My ex dumped me in a cold way and I was tore up about it for a while. I've been completely over her for over two years now. During my low point I found out my best friend and her were still talking, which was odd because they never called each other or even e-mailed until after she broke up with me. I asked him to stop keeping in contact with her. He said he would. Recently I found out he had been having her come visit from out of town and staying with him and his current girlfriend. All behind my back.
Am I right to be extremely angry? Am I right to end a friendship over it? Or am I overreacting.
2007-06-12 08:56:08 · 11 answers · asked by Gary P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why haven't you already told him the friendship is off?
That's a pretty bad violation of trust, I wouldn't even be nice enough to take the guy drinking at bars or trying to go pick up girls with him doing something like that without even telling you. Just drop all contact with any of them, you'll be doing yourself a huge favor.
2007-06-12 09:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by drandsv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont think you should cut off her friendship because she is a top moderator. If she has changed because of her position she will slowly change back... just give her time. she will know that being a top moderator is eventually nothing special and that she should not let it get to her head. She will calm down in the end.. just give her space and time... dont worry about it... after all you have had a good friendship all these years and you know what type of friendship she is capable of and you enjoyed her friendship all these years. For her to change suddenly towards you because of her position shows that there is a self esteem problem she had in the first place... If I were you, just give her space and time and look to make new friends off line in a community group somewhere.. let her know that you are busy with friends offline doing activities in the community etc etc. Good Luck
2016-05-18 03:08:41 · answer #2 · answered by mavis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He waited until you were out of the picture, this shows he does respect you. Your relationship with her was over then he started contacting her: there is nothing wrong with that. So if your over her, what is your problem? It sounds as if you want your cake and ice cream too!
No you have no right to be ANGRY with them. If you want to end the friendship over this you were not much of a friend in the first place. And i feel sorry for you for being so small and peed.
2007-06-12 09:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by zipper 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've been in this situation. I know how you feel, I was also extremely angry at the time, I wanted all my friends to dislike my ex as much as I did.
But we can't dictate who are friends have as friends. I walked away from those friends. Never looked back and found new friends. Not a big deal to me.
2007-06-12 09:01:45 · answer #4 · answered by DC2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset, but is it really worth throwing your friendship away over this girl? Seriously, you need to just let it go. Since you are over this girl, can you ever be friends with her? If so, then why cant you all be friends together.
2007-06-12 09:03:14 · answer #5 · answered by kissbutnevertell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she was a witch to you and instead of realizing that and classifying her as such, he chose to go behind your back. If he was truly your "friend" he wouldnt have chosen to not only talk to her, but to lie to you and even have her come visit. Doesn't sound like a great friend, especially not one worth keeping.
2007-06-12 09:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by jay k 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would sting *so* badly. I guess... is he a good friend in other regards? Why did they keep in touch? Is it maybe that she misses you and spending tim with *him* makes her feel closer to you?
There's no doubt he betrayed you dreadfully, but it may be worth finding out why. It doesn;t sound like they were hooking up or anything, so it's confusing.
Good luck, dude. It must *suck*.
2007-06-12 09:01:48 · answer #7 · answered by Munchkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it really matter anymore? Being possesive is bad enough but doing so after you're broken up is really a waste of time. Forget it. Find a new girl and focus on stuff that matters.
2007-06-12 09:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
okay that in my point of view being a girl if she is dating your friend and he said he would stop but he's dating her behind your back you have every right to be mad. but come on your going to end it over a stupid girl. i think you should talk to your friend tell him you won't forgive him if he dates your ex!
2007-06-12 09:04:47 · answer #9 · answered by candyfreek#1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd be angry too buddy......YOUR best friends loyalty should be to you and not to her, especially since they weren't close until after the two of you broke up.
2007-06-12 08:59:09 · answer #10 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋