd probably give him a second chance...and maybe regret it. lol.