he didnt talk to me for a week, but now hes calling me and texting me. i dont understand why..
2007-06-12 04:45:19 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He needs you until he can find someone else again?
Maybe it's because you do lots of Kegal exercises?
2007-06-12 04:47:59 · answer #1 · answered by mes210 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Simply? Because he CAN.
You have somehow set the precedent that he CAN come and go as he pleases. You've made it okay to step in...step out...walk in...walk out.
You've told him that it doesn't matter what YOU want for yourself and that what HE wants matters more to you than YOU mean to your own self.
Bottom line? You teach people how to treat you. And with this guy, just like you've taught him to that it's okay to take you for granted, that it's okay to use you, that it's okay to treat you like you're only important when he says...you can UNteach that.
The first way to do that is by just SAYING NO. Even if you HAVE free time, you TELL him that you don't have time for HIM. Stick up for yourself. Let him know that YOUR life is about YOU and what makes YOU happy.
And finally, STOP being AVAILABLE to him altogether. The fact that he CAN still come around means that you're not over him yet. Until you get him out of your system, spend as little time with the opposite sex as possible.
Instead, take advantage of your free time and use it reflect on this past relationship and what you can do differently in the future to ensure that you are no longer used as a revolving door (emotionally, physically, psychologically-- whatver applies). Learn who YOU are and what YOUR rules are and then you'll be prepared, able, all too happy and empowered to say no to people who don't mean you any good.
Been here...done this...will never go back to any place that resembles the place you're in right now.
...hope this helps some.
-Faith
2007-06-12 05:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by Faith 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have a yoyo relationship where he knows there is a revolving door that allows him to go out and go in. He only does this because you have allowed him to do so by taking him back so easily. He is getting a payback of some kind for breaking up and then coming back, and you are giving it to him. People do what works for them just as a pouting child throws a tantrum to get what they want, so does your guy. Think about this and maybe the next time he breaks up you will not make it so easy for him to come back.
2007-06-12 04:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is scared of his feelings for you. I broke up with my husband about 5 times in 2 months. It wasn't because I didn't love him and want to be with him. It was because I was scared of getting hurt again. Good thing for me he was patient and took me back every time! Give him a chance! Unless he was a real jerk when you are together, there could be more to what's going on than meets the eye.
2007-06-12 04:50:47 · answer #4 · answered by Laura H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, He misses maybe something the two of you had together. But if he is an EX. I am guessing it is for a reason. Maybe communicate with him and ask him why he stopped talking to you and now he is wanting to. Communication is the key to a good strong relationship.
2007-06-12 04:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by MysteriouslyMisty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want u to forget him. He thinks u will always be there for him. I have 1 like that, but i fooled him. i broke up with him for a month i cried all out. It changed my whole new out look so i don't really love him anymore but we have great sex & he's alot better to me now. i've been in love with him since 1996. Didn't see him from 99 until jan 07. i prayed alot & i found my answers from GOD & my inter voice.
I also have a journal that i write my feelings out
2007-06-12 04:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by texasstar1974 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happened to my really good friend....she went out with someone who ignored her for like a week until she broke up with him...he then experimented with other people but kept coming back. Its because he Had a connection with you that was comfortable and safe so he sees you as his safety zone. But you can't let him come back cause he'll keep doing it. Just finally finish it for good even if it means you never see him again....trust me i helped my friend with this. He'll keep messing you about and you don't deserve that so get rid. hope it helps
2007-06-12 04:52:41 · answer #7 · answered by Mat 105 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He comes back to you because you let him and give him what he wants. When eh thinks he has found something better we will leave and do it all over again. He is a dog and should be treated like one.
2007-06-12 04:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by rdneckride 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm, sounds like he wants you back, or then he feels lonely from your breakup and you're the only he has.
You broke up with him for a reason, don't fall for him.
Just ask him, and remind him you only want to be friends.
Goodluck ^^
2007-06-12 05:30:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he is big looser and he does not respect or really like you. He is frickin using you, your a booty call, your begging absuse for even allowing this. Tell him to stay or get out... Have some self respect will you...
2007-06-12 04:51:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋