I am gay, if up to you individually, fundamentalists, would you allow me to adopt an unwanted child?

Question

I am in a long term relationship of 17 years, I have the education, finances, time and support structure to raise a child well. Would you allow me to adopt a child?

There are thousands of children waiting to be adopted, yet gay people experience large legal hurdles to adopt.


Would you prefer these unwanted children to be aborted?

Will you step up to the plate and be willing to adopt more?

Answer 1

man, I hate you for making this so hard.
I must be sincere, I don't hate gays, but I don't love them either. They are not on my top list to give a child to, even if you have a finance, cuz personally I think a child needs both a mother and a father, not a mismash of both. But to be sincere, some gay people are really caring people and I woultn' mind at all. It's better for them to have the child then to abort. I'm more against abortion then gay people.

Answer 2

Sorry you feel this way but slaughtering of babies is not what should be done. If anyone should fall into this category of an unwanted pregnancy than there is help out there. If you still can't get help and you are sure you don't want a child look me up. I know of a couple that would love to adopt children but don't have the thousands of dollars to do so. Also there is a home for children in our state that is ran by Mennonites and they keep the children until the mother is up on their feet and can take care of their child. If they decide they don't want the child than they will find a good home for the baby. Don't you think that we have slaughter enough babies (40 million+/-)? Even though I am against abortion I totally agree with Gay/Lesbians adopting children. At least they will be loved.

Answer 3

I am someone who was adopted and I am a Christian. I would say definitely NO to your quest to adopt. I KNOW how hard it is for ppl like me. Not wanted (or too much to care for) with my own parents, then placed with strangers who thought they wanted to be "mommy and daddy". The kids at school have such a "gentle" *not* way of welcoming adopted children as it is. I cannot even imagine what the poor child would have to go through when it became apparent that he/she had been adopted by gays. Kids are NOT politically correct! To them you ppl are fags and dikes! What kind of stigma do you think this would put on the child? Has that even occurred to you? Do you even care or is it all about asserting (means shoving) your "gay rights" down the throats of everyone. This "everyone" includes the children who await adoption.
Do you know what kids awaiting adoption are hoping for? A mom and a dad. A "normal" life. A real home. NOT more reasons for others to point the finger at them. Please, for the sake of others like myself and my siblings were...back off on the adoption thing.

Answer 4

I'm not a fundamentalist but I really want to answer this. You should have every right as anyone else to adopt a child. I think it is cruel and unfair and against the constitution that because you are gay you have more legal hurdles to jump over than anyone else. I look forward to the day when you have the same rights I do and in my mind you already do.

Answer 5

I think gay parents make some of the most loving parents. I would diffidently say "Yes, by all means, adopt as many children as you want"
I was adopted, even though I knew my parents, my father was an abusive sadistic bastard.
Better to be with a loving intelligent individual, than to be abused by the natural parent
You have my vote!!!

Answer 6

It depends....are you abusive? Mentally unstable? An addict of some sort? Is it going to mean that a fully qualified heterosexual couple will NOT get to adopt the child due to the agency trying to be "politically correct"? EVERYBODY experiences large legal hurdles to adopt...not just gays.

I do not condone homosexuality, but I would certainly prefer any child to be in a stable, loving, secure home environment with a gay couple than to be in a physically / sexually abusive home environment with a heterosexual couple or single parent.

Answer 7

No. I don't think you should be able to adopt a child. Look though the eyes of a teen. 1/3of US boys 14-18 said they would rather have no parents than gay parents. That messes up children getting made fun of all the time. Just think when they are 4-5 and playing house with their friends they will think it is right to have 2 moms or 2 dads. A teenage girl need their mom or atleast a strong female role modle and you aren't going to get that with 2 dads, same goes for a boy his dad and 2 moms.

Answer 8

My religious beliefs say that Homosexuality is a sin therefore, the child that I were to give you, would be raised by sinners. I know that this happens a lot, especially in today's society, even buy heterosexual parents. This is a very hard choice because God is the one who is to judge people not me, who is to say that you are going to Hell and not other sinners who are not homosexual, who are raising their child in a sinful manner?

I would rather give you a child than abort one, for sure. Morally speaking, many will disagree, but I would allow you to raise a child. Good luck and God Bless!

Answer 9

A child needs a mother *and* a father(period)! Now, you'll undoubtedly start bringing up stuff like, "What about all the divorces?", "Why shouldn't my partner and I have the same privileges as you 'homophobic' straight people?"

I shall reply like this: All six of my married aunts and uncles, plus my parents, who had children, stayed married for life, or until the death of his/her spouse. Up to the present, my three siblings and I and six of my seven married cousins who had children (except for one), stayed married until death of one spouse. And, no, before you ask, only my wife and I and one cousin and her husband are Fundamentalists. At our age, I seriously doubt that any of us would be allowed to adopt children of any age! Psychological and sociological studies have shown that children living with two parents of opposite sex are the most well-adjusted and productive citizens. Governments should pass laws and make provisions to encourage this lifestyle. Governmental regulations and barriers to adoption by young heterosexual couples should be eased considerably.

Abortion of "unwanted" children is murder and is always wrong - *except* perhaps in the *very* *rare* instance(less than 1%) where the mother's *life* (not her *health* or her *well-being*) is at risk!

Since I believe and trust the Bible, the Word of God, I firmly believe that sexual activity outside of marriage is immoral, whether it be fornication, adultery, homosexual behavior, pedophilia, or bestiality. And, certainly no innocent child should be exposed to any such immoral behavior.

If a person has lustful thoughts toward any person to whom he/she is not legally and morally married, he/she can certainly avoid sinning by abstaining from sexual activities (or by engaging in monogamous sex with a legal spouse of the opposite sex).

Answer 10

I guess I would call myself a fundamentalist, since I believe the bible is the inerrant Word of God. In response to your question about whether or not I, personally, would support your decision to adop...personally, I do not know you. However, based on your described lifestyle I would not support your decision. God created marriage to be between a man and a woman, for life. One of the reasons He did this was so that the union would provide godly children. Furthermore, homosexuality is a sin. God calls it an abomination. That doesn't mean I think you are a bad person, just that you've chosen a habitually sinful lifestyle. Your choice and your relationship violates God's standard so I could not support you. If we are not living according to God's standards, following God's will for us, then it is difficult, if not impossible for us to raise godly children. Look at what is happening in our society today, with the disintegration of the family, as our society gets farther and farther away from God's standard. I am not trying to say that a heterosexual couple is any less sinful, because all of us have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. But, a heterosexual couple starts with a firmer foundation.

Would I prefer unwanted children to be aborted? Of course not. God is the Author of life and children are a gift given by God. I hope someday to have children of my own and I have no objection to adoption. But why would you think that just because I do not support your decision to adopt would mean that I would support abortion? Both are wrong. My willingness to adopt also does not alter your suitability as an adoptive parent.

I know this isn't what you wanted to hear. We (and I include myself in this) have a tendency to want to create a God who will overlook our sins, whatever they may be. But, it isn't God who needs to conform to our desires. We are the ones who need to conform our desires to God's. God is willing to forgive us because He loves us. God doesn't hate you because of your sin. He loves you despite it. That's why He sent His Son, Jesus Christ to hang on the tree for our sins. We all need Him. All God asks of us is to repent from our sins and put our faith in Christ. Once we do that, He promises that our sins will be forgiven and we will be made new creatures in Christ, given a new heart with new desires.