Life is about fulfilling every possible dream. If you feel that you have soughted every professional help there is, tried to be social and keep yourself active ...but only to be ignored, not accepted ...haven't had sex, dates etc ...what is the benefit of waking up every morning, feeling like a robot ...a machine whose purpose is to the job they're getting pay for, buying random empty things to fill a short burst of happiness ...only to get fed up of it. Is one right to claim that they don't want to live on the human plane and wants to die ...to gain true freedom ...if anybody cares ...should it be allowed ...as the pain of not wanting to live anymore is unbearable ...not to be a burden, a negative force. I believe in God ! i know it's not right ...i've always given good ...but none given back ...it eludes in a person's life ...if somebody has done everything in getting help, done it and feels the same. What is there to be done ?? It's not right to feel like this all the time is it ??
2007-06-12 09:04:37 · 18 answers · asked by darkdealx 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You need to see a srink!
2007-06-12 09:08:31 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
HI
So you don't feel you fit in Is that the bottom line ?
Let me tell you ... Who does ???
If you think that the rest of the universe is having a great time you are VERY wrong.(but there are some good liars out there !)
Everyone has at sometime(and believe me this can be a long time ) thought ' WTF is this all about i'm going absolutely nowhere !!!!'
I know............ bin there done that ..! Probably gonna do it again.!
You actually have a lot in common with a majority of people
most people do not like their jobs, some people move jobs regularly and STILL don't like any of them.
You're think about it the 'consumer society' is a terrible drug and I agree we buy stuff for that quick fix and soon it wears off-hell the amount of borrowing on credit cards proves this !!!
Whatabout all those happy contented film stars /musicians etc blissfully happy becos they are ...mostly running on coke, booze and prescription meds.They aren't happy either.
So are you different to everyone else NOPE.
The one thing for sure is that you have motivation to change or you wouldn't have bothered to post here.
What you need which will be in short supply at the moment is a lot of courage but you must look at what you can change in your life.Start small ..but one change will lead to another.
Got any hobbies , local clubs ? (i met my wife this way so I know it works !)
What you could do in this life is far more important that what you may do in the next.
I've never thought that life was about fulfilling every dream that's rather a lot to ask.
2007-06-12 12:48:13 · answer #2 · answered by Vespuccio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you are feeling, I have been there and at times I still am. One thing that keeps me (and I'll bet many other depressives) here is the pain it would put my family through; my brother has tried to take his life twice and it is something none of us have fully recovered from emotionally.
You are right, not everyone does feel the way you do but don't look at it as something that isn't normal or right, because you are certainly not alone.
On a positive note, my brother survived both attempts and has gradually built up a happy life for himself now, surrounded by friends who genuinely care about him!
I truly hope this will happen for you too.
Please do not be ashamed of your feelings and concerns, aswell as visiting your doctor, try and find a support group with whom you can connect (be careful of websites which can make you feel worse) and just try that little bit longer.
Take the chance now to do something today that could save you tomorrow...What's one more day?
Take care
2007-06-12 11:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by onemuntyflumple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not right to feel that way all the time, but I understand what you are saying. It is possible that you have gotten so caught up in your personal grief that you may have missed someone? Is it also possible that others have accepted you and have noticed you but you just did not notice it? You should have a better quality of life, but in order for that to happen you need to evaluate your life and where you see what makes you happy and what does not. I think you should seek professional help as well, there are medications out there that can help that empty feeling. I wish you the best of luck...keep your head up, there is someone out there that needs you.
2007-06-12 09:18:34 · answer #4 · answered by a_sweet_one_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it is not - you definitely sound like you are depressed!
Firstly you need to confide in your GP - he can prescribe you tablets to help you feel more positive!
Secondly you need to eat healthily and take exercise as this can all help!
Once you start to feel better the world will look different - once you are feeling more relaxed and less negative I am sure you will meet someone!
You could join the gym and join an online dating site!
Haven't you any friend or family you can talk to as well - tell them how you are feeling - I am sure there are lots of people who care about you and will help you to overcome this!
I have felt depressed and I am the living proof that it can be beaten!
2007-06-12 10:03:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Faversham 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it's not, but if you look for reasons to get off the escalator, you'll ALWAYS find some! Some time's to be happy, you have to be happy.
Just before falling asleep, say to yourself "think happy positive thoughts", join a night school, something like cookery great way to pick someone up!
2007-06-12 10:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by Avon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right. You really need to get some help. Depression is caused by many many things, a lot of peoples lifes suck, but they cope and get on with things. Whilst i have no problem with people taking their own lives if that is what they truly want, I dont believe that is your case, as you on on here asking for answers. You want to feel better, so do something about it.
Go to your gp, there are many forms of help for depression, some are chemical, like tablets, but there is also counselling and therapy sessions etc.
Excersise is also helpful for depression as it realeases 'happy' hormones, so even though you may not feel like doing anything, it can be beneficial.
Go and see your gp. he will ba able to offer different ways of dealing with it.
lozz xx
2007-06-12 09:16:23 · answer #7 · answered by lozzielaws 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Your mind seems to be stuck in a constant loop of despair. id say your first step is to find something that relaxes you and something that stimulates you in a positive way so you can think more clearly. Its like being stuck on a roundabout spinning at 100 mph, if you cant slow it down you wont be able to get off it. What i mean is if your mind is thinking negatively almost constantly, you wont be able to be happy unless you slow these thought processes down and replace them with more positive ones.
2007-06-12 12:23:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there you seem like a good person. Just i little miss guided about the way you think, pick one thing in your live that you like doing and just focus on it. I know what you are going throught i have depression, anxiety i find it hard to but i feel that im going to beat this i take one day at a time . and i try to do some thing every day. if it that bad for you then go to hospital and tell someone about the way you feel and they welll help you. PLEASE PLEASE THINK ABOUT THIS DEPRESSION IS AN ILLNESS AND YOU CAN BEAT IT
I BELIEVE IN YOU
2007-06-12 09:28:02 · answer #9 · answered by jarvo2909 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you look for happiness and contentment in all the wrong places my dear. NO one and No thing can MAKE you happy. You choose to be happy, or you don't. It is an internal choice, one that you find within. Now some people look so long and so hard outside of themselves,that they have depleted their reserves and need help, you are one such person. Seek professional assistance from a psychiatrist, get on some good medicatiion so you can think straight instead of this downward spiral you find yourself in, and once you have regained some balance, look within for your happiness, it is the only place you will find it.
2007-06-12 09:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You say you believe in God? Are you a christian? I felt like i had worn out all options until someone gave me the number of a christian counsellor in my area. It's great. It's the first time i have felt someone come into my shoes and feel what i feel. It gives me hope.
2007-06-12 10:22:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋