Should we use spanking as a form of discipline?

Answer 1

yes.. Todays youth is to unruly due to the fact everyone is afraid to spank there child when bad, Some people have some success with time outs but other kids just need a good old fashion butt buster, if you don't believe me look in your local newspaper on vandalism, drug charges, theft and so forth and you will notice that most are under age and the younger and younger when they are starting why are our jails full of these people when they hit 18, answer they never got disciplined at home.

Answer 2

I think spanking should be used a last resort when you really need to amke an impression on the child. If spanking is the primary form of discipline it will mean nothing to the child and just teach them to hit when they are angry. Spanking should be done when everyone is calm and for the BIG things.

When I was kid my primary form of discipline was time-outs, grounding, and loss of priviledges. Spanking was for bigger things. If I intentionally disobeyed my parents (i.e turning on TV when i had been told I was grounded), or did a BIG thing wrong (Attempting to run away and dissapearing for 4 hrs, running into a street when a car was coming). This way when I did get spanked it made a big impression on me and I can actually remember most of the times I got spanked.

When I did get spanked it wasn't just the spanking. I was grounded on top of it and usually made to sit in my room for the whole afternoon to wait for it. The spanking would always come later after a big discussion after why whatever I had done was a big deal. This way it really got a point across.

Try other methods first, but if it a big offense and you need to make a big impression on the child then spank.

Answer 3

Spanking is only one form of discipline. Parents should be discerning in the use of it. With regard to discipline, the Bible states: “The rod and reproof are what give wisdom.” (Proverbs 29:15) However, not all children need physical punishment. Proverbs 17:10 tells us: “A rebuke works deeper in one having understanding than striking a stupid one a hundred times.” The purpose of discipline is to teach and correct. Parents should determine the best way to do this with each child and never allow discipline to deteriorate into harmful abuse.(Collosians 3:21, Ephesians 6:4)

Answer 4

Discipline (and self-discipline) are learning and following an ideology or a person. This is what parents should teach us by words and by example.

Punishment ... that is what we get when we don't do what we should. That can be loss of privileges, grounding, or even the hairbrush to the bare butt.

So, NO, spanking is not a form of DISCIPLINE. Don't try that.

However, if we need to be punished, then I guess you should spank ... as they say "long and hard". Of course keeping appropriate to age and misbehavior!

Answer 5

A swift pat on the padded diaper to get the child's attention does no harm.
A spanking with the hand, over underwear is fine until the child is of an age to reason with. Once they understand right from wrong and the consequences, you move on to other forms of discipline (privaledges & such). Depends upon the maturity level of the child.
Never use an inanimate object, such as a belt, stick, or any object that can bruise or cut the skin. That is why you just use your own hand...to keep it to a level that you can 'feel' how hard you are applying the attention-getter.
Do it also in private. If the child acts out in public, you sternly tell them that their discipline will be addressed once you get home. Then they can 'think' of what they did, and will grow to understand proper behavior.
Good Luck with this - general consensus these days is to allow kids to run everything...meaning that by the time the kids are teens, they can quite often be out of control and the parents begin to fear them. Best to tackle things now.

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Answer 6

I don't think it's really necessary. Although..It depends on the kind of parent, his/her belief in the such a form of discipline, whether or not the parent experienced it during his/her childhood. It also depends on how you are bringing up your child, or whichever kid. If you can build a level of trust that deepens as your child grows, then it will come to the point where your child will listen to you and believe you when you say "don't do this because there are consequences like this or that" or "do this even when you don't want to because doing such shows that you are a good person" or something of the sort. I encountered a child who was raised to trust her mom, and her personal sense of right and wrong has been manifested in her actions, so much so that when you does something and realizes afterwards that it was a "bad" thing, she learns to be afraid and confesses to mom about it, because mom told her not to hide things from her because mom will always be there for her.. and even if that's the case, she should still try to do what is best... That mother knows. The mother never ever had to hit/spank her daughter to get this kind of result. It was just a matter of showing/telling her daughter what a good life to lead is. It's not brainwashing; I believe that building such a utopian form of trust between parent and child isn't really far from reality.

Answer 7

i think it dependson the child. if the child will not change their behavior when it is explained to them not to do it & why (I'm of course talking about those old enough--not toddlers) then spanking may be necessary. But if the child responds to time outs & talking about it, there really is no reason to hit them, and it can cause more harm than good. I was one of those kids, I was very sensitive & eager to please, and was usually confused as to why I was being humiliated & hit (i had to pull my pants down for my dad to spank me). It was never explained to me why, or what it was that was wrong about what I did, so I just came away from it resentful & hurt.

If the kid doesn't know what they did wrong & why, spanking can be very harmful and ineffective. The key is to make the child understand WHY it was wrong.

edit: oh, and btw, I was a horrendous teenager, did the whole rebellion thing, got into trouble a lot. I was so angry at everything. So, spanking does not prevent teens from stealing, cussing, doing drugs, etc. I won't go so far as to say it contributed to misbehaving, but it had no preventative effects. and did not make me respect my parents, just scared of them. (I think mine got a little out of hand, though. They were mad when they spanked, and used a belt)

Answer 8

Yes. But only as appropriate for the child and circumstance. Some children respond well to physical punishment, others do better with mental punishment.

There is a difference between spanking and beating.

Answer 9

I personally don't see anything wrong with a swat on the behind once in a while. I think that this is one reason that so many kids have behavioral problems these days, since spanking is considered such a no-no. I was spanked as a child, and it gave me a whole new outlook on the meaning of "respect"!

Answer 10

I don't see why spanking is seen as a form of abuse. It's discipline. I was spanked and YES I spank my kids if they do something wrong. I spank my nieces and nephews, and also explain the reason for the discipline action they chose when they decided to be disobedient.