I always seem to meet guys that have not got over their ex's or have completely mentally scared them for life!! We meet up and we go out then a few dates later its usually i have got back with my ex or i am not ready for a relationship. I am beginning to wonder if its something to do with me?? and will i ever meet a guy that is over his ex i am 27 and it keeps happening!!
2007-06-12 03:14:56 · 30 answers · asked by british gurly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
these are older guys 29-39 i don't date anyone younger than myself!!!
2007-06-12 03:20:28 · update #1
i do date guys with different interests i am not set on 1 type of guy
2007-06-12 03:25:32 · update #2
Just stay with it girl you will meet someone that really wants to be in a relationship . Yeah it has happened to all of us . Good luck and dont give up.
2007-06-12 03:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 20 and I know this might not be worth much since im younger but every guy I have ever dated has been some kind of lunatic. Sadly guys are just weird and they always will be but just keep trying there is someone out there for you. I have had similar relationships where guys just talk about their ex and or they are just plain crazy so I have just left it to God to bring along the irhgt person in my life. You are still very young and im sure someone will come along thats perfect for you. Dont ever feel like theres anything wrong with you. Best of Luck.
2007-06-12 03:28:53 · answer #2 · answered by pony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am like the guys. I am scared from my ex and I have major trust issues. But I dont use that as an excuse to not find someone that will make me happy.
I would suggest the next guy you meet and get to know. Find out a little about his past. But dont be tooo nosey!!! If he had a bad break up or seems like he may still have feelings for his ex then RUN!!! Oh and if he is still friends with is ex...
2007-06-12 03:20:59 · answer #3 · answered by MonaLisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 29 and I haven't met a guy that has been over an ex. They are always damaged goods. The cool thing is I got very tired of going out with men and them bringing up exes that the minute a guy I go out with starts to talk about an ex I start looking around and yawning like I'm bored. That makes them shut up. I don't get it either all of us women have been in relationships that we had to get over curious to see what the guys say.
2007-06-12 03:20:43 · answer #4 · answered by Venus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My last boyfriend had an ex who completely broke his heart. Three months after they broke up he still wasn’t alright and that’s when we started seeing each other. It was very difficult seeing as it was my first serious relationship and he came with a lot of baggage. I know what you’re saying when you say mentally scarred for life- believe me. I knew he was still thinking about her and that sucked for me, he even called me her name a few times-ouch I know, but I let it slip. If you stick with it for a little while, time heals everything. Almost everyone has an ex, its just people use different ways of dealing with their loss. Some talk about it, some don’t. Some drink it away, some do drugs,some just bury it, some cry for the rest of their lives and others just continuously try to get it back. Its up to you and your new boyfriend to put it in the past, and you should try to help him with that to avoid your same relationship pattern over and over again. Good Luck.
2007-06-12 03:24:45 · answer #5 · answered by LilMiss143 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im in the opposite situation to you just now. I just split from my girlfriend and i have been out a few times with this girl who i like but i feel like its too soon to be having feelings for someone else and i wonder if they are real feelings or is it jsut because iam in a needy place just now and this is why iam craving this girls company.
My advice is to stay away from guys who are still hurting they cant commit, not properly and do you really want to be with someone who's mind is not completely on you? I have told the girl the same thing this morning and she was upset but appreciated my honesty at least you can be thankful they gave you that and didnt string you along for a few months and then hurt you properly.
Hope this helps
You'll find someone chic
x
2007-06-12 03:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mark C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just goes to show that these men are not able to get over being hurt by someone they have loved and it is good that they have the sensitivity to tell you and not lead you on. It must be very hard today finding a man who hasn't been through this sort of thing by the time they get in their late twenties early 30s. But you must have just been unlucky in not finding one who is over it and ready to move on. Better to have one that has had some experience of life, than one who has lived with his mum into his late 20s!!!
2007-06-12 03:39:26 · answer #7 · answered by Normsgirll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you will. It may take time, but you will. Often a person still grieving over their ex just goes out with people for a shoulder or to try to get over them, but it just gets worse. I would not go out with these people. There are a lot of great single in their right mind guys at church. Best of luck!
2007-06-12 03:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by kammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 13:47:48 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol this is a funny question. I hate to tell you but it might just be you. People usually go for "their type" and guys that might be your type have emotional issues. Maybe you should go outside of your comfort level and date someone who has different interests. You might find that those people you are the most compatible with and they don't have as much excess drama.
2007-06-12 03:21:08 · answer #10 · answered by ~Sophistication~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋