My boyfriend and I broke up a year ago after 5 years together. He dumped me for some girl he works with. I was so hurt and cried for 8 months. I was finally moving on when he contacted me to tell how much he misses me and how much I still turn him on and he wants to get together to... you know, but he's still with this other girl!! They live together. I don't know what to think. I still love him so much. If his relationship with his new girl was so great, he wouldn't be willing to risk their relationship to mess around with me, right?? Now I'm sad again and I don't know what to think. I want to be with him again so badly, but is he just using me or could he have relized he made a mistake??
2007-06-12 03:14:43 · 19 answers · asked by Kat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he sounds like he's just using you sweetie - stay far, far away. if he wanted to be with you, he would have dumped this other ho-bag and came running back to your arms rather than just suggesting you sleep together. i know that you love him and care about him, but he is treating you like sh*t. you should be ANGRY that he would even have the audacity to do that to you. don't let him get into a place where he can hurt you again.
2007-06-12 03:18:28 · answer #1 · answered by SarahS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once bitten twice shy! I hope you have heard that before. If he moved away from you it would have not happened just - since you told you broke up with him after 5 years together. And remember you cried for 8 months and it showed how much you were hurt. I dont think you will like to get hurt yourself again. Still I dont understand it took 8 months for him to miss you or to say how much you turn him on or realize the big mistake he made
2007-06-12 10:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by lankaman7777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, there's a chance that he realizes he made a mistake. A small chance. But there's a bigger chance that you are about to be used. Tell him you will consider that offer if his new girl tells you to your face that they are through. Otherwise, No. Do you like the idea of another girl crying over someone for 8 months? You say you were starting to move on. There's a reason for that. Live learn, and trust your brain as well as your heart. You wouldn't have to ask if you had no doubts about this man.
2007-06-12 10:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by Neescousin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't going to be what you want to hear, but maybe what you need to hear:
Maybe he does realize he made a mistake, but past behavior is the greatest predictor of future behavior, so he will probably make that same "mistake" again. Especially if you take him back, he will feel he can take advantage of you always going to take him back. Not to say people can't change, its just highly unlikely. Find someone who will be true & you can trust. You don't want to always be worring about that next girl at work or whatever. Good luck
2007-06-12 10:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by KP 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen the same thing happened to me and I took this guy back knowing that the girl was still in the picture and got my heart broken. If there's another woman involved then u should know that's not a good sign. If he is sincere then he'll make a better effort to be with u. Meaning not being near this girl and getting rid of her in his life. He's either bored with her or wants more than one woman in his life, but when he mess around with you he'll be back with her. I hope this advice helps u.
2007-06-12 10:26:07 · answer #5 · answered by blue_ocean66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you. Do not go back to him, he doesn't deserve a second chance. Find someone who appreciates you and won't use you. the same thing happened to me and i told my ex that that she had her chance, that she decided to move on, and I will too. Dont make the mistake of thinking hes changed, hes not doing it for you, hes doing it for himself. If you were smart, you wouldn't make the same mistake twice, no matter how tempting it is.
2007-06-12 10:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Tony T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting two for the price of one, he's using your mixed emotions against you. I saw that you wrote that he wouldn't jeopordize his relationship to be with you. However, you need to realize he is in a no lose situation. If his girlfriend finds out, he still gets some from you. If he hated her, he'd leave and be with you.
2007-06-12 10:22:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jose L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you. Now that he is living with the new girl, he sees you as something fun. Forget him and move on. Change your number and date others. You definitely DO NOT want to be with him.
2007-06-12 10:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by SG GAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he didn't make a mistake sweetheart, he just wants to have you as a booty call... he is trying to be sweet and tell you that he misses you just so u two can hook up and have sex... forget about him and find yourself someone else to satisfy you... don't be an idiot and hang out with becasue then your going to catch more feelings fro him again and you going to nd up being hurt again... dont waist your time on him... trust me... been there, done that... there is nothing but pain there... leave it alone
2007-06-12 11:12:53 · answer #9 · answered by D Foreal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from my experience i say stay away..and the thing is he is still withthis girl..he got some nerves talking all that ****,,please change your number and move on or tell him stop calling you..he hasnt changed or is not willing to..and he dumped you for this girl..it hurts like hell..i know trust me .i know
2007-06-12 10:33:06 · answer #10 · answered by jessica s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋