i dont know what to do?

Question

i just got a job outside the home and i hired a babysitter, mind you my son is only 10 1/2 months old, and everytime he sees her he starts balling. i feel so bad about leaving him here with her because hes used to being with me. and we need the extra money right now because we just did some remodeling to our house other wise i wouldnt be working. my husband and i both want someone to be home with him and not hire someone to watch him. what should i do?

ok first off, i HAD to remodel my house and it was the outside because we had asbestos siding and the shingles were falling off the roof! kind of a necessity when you have a baby dont you think? and other than that i could care less if we did anything else, i dont WANT a job i NEED a job for now, until we get this taken care of.

Answer 1

You could try meeting the sitter at a place away from home and then hand your son off to the sitter there. It will change the routine and maybe make it a little less traumatic.

Answer 2

I would wonder if she is treating him properly. Start looking for another babysitter and before you switch take your son to visit and maybe even leave for just an hour or two and see how it goes.
I had to go back to work when my daughter was 16 months and we gradually got her used to the babysitter before I went back to work. Is there any way you can take a couple of days off to transition to a new sitter?

Answer 3

My son went through this when I picked up a job around the same age your son is. Two things that helped (they may not work for you) I encouraged my son to wave bye bye and understand that mommy was leaving, but she always comes back. Another thing you can try that I saw in Parenting mag, Put on some lipstick in the morning, and give him a kiss on his belly, tell him you'll be back before it comes off...

Answer 4

How sad for your baby that you care more about having a nice remodeled house instead of lavishing you attention on him. I just hope that the babysitter is not abusing your child while you're back at work earning money for YOUR luxuries. He cries for a reason and that's because he wants his mother, NOT a babysitter and designer house.

Answer 5

i am not trying to frighten you, but he may be crying for an altogether different reason........maybe he doesn't like her specifically for a reason.
first thing i would do is get a babysitter cam....
and then look into homebased alternatives; typing at home for lawyers,...or even take in a child yourself to watch.
good luck.

Answer 6

one could work nights and the other one could work days and it also saves on the cost for a babysitter

Answer 7

1] almost all babies that age have separation anxiety, it is normal
2] I assume you either knew this woman or had references
3] say brightly.'Bye! Mommy's got to go work. Love you!', kiss, and leave. Delaying makes it worse.
4] they all get over it.

Answer 8

of course he's going to cry, he's without his mom, guarunteed he stops ccryinng soon after uu leave and has a fun time. he\ll get over itt, he's a baby. of course u feel bad ur leaving ur infant son but its whhat u need to do. dont worry about it.

Answer 9

Hunny, he will be fine. He's just been far too used to you and not strangers because of you staying home. He will stop throwing fits once he gets used to her and knows that she is not there to hurt him. Don't worry. I promise they will BOTH be fine!

Answer 10

uhhh whats more important? the upbringing of you child or the remodel of your house. if i were you i would set up a camera in your house ... you never know who you could really be leaving your child with.