i had a medical condition which caused me to balloon in size a few years back. ive now lost the weight but have been left with strechmarks and a few wobbly bits! im told im pretty but im scared that when it comes time to do the deed the guy im seeing will be put off! how superficial are men?
2007-06-12 04:37:15 · 38 answers · asked by pinkchick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Any guy that won't love you for YOU...is no guy deserving enough of a beautiful person such as yourself!! Be yourself and I'm sure guys will fall head over heels for you!! Good luck and have fun!!
2007-06-12 04:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
And your point is? I've heard this argument before, and it's laughable, because the kind of guys you're hating on are the ones that EVERYONE seems to be after. Meanwhile, the nice, ordinary-looking guys are making the best of being single and maybe resigning themselves to a life of being alone, because they'd prefer it over the b!tchiness of queens making nasty comments about them because they DON'T spend eight hours in the gym, have washboard abs, 21" biceps or 70" chest spans, with a teeny-tiny 30" waist. You want to really make a difference? Start obsessing less over the "gym rats" and pay more attention to the "average" gay men. I'm not saying you have to date Bruce Vilanch, but how about just a nice guy whose figure may be slightly "less than Greek" as the song says?
2016-05-18 01:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - the ones who are worth your time are not that shallow. The ones who are, don't realize what they're missing. I'm a size 16/18 and none of my boyfriends have seemed to mind it. I think as long as you're confident with how you look, and hold yourself like you're proud of it, they can't help but see you as anything else but beautiful. If you're worried about the first time, CANDLES ARE FABULOUS!!! :) Men are very visual, so he will probably enjoy seeing you more than being in the dark, but the candleight has a tendency to soften things, and you'll feel more comfortable. Put some candles in your bathroom, get nekkid and take a look at yourself. Pretty, isn't she?
2007-06-12 04:46:52 · answer #3 · answered by simplykrystie333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think women think that men are obsessed by the body perfect, but they are not. Or at least mature men aren't. If your man cares about you he isn't going to be put off by some "wobbly bits".
He is probably worrying about the whole size and performance issue anyway!!
2007-06-16 03:16:47 · answer #4 · answered by Dirty Blonde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, I think it is us women that are more obsessed with our wobbly bits than they are! We are always bombarded with the thin celebrities but, trust me, not all of them are perfect! Even Pamela Anderson has stretch marks! (I have seen the photographic evidence!) Trust me, when the right guy comes along, he will adore your body no matter what and I can assure you, he will be looking at the parts he likes rather than obsessing about your stretchmarks and wobbly bits! Well done on losing the weight though, we all know how hard that can be! x
2007-06-12 05:24:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man is different. The changes in a woman's life can and will affect her weight. Though dieting and exercise is always a good plus, never date someone for superficial reasons. If a man can't see past the posterior including stretch marks and love handles, then you don't need him. Move on to someone who will encourage you and love you no matter if you are 5 pounds heavier or 10 pounds lighter (and vice versa)
2007-06-12 04:48:19 · answer #6 · answered by misspuryear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys may prefer a woman who looks like Beyonce or Paris Hilton, but how many women do? How many guys are the male equivalent? If a guys digs you he's not gonna run screaming at a few stretchmarks. Give the guy some credit.
2007-06-12 11:26:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men aren't superficial - some men are. Chances are he'll be too busy worrying about what you think of his body to be overly critical of yours.
If he cares about you and the passion is running high then whatever flaws you have and whatever flaws he has will not even make it into the top 1000 in the importance charts.
2007-06-12 04:44:15 · answer #8 · answered by Nexus6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first of all... congratulation!!! u hv ur weigh down!!!(this is many gals and guy wish to be ;-))
how to say, hmm... 1st of all there is nothing to blame right? its not ur fault to be ballooned, and the effect after the weight down is still better than ballooned, hehe.
but, not only guy, i would said human r animal that will go after the BEAUTIFUL things. ppl will get the 1st impression by the outlook which can decide if the thing is good or not, at least the outlook.
but remember what i just told? "human r animal that will go after the BEAUTIFUL things" ofcoz it include the inner beauty that i would said every1 have.
well it still depend on wat type of person he/she is. im afraid coz there are some perfectionist out there.
dun worry be ur self with confident!!!
2007-06-12 05:03:52 · answer #9 · answered by Kordal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, guys in general are not obsessed with the perfect body. Of course there are some exceptions and those should not be considered real men. It seems that you are the one who is obsessed with it. Let it go. Be you. Wobbly bits can be lots of fun!!!
2007-06-12 04:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Brent 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
All men are different. Just get on with things, and if a guy doesn't like it, **** it, it's their problem for being superficial, not yours.
Stretch marks and wobbly bits are no big deal anyway. Everyones body is different and guys will love you for it.
2007-06-12 04:42:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋