my ex bf beat me up which is how i met the police man. hes been round a few of times for different reasons. hes seperated from his wife and im pretty sure he likes me, he says stuff like youve got muscey arms and i wouldnt complain if you had no clothes on, i think hes flirting with me. well today he has been round but hes not anymore as there is no need. how can i tell him i like him when all i know is the station he works at and which school is children go to. xxx
2007-06-12 03:16:08 · 15 answers · asked by princess 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry hes divorced and im not fresh out of a relationship. ive been single for 10 month s
2007-06-12 03:27:14 · update #1
Pretty much the same as you would any other guy.
In this case, I think I'd leave a sealed message for him at his precinct asking him to call or drop by to see you. Tell him you'd like to get to know him better socially and that you greatly appreciated his help.
From there, the ball is in his court.
Doc
2007-06-12 03:23:10 · answer #1 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'd be a little careful. The comments he's made are incredibly innapropriate to make to someone who's just come out of an abusive relationship. This could be a red flag to show that he could be the type to abuse or control a woman. It could also be that he is trying to take advantage of your vulnerability to get an easy lay. Policemen are human men. Sometimes they do sleazy stuff as well. Plus you say that he's seperated, but how do you know? I've had men tell me that before, only to find out that all they wanted was a piece of a**.
It could also be that he was just trying to get you to feel better. Relax. He knows where you live & how to get in contact with you. If he wanted to date you, he'd come & get you. Chasing after him may give you the opposite result.
I'd wait at least 4-5 months before dating anyone else at all. You are at a very vulnerable place right now, & you need to straighten up your own life before you start trying to get involved with anyone else's.
2007-06-12 03:38:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not gonna want to hear this but I'm gonna say it anyway.....If he told you that he wouldn't complain if you had no clothes on then yes he is flirting with you.....But the thing you should worry about is how many other women/girls is he saying this to....Don't confuse yourself and make yourself think that he is only flirting with you.
Furthermore the way he talks to women may be the reason he is single, if he really is single....Do you know for a fact that he is single or is this just what he has told you?
Your on the rebound.....Think long and hard about it before you get hurt twice.
2007-06-12 03:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Karen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Considering your use of the English language I have to think that perhaps he's just being nice. If he actually said he would not mind if you had no clothes on he could loose his job. If the man is still married you should stay away from him. Also, just because he is a police officer it does not mean he is a good guy to be with - some of them are very controlling and abusive.
2007-06-12 03:24:32 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not call him up and tell him how much you appreciate him being on call when he settle your problem with your ex. Ask him if you can buy him lunch for his help and then take it from there. Believe me, cops lives are mostly surrounded by their job. Asking him out would probably be a blessing for him since he is separated from his wife. If he doesn't respond, then maybe he is trying to make his marriage work out. Either way, give it a try, what do you have to lose?
2007-06-12 03:28:44 · answer #5 · answered by God Bless America 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, first you need to make sure he is separated and then find out who left who and why if it is possible. He sounds like a player. You should tell him you like him simply by asking him out on a date. What kind of relationship are you looking for? That should determine what would be appropriate for your first date. Send him an invitation and make it as steamy as you want. Good Luck
2007-06-12 03:30:18 · answer #6 · answered by T E 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure in the heat of you feeling bad and needing attention you didn't misconstrude his kind jestures to make you smile as him trying to come on to you.
sometimes when a guy police man, postal worker, military stud, etc.. see's a woman that has been beaten up, he wants to swoop in and let her know all guys are not like that, and sometimes even drop her compliments, but that doesnt always mean hes trying to get with you. what if he wasnt , wouldnt that be embrassing
2007-06-12 03:20:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Policemen are just people like you and me. The bigger problems are: He's not single, just "separated" and it was inapropriate for him to say he wouldn't mind if you were naked, and you are fresh out of a bad relationship. think it over hard before you contact him, good luck to you.
2007-06-12 03:24:06 · answer #8 · answered by Paula T 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
"I wouldn't complain if you had no cloths on"
He must be a winner. What a pick-up line and you said he's separated from his wife? You might want to find someone else
2007-06-12 03:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Commit a felony and ask him to arrest you.
2007-06-12 03:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋