Ok first of all let me ask you this: If it's ok for guys to look at porn, why isn't it ok for guys to cheat on their wives or girlfriends? You might say that's extreme. then let me put it this way: Is it ok for a guy to sorta just squeeze another girl real quick but do nothing else if he's dating someone else? is it ok for him to check out other girls? then why would it be ok for him to check out a girl who's TOTALLY NUDE, with another man? Is it ok for him to indulge in sexually perverted thoughts while masturbating?
Let's say he's single. isn't he going to carry his perversion into his next relationship? Or lust after good girls who don't want him to lust after them? Won't it at least slightly, devalue the next girl in his mind? Becuz if other girls aren't worth respecting, why would she be? Another thing, if you see your wife nude for the first time, and you've never seen someone else nude, isn't she much more beautiful? what if you had been looking at porn your whole life, wouldn'
2007-06-12 08:06:40 · 24 answers · asked by chainsdestroyed 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
t you see all those other girls you had seen naked and say, but she was SO MUCH HOTTER!! and stuff like that?
2007-06-12 08:07:11 · update #1
t you see all those other girls you had seen naked and say, but she was SO MUCH HOTTER!! and stuff like that?
ok. so i hear you saying that i'm comparing lusting to adultery, and i hear you say that's a crazy comparison. i recognized that it's extreme, i'm not saying their on the same level of intensity, but they are both lusting. i'm comparing the similar emotion that comes with the two activities, not the intensity of the emotions.
2007-06-12 08:20:55 · update #2
Oh yeah another thing... someone mentioned blue balls... i stopped masturbating and lusting and whatnot about 2 months ago. I do not have blue balls. There is a "biological" reason for this. Guys automatically get rid of semen without jacking off or whatever. it happens at night, randomly when walking around, and it doesn't require an erection even.
2007-06-12 09:24:55 · update #3
One more thing also, I've been in the same department as a lot of you. I looked at porn, and it of course wasn't fulfilling. i was always looking for my next big emotional high, whether it come from romance, lust, anger, making myself look good, music... etc. So i know where i was. i was shallow. and i know that lust made me more shallow, that i respected women less when i would do it, becuz looking at porn in itself is disrespect to women. But now that i understand true sexuality, that it really is confined to marriage, as God has decreed, i don't have to jack off, or look at porn, or do whatever. I can live my life happily, and i do so without hating people (although i am distressed by people's actions) anyway. i've been on both sides of the argument, and now that i'm on the right one, i'm so happy with where i am. I figured i would fight this to change people's opinions i guess, but that's not going to produce an actual change. So whatever. You can message me about this stuff, i'm
2007-06-12 09:30:07 · update #4
open to debate about it.
2007-06-12 09:30:19 · update #5
It's natural for guys to look at porn. I let my boyfriend watch it and we even sometimes watch it together. The point is he comes home with me and is faithful and that's all I care about.
I look at other guys. Doesn't mean I have feelings for them or would even sleep with them. It's natural.
2007-06-12 08:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by ☮ Erica ☮ 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
Because my friend, that's just the nature of the beast. Also, looking at pornography doesn't necessarily make you perverted. If you're going to play that game, then all gun owners are murderers and anyone who has a beer or glass of wine with their dinner is an alcoholic. Also, quite frankly, Playboy often has EXCELLENT articles, and I'm not joking about that one. Their journalistic credentials are impeccable.
Next, when it comes to subject of choking the carrot, why would it not be ok? I understand it's against the vows of those in the service of the catholic church, so with them, I get it. However, everyone else is another matter. Why it can be good: Relieves stress, and quite frankly, it's normal, in males and females. Lust, my friend, is part and parcel to not only the human but also the male gender of all species. It's what we're programmed to do, and the only way to completely and totally/utterly get rid of it is by lobotomy or death.
2007-06-12 08:25:10 · answer #2 · answered by Prop Forward 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are assuming people who do it are addicted and do it 24/7. Also most guys who look at porn don't have girlfriends so it wont be adultery.
However i think that "lust after good girls who don't want him to lust after them" is a good point and you would of made a good arguement if you just said that. All the other things you said are just stupid.
2007-06-12 08:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your question is based on a wrong assumption.
You are assuming that it is OK for guys to look at porn and lust after women that they are not married to.
Peace!
2007-06-12 08:11:46 · answer #4 · answered by C 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't see anything wrong with a guy watching porn or masturbating. If you gave a girl a quick sqeeze she is going to beat the he** out of you. It's all fantasy, it's ok. And i'd rather be with a single guy who masturbates to satisfy his normal sexual urges than sleeps with other women and therefore has a higher likelihood of giving me an STD.
I believe in sexuality as a human need just like hunger. But i also believe in controlling sexual urges just like hunger. In order words, a guy, OR GIRL can choose to express their sexuality in a healthy way than keep it in and become sexually repressed and sexually frustrated. Listen you have to express your sexuality in some way. It is fllosih and unhealthy to keep it bottled up just like it is foolish and unhealthy and self hating to express it in a way that puts your health or your relationship in jeopardy.
But i reiterate, i will not hold it against my partner if he watches porn in moderation or even masturbates in moderation
PS: guys and GIRLS (we are forgetting girls have sexual urges too and do masturbate etc) can lust after whom ever they want and that includes good and bad girls and boys. Just like i can look at whomever i want. Lusting after someone doesn't have to have anything to do with them. I can lust after ricky martin all i want. How is Ricky martin affected? Lust is a perfectly great feeling and i wouldn't like gto live without it
2007-06-12 08:23:58 · answer #5 · answered by uz 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Dude, if you think looking at porn and masturbating is tantamount to cheating you are far from sane. If you looked at porn and expected to see that in real life you are just deluding yourself and are a moron. Porn is what it is-a fantasy.
My wife is much more beautiful than any porn start because she's real and has flaws.
Get a grip man, porn doesn't devalue women, anyone who does devalue women after looking at porn was going to devalue them regardless.
2007-06-12 08:13:27 · answer #6 · answered by rhambass 4 · 6⤊ 3⤋
I have no problem with my husband looking at other women or at porn. After all, he come shome to me and doesn't cheat on me, nor does he disrespect me in any way.
I think you've got sex perverted in your mind so that even 'normal' sex is not normal in your mind. Sex is a natural act, so quit making so much of it.
2007-06-12 08:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Mi Atheist Girl 4 · 1⤊ 3⤋
As long as the guy I'm with loves me, he can jack off and look at naked women all he wants. There is a big difference between love and lust. And as long as he knew that, I'd be fine with it.
2007-06-12 08:13:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kat 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
Ever heard of blue balls. It's something that happens when a guy doesn't masturbate after having been aroused. it's different for each person ranging from some discomfort to actual pain. In a way you could say god is punishing them for NOT masturbating. lol. Besides if it's not okay for a guy to masturbate then should it also not be okay for a woman to have her period.
2007-06-12 08:14:39 · answer #9 · answered by MoonWater 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
I certainly hope you are not this boring in person as you are here..if you are, you will have little to do in life BUT use porn. Get off the cross...I need the wood for my bedroom expansion. Why is it Christians looks so hard for sin, sin, sin? Do you ever just enjoy the life God has given you? Good grief...all these what ifs are paralyzing. Get a life
2007-06-12 08:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 5⤋