Sometimes I feel I have the most disfunctional family in the world. My daughter has not and will not speak to me cause I kept a secret from her about my 18 yr. old grand daughter being in touch with her natural father. I thought it was up to her to tell her mom. This is going on for 1 1/2 years. She pushed me to the floor, smacked me in the face and told me I was dead. Her father and I were separated at the time, so he won't get involved. He has an e-mail relationship with her and hasn't seen her in a year. My son and his father have not spoken in almost 2 years because of a disagreement with a business they had together. All parties have to take some blame & responsibility in what is going on. Sometimes I don't think it's worth it but it is my family. I sent my daughter an e-mail last Christmas and asked her if we could come to a truce. She never responded. My son sent his father a note and told him he missed and loved him. He never responded. Suggestions please.
2007-06-12 07:04:21 · 3 answers · asked by ellenmarie_47 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Unfortunately since they are all adults there really isn't much you can do to force a reconciliation other than try to arrange for some casual gatherings where they have the chance to make peace with one another. Why not invite your son to lunch or dinner some time and tell your husband that you expect him to treat his son with love and respect, that the past is the past and it's time to get over the hurt and anger. Once their relationship is on its way to repair, have your husband try the same thing with your daughter. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-06-12 07:09:43 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably don't have the most dis functional family in the world...Ive heard way worse like on Jerry springer and what not.but my family had and still has similar divisions like yours,and similar situations but right now were not talking about mine.from what im hearing it sounds like you just have to let everyone get over there feeling at there own pace you can try to reunite the family but because of pride,they wont give in until they are ready.send them Hallmark cards and not just for birthdays and holidays but also just to let them know you care about everyone resolving there differences...there's hallmark cards for just about any thing nowadays,even if no one responds they ll at least know how you feel and eventually you can fix things within the family,just be a Little patient it Will take time, but try that.good luck
2007-06-12 14:22:02 · answer #2 · answered by Jessejamez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on with your life and accept things the way they are. Your daughter doesn't sound like a prize, and you are probably safer without her abuse. Your son and his father have to work out their own relationship.
Grown up children are not under our control and as much as we would like them to be different sometimes they just aren't going to be. Be open to a relationship, but don't pursue it. Get on with your life.
2007-06-12 14:11:00 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋