I am taking in a nephew age: 15 I am going to support him 100% parents cannot. What age appropriate chores/allowance is fair? No other children in the house only me and my husband. He's in high school. I want him to have some chores but not be a slave to the house.
2007-06-12 06:10:29 · 10 answers · asked by ? 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
my parents did this.......our bedrooms were our own....we could be pigs..........just no food or garbage laying around.
We had to respect the other parts of the house. My mom made a list of chores and what they paid........we didn't have to do anything..........but we did of course. We never got Free
money.
2007-06-12 06:35:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing with a 13 year old. We sat down as a family and set down some house rules. We said some, she said some... and we agreed on them together. We also did a chore list, but my hubby and I had our fair share too. The 13 year old had to come home from school (mon-fri) and do her chores (she got an allowance of $15 a week), and after wards she had to either work on her homework for an hour or read a book for a half hour (no TV during this time). We switched chores every Sunday night. If she broke one of the house rules or didn't do her chores then she would have to go to school 1 day out of the week without wearing makeup (to a teenage girl that's the worst).. it seemed to work for us. Let me know if this helped.
2007-06-12 13:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My children are 12, 10, 5, 1, and newborn.
My 12 year old cleans the kitchen.
My 10 year old feeds the pets and takes out the trash.
My 5 year old sweeps the floor.
All of them are responsible for keeping their rooms clean and cleaning up after themselves (except the newborn!).
I give them an allowance as follows:
12 = $10 per week; 10 = $8 per week; 5 = $5 per week.
If they do not complete their chores, the do not get their allowance. But it should be said that I help each of them with their chores, they do not go it alone.
2007-06-12 13:33:16 · answer #3 · answered by Trina B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard the term work together.
You all have house chores and should not single out one person.
Work together example is clean,dust, wax living room. Do the lawn together. Weekly tidy up of bed room. Don't forget play time as well.
Find something to play together. Doesn't really matter what it is.
Families that work together and play together, stay together.
Allowance well talk about that. Probably 12-15 dollars is good. Give him the option of working for more. He also has to get a feeling for the value of money. It does not grow on any of my trees here.
2007-06-12 13:24:12 · answer #4 · answered by connie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about holding off on chores?
He will have enough adjustment to deal with, including a new environments, new parents (you), and new house. Give him some time to get adjusted.
Then, how about ask him to be an active member of the family by telling him to help you with the house work 1 hours a day? That could be clean the house, do dishes, set dinner table, etc.
As to allowance, I'd start by setting it equal to what he is used to getting and go from there. You can increase it or decrease it based on his contribution to the family.
2007-06-12 13:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say $10-15 per week is reasonable. chores could include taking out trash, empty dishwasher (or help with dishes if you don't have a dishwasher), keep his room clean, take care of a pet (feed, make sure they have water, etc.- if you have one), helping with laundry, maybe once a week he has to dust or vacuum- I am not saying he has to do all these things but I think it gives you a pretty good range. also, at 15- ask him what he thinks is fair, get his input, maybe he has certain chores he likes?
I also want to say that I commend you on taking on this responsibility.
2007-06-12 13:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by Shar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole 'chores' idea seems a pretty american thing to me
over ehre we dont have set chores really
i tidy my room daily and clean the kitchen or empty the dish washer if my mum needs help and vac my room and stuff
i dont get a weekly allowance, but if im going out somewhere my mum will probably give me a tenner or something
its a house, not a workplace
2007-06-12 13:38:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
. you are wonderful for doing this. you should get some professional help because you are all going through something difficult and unusual, especially the kid, but all of you need support. I am in a somewhat similar circumstance although the child is younger. You are wise to look to people with teenagers to know what kind of limits to set and expectations for him to meet. I think allowance depends a lot on what you expect him to need to pay for on his own with the allowance. It also depends on where you live. If the money is just for his own enjoyment -- buying himself unnecessary things that he just "wants" then it should be a lot less than if you expect him to use his allowance any time he wants money -- entertainment, presents, dates, extras of all kinds, things you don't think he needs enough to buy for him, etc. My daughter is 17 and she gets $30 a week and she has to buy everything she wants that isn't related to school. It seems like a lot at first but, I don't pay for her to go out with he friends at all, or for clothes, or for presents for her friends, or for any of her fun times. She is very good with money and doesn't really spend it frivolously. some of the money you give him could be tied to chores and some could not. he could have a choice about doing some chores but some should be expected with out compensating him at all. Something related to eating is any easy one -- either unloading the dishwasher or washing the dishes, or even setting the tabel. he should do his own laundry. he should make his own lunches. most of his chores should be of the kind that relieve you of having to do things for him. he should be being taught to do as much for himslef as he can and at 15, that's a lot of things. Be sure to give him lots of positive feedback and lots of support and love.
2007-06-12 13:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is how we handle things with my 12 year old. First I do not believe in just giving a child money. If my daughter has a NEED it is my responsibility to meet it. In return she has certain responsibilities aroudn the house-i.e. her room, the dishes, etc. Anythign above and beyond what is HERS to take care of I am willing to pay her for. If I had to hire a cleaner to come in I would have to pay them. I would rather see my daughter earn the money and learn to manage it.
2007-06-12 13:18:07 · answer #9 · answered by Betsy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cleaning his room at least once a week. Teach him how to do laundry (believe me, he'll need to know how at some point in time lol), dishes (loading or unloading), helping in the garden, mowing the lawn.
You don't have to make him do all of those but, choose a few. Nothing too harsh to do to a kid his age.
2007-06-12 13:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Harley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋