how do you feel about this phrase " wives be submissive to your own husbands?'?

Question

it states in the bible to be submissive to your hubbys , how do you feel about the whole thing? i personally feel good about it, god made it that way and ....i have no problem with being submissive to my hubby i trust and love him very much, i do admitt some men take it to the extreme, but its not suppose to be like that, how do u feel?

Answer 1

This verse is often misunderstood. As in everything to do with scripture, it must be taken in context. It doesn't mean the wife must submit to an abusive, rude, controlling husband. It means, in a Christian marriage, where man and wife are equally yoked, at the end of the day someone has to be the spiritual leader of the house....and that is the man. The verses go on to say that the husband is to love his wife as Christ does the church.

This isn't about being a doormat. It is about God's order in a marriage; that the man is to be the spiritual leader of the household; he tends his family and watches out for them, loves them, guards them. And the wife submits to his leadership. A Godly husband is a gift, and I'm glad you have found this to be true, Rosa.

Answer 2

Disciples were forced to say about the Word by the language and culture of that people. Among those peoples the women was nothing, less than a thing. They couldn't say that the woman was like a man! So they invented a trick. Yes, 'wives must be submissive to your own husbands', but then they add 'and you, husbands you must love your wives as Christ's loved you.....'. OK, the circle is closed, the husbands can't do anything else that to love their women. In other words, both are submissive each other.
At the end I would tell you that in every Apostles letter, you have to throw out the old language and culture, to save only what they teach or advise about the Word of Jesus. So, you could know how to apply the Word in the 2007. Bye.

Answer 3

I've never practiced Christianity but I agree with this phrase. My hubby is the head of our house. I love him and trust him. He listens to my views. Sometimes he doesn't like the role and responsibility but he knows that he has the last say whenever he wants it.

There is only one area where I won't be submissive---my religion. That isn't negotiable. And my work is an area where I'd try to do as he would want but I am the one who has the last say. But in every other area, I enjoy having my hubby (who is also my best friend) as head of our house.

Answer 4

Ancient phrase taken out of content and NOT applicable anymore.
Its been used as a weapon against woman by puny,insecure men who feel the need to be in control.No-one should be submissive to another person-that is not love or respect-that is slavery!
Woman were created equal!( if not slightly better to men!)
(-by the way I am a man.)

Answer 5

As long as I think of it in terms of submission and not blind obedience I'm okay with it. I think of submission as allowing the other person to be the head and myself as the trusted assistant.

As long as he treats me like a queen, I have no problem with having him be the king.

Answer 6

I have no problem with that because the next verse
Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
and this is the way it should be, I love being a housewife and mother, maybe because I am not forced ot do more than I need to, my husband works and then comes home to be with his family and help where it is needed. and we both raise the children yes I do more than than he in that but at least it is me and not a stranger
we all have to be responsible in a relationship to husband even to employer and if you are an employer you have costumers we are all in submission to someone.

Answer 7

Ephesians 5:33 " Nevertheless, each individual among you also is to love his own wife even as himself, and the wife must see to it that she respects her husband"
Love your question.
I have no problem either in being submissive, I'm still working on it, but also keep in mind that women are to be also respectful, I think alot of women forget this.
If men are suppose to love thier wives (unconditional) as Jesus loves the church, then the same goes for wives to (unconditionally) Respect their husbands.
This would reduce the amount of divorces in this world if each man and women did their part in God's requirements.

Answer 8

While we must admit that some men throughout history have pointed to this Scripture verse to justify their fallen desire to dominate women, St Paul is in no way justifying such an attitude. He knows it to be a result of sin (See Gn 3:16), which is why in this passage he's actually restoring God's original plan before wrong doings. He does so by pointing out what marriage was all about in the first place. It was meant to foreshadow the marriage of Christ and the Church (all Christians). St Paul simply draws out the implications of this analogy.

He starts by calling both husbands and wives to "be subjective to one another' out of "reverence for Christ" - out of reverence for the "great mystery" that spouses participate in by imaging Christ’s union with the Church. In analogy, the husband represents Christ, and the wife represents the Church (All Christians). So, he says, as the Church (all Christians) is subject to Christ, so should wives be subject to their husbands.

Another translation uses the word "submission." I like to explain this word as follows. "Sub" means "under," and "mission" means "to be sent forth with the authority to perform a specific service". Wives, then, are called to put themselves under the mission of their husbands.

What's the mission of the husband? "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the Church and gave himself up for her". How did Christ love the Church? He died for her. Christ said he came "not to be served but to serve" and to lay down his life for his Bride

Answer 9

I think the bible (and all other religious texts) were written by males to dominate others - women, children, other races, tribes etc. I don't know that "god" talked to any of them. Anyone can say "god" talked to them.

I don't want to be submissive to anyone and I don't want anyone to be submissive to me.

Answer 10

God made it that way? Do you really think God would want you to be a slave to your husband?

Sorry sweetie, God didn't write the Bible. It was men, mortal men, who lived in a time when it was acceptable to dominate your wife and children. The Bible was written to control Man, and I see it's still doing a fantastic job. If you want to live that way, have a great life.