I have a quuestion about pornography and sin?

Question

I am a very Christian person but sometimes I have these urges to look at porn. After I masterbate I feel horrible and wonder why I did it. I do not like people that look at porn often and I feel as if I am turning into a bad person. I need a hobby or something to take my mind off porn, any ideas? I want to change and get rid of this addition. PLEASE HELP.

Answer 1

Honey, you are a normal teenage boy. Don't mess your head up with all this guilt and stuff. All young men do this. It's one of the rites of passage. Guilt over this kind of thing separates us from God more than the "sin" itself. So stop feeling guilty. You're just normal.

Answer 2

First let me applaud you for admiting you have a problem.
The answer is simple.
If sin was not fun, people would not commit them.
Your guilt tells me you feel conviction and that with the Word of God will be a great weapon the defeat these urges. The devil knows your weaknesses and will use them at the moments when you are weak. Pay attention. Men and Womens brains are different... very different. Men may not always remember dates, names, ect, but Images that are seen will forever be etched in our minds. The solution is to pray(to) and protect our eyes.
Read your bible instead of the porn books.
Stay Strong.
I am apauled at some of the other answers you are recieving.
I will pray for your situation, and then both of us can pray for some of the others who answered your question.

Answer 3

Do you like people who look at porn not so often? If you are occasionally looking or looking daily, your still looking and should not judge others until you have your "problem" under control. Personally I don't think looking at porn makes you a bad person unless your looking at kiddie porn. Then you have a real problem. Hope someone's answer helps you with your dilemma.

Answer 4

Your not alone, every guy has this problem, even the most holy people. Mind you it's still not right. This is my daily struggle to keep my mind on the Godly things. the biggest prblem for me is myspace. all the advertisements, it's horrible. Try this though, i've noticed if i'm not reading my Bible daily that opens a door for the enemy, make sure you read your word daily. Also if you are able to listen to music while working or if your just at home, try finding a worship cd that is your style. In my cas i like a little rock and a little praise so i listen to teams like Hillsong United and New Life Worship, both very good worship teams. And keep your focus on God, think about how much you love Him, how much you want to praise Him. The Bible tells us to stay in a constant prayer, this sounds hard but it's really not. You don't have to close your eyes to pray so you can still do the things that you want. Try these things and see how they help.

Answer 5

You've imprinted "Computer" with porno ... I would recomend that you spend less time on the computer. Should the computer be used only for your leisure activities, I would give up the computer for 40 days all together. If you can't ditch the computer get an accountability friend and sign up with:

http://xxxchurch.com/07/
http://www.sexaa.org/
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So, replacement ... exercise takes care of the testosterone that's behind masterbating. I would recomend a short walk/run everytime you feel the urge. It doesn't have to be much, but just leaving the house should help. Find activities you used to do like tennis, hike, swim, soft-ball team, weigh lifting ... these all help balance u out.

Answer 6

Looking at porn is very addictive, but it is also a choice. It may be hard to avoid and if your finding it on the web, put a filter on your computer.
Jesus said that "if you look at a woman to lust after her, you've committed adultery". It is almost impossible to be a Christian when you're living in sin. Yes, God will forgive you, but when asking his forgiveness, He expects you to change your ways and live a life pleasing to Him.
If your struggling with this problem, when the urge hits you, read your BIBLE.

Answer 7

You are perfectly normal. Looking at porn and masturbating are just part of growing up for a guy, and the best form of sexual interaction for you at this point in time.
The fact that you are ashamed of this action is why christianity and most organized religions have become too twisted and disturbed to connect with reality. Why should you be ashamed of something that is as natural as wanting to dance to music?
Are you really addicted? Probably not-you can only be addicted if it's interfering with your ability to maintain healthy friendships, interferes with school/work, or you can't stop doing it.
Don't worry, the phase will pass. Being a guy you'll always want to check out some porn every so often, but as you get older and move on to the next level of sexuality you'll wonder why you didn't get there sooner.

Answer 8

Doesn't sound like you're addicted. Not unless you're doing it several times a day. It's OK unless the porn is of individuals who can't consent such as kids or animals.

I'm an atheist but as far as I know Christianity doesn't say anything about porn. Or masturbation, come to that; the parable of Onan relates to a bloke who spilled some seeds on the ground, not his own spunk.

You'll have little need for porn once you get a girlfriend. Have you tried that yet?

Answer 9

Matthew 5:28 tells us that if we even LOOK at another with lust in our hearts, we have committed adultery.

I doubt you are turning into a bad person, and I doubt that you are the only Christian who is having this kind of problem. The first thing you need to do is rid yourself of the temptation. When Jesus said "If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell. And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell." (Matthew 5:29-30), He did not mean to literally gouge out your eye or cut off your hand. He meant that if you KNOW something is going to tempt you to sin, AVOID that. You know you have a problem with porn, so put a block on the computer (and the porn channels on your tv if you have cable), stay away from the porn movie section in video stores, the porn shops, etc. Unfortunately, in this society, sex sells. Pray and ask God to give you the strength you need. TURN THE CHANNEL when something like a Victoria's Secret commercial comes on, and TURN YOUR HEAD when you see a half naked woman walking down the street or in a thong on the beach. YOU have to do your part and take active steps to overcome this addiction. (And porn IS an addiction, just like alcohol or drugs, contrary to popular belief.) Some people will tell you it's natural - maybe so, but CHRISTIANS aren't supposed to live in the "flesh / natural" - we are supposed to follow the promptings of the Holy Spirit. God is NOT going to guide you down the road of pornography. We are in this world but we are not OF this world.

Some churches have small study groups and may have support groups to help you overcome this addiction. You may also need counseling to help - but most of all, you will need GOD'S help. Keep your focus on Him. CHOOSE to change your thoughts when wrong thoughts enter your mind. Satan is looking for any foothold he can get (1 Peter 5:8) - YOU have to refuse to give him one. God be with you...trust HIM.

Answer 10

You're a guy with a penis and a sex drive. If you don't have sex every day, you're going to want to masturbate. I don't expect you to believe this, because you're obviously pretty deeply enmeshed in the whole "Christian" guilt-complex, but there is absolutely nothing wrong with getting yourself off. Porn is just an aid in this endeavor...lol. None of it makes you a "bad person" - it just makes you an ordinary human being.

Everybody else seems to be rushing to assure you that it's "Satan" who's making you look at porn. And I'm sure they're the ones you'll listen to, but that's just too bad. Do you really believe these two supernatural Beings, God and Satan, are battling it out over whether or not you perform a biological function? Can't you see how ridiculous and absurd this idea is?

Answer 11

You're in for a tough ride. Once exposed to it, porn takes seed and the roots run deep. You'll spend years trying to justify it and rationalize it. It would be better if you had never been introduced to it at all, but that's nigh impossible in today's world. Pray a lot, do your best to avoid temptation, and find something you enjoy to occupy your mind and your time. Not knowing what you enjoy doing it would be difficult for me to advise you what to do. Me? I play video games and answer questions here.