Am I wrong for thinking this?

Question

My "Christian" sister-in-law once told me that my kids were bastards. I couldn't say a word, I was shocked and very angry. She noticed my discomfort and proceeded to explain that God says any children born to unwed parents are in his eyes bastards. Now I'd rather spit on her than look at her. I love my kid's, and yes their mother and I are still together, and I don't think anyone has the right to label them for the choices their parents made. I believe that everyone should have their own opinion, but use common sense when speaking. She does and says a lot of things that way. My brother and I get along great,and even he will step in and interrupt her when she's on one of her rants. I was raised Catholic, went to Catholic elementary school, went to church twice a week with school,and on Sundays with my grand-parents, I know I'm supposed to forgive her, but I find it hard to. I would hit any guy if he said the same thing.

Answer 1

god this god that.. blahblah blah!

Answer 2

Dictionary.com Unabridged (v 1.1) - Cite This Source
bas·tard /ˈbæstərd/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[bas-terd] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun
1. a person born of unmarried parents; an illegitimate child.

It's a horrible sounding word and people have turned it into a curse word and a put down, especially in years passed, now everyone is living together and so the definition is still the same but the word still sound horrible.....and people need to get over it, I'm Christian , and it's not my place to judge, and it wasn't hers either, God put your children here for a reason....I know it is hard to forgive people when they hurt you especially about your children, but you can forgive her and the anger will go away and you want have to think about her any more, and let God take care of her.Vengeance is mine saith the Lord. God bless you and your family.

Answer 3

Your sister sounds like she has a real case of foot in mouth disease. It is a shame that she can't put her religious theories aside and feels the need to label her niece and nephew. My sister is like that sometimes too.

You have one of two choices, let the bad blood between you two continue until she is no longer a welcome person in your life, or explain to her that she is hurting your relationship as brother and sister. Your sister was extremely insensitive to your feelings, but she may not believe she has done anything wrong. Forgive her, but be clear to her about your feelings in this matter. If she continues, then she has made clear that she doesn't care about your or your feelings, and you know where you stand.

I hope all goes well.

Answer 4

I don't know why anyone would say something like that. I am a christian and believe whole heartily in Gods word, but what she did was wrong. As hard as it is, you need to forgive her, but you need to let her know how much that hurt you, and that God would never have her speak of children in that manner. All children are precious to God, I don't care how or where they came from.

Answer 5

I'm not sure calling your kids that was the best way to try to help you, (and I'm pretty sure that's what she's doing) but you still need to forgive her. Apparently she's been convicted to talk to you about your marital status.
Your right, kids aren't responsible for the choices their parents make, but maybe God is trying to tell you something. I'm not sure exactly what...but maybe you should just work on loving and forgiving her first..

Answer 6

Just remember no matter what anyone says, God loves your children and considers them precious. Sometimes people get so "caught up" in the "law" that they forget that Jesus routinely questioned the law himself when he felt that it did not serve the nature of God.

Try to forgive your sister in law. It sounds to me as though she is either very uneducated (in religion) or very bitter. When you try to understand what makes a person tick..it makes it easier to forgive poor behaviour.

If you don't mind me asking, if you and their mother are still together, what is stopping you from marrying her?

Answer 7

My mother and father were not married and never did marry and I have a great-aunt and uncle who will walk by me on the street before they acknowledge my exsistance. They will talk to me at family functions, but that's as far as it goes. I think it is horrible for someone to say something like that about your children. What matters is that you and your children's mother love each other and made your children out of love and respect. God knows you love each other and your children and THAT'S what matters.

Answer 8

Her: "Any children born to unwed parents are bastards."
You: "Maybe. But I know that 'female dog' is not the only definition for b****"

Answer 9

i know this may sound hard to forgive, i would be pissed off if anyone spoke about my wife or kids too, but the Word said to pray for those who curse us... just follow the Word and ask Jesus to give u strength, by your faith she will change

Answer 10

i think you are totally right. people have every right to believe what they want but that does not mean they can force it on others, especially when it hurts them. the best thing you can do is forgive her, dont let it bother you. if you are happy and you know what is right, that is all that matters.

Answer 11

Why talk about what a good Catholic you are when you had children out of wedlock? It doesn't sound like you are a very good Catholic at all. Why did you continue to have the children without marriage? I am sorry but, the technical term is correct. I am sure your children are beautiful but, it was not her that named them it was you when you decided to have them out of wedlock.