i am this long distance relationship and he is 6 yrs older than me. im not ready for sex but he is and he really respects that im not and im glad cuz not many guys do. (i get to see him on the weekends) but everynow and then when he is just dyin to have sex he will break up with me just for the week or a little longer. then when he is done with his wild week we will start goin back out. (im just glad he does that instead of cheatin on me when he wants to.) what should i do? should i stay with him or next time he breaks up with me leave him for good?
2007-06-12 03:11:28 · 14 answers · asked by STiLL<3HiM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he rarely does that but still i am not goin to be ready for sex for a long time and i dont want him to just keep on doin that till i am ready.
2007-06-12 03:29:09 · update #1
Whats the difference between him breaking up with you for a week so he can sleep with some other girls then getting back with you and just cheating on you. Leave him.
2007-06-12 03:15:23 · answer #1 · answered by Professor Chaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you find someone your own age? It would be a much better situation for you to be in.
It's crazy to have a boyfriend that you don't have a relationship with. And I'm sorry, but you don't have a relationship if he breaks up with you every time he wants to have sex with someone.
It's wonderful that you aren't having sex when you aren't ready. Kudos to you for being strong and being true to yourself and what you want, but sweetheart this is NOT a healthy relationship.
You have to love yourself more than you love anybody else. And you aren't acting like you do. And I'm sorry, but he doesn't love you or he wouldn't need a "wild week".
And what about if you do decide to have sex with him? The only thing that you teaching him right now about your relationship is that he can go out and do whatever he wants and you'll be waiting for him like a puppy when he comes back.
If he really cared about you - he would not be with other people. I don't care what young guys tell you - people CAN go without sex with no ill effects. It's fun when you are an adult, but it is NOT a necessity.
2007-06-12 10:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sounds like that wild weekend might consist of having sex with someone else. Dont jump to conclusions just find out. But if your not ready for sex that could be very frustrating for a guy who has already had sex and who is ready. Just go with what your feeling.
2007-06-12 10:16:00 · answer #3 · answered by . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I have to say that it is really hard to be in a long distance realtionship especially when he or she is older. , but sweetie it makes no sense for you to have to keep going through all of that. What makes you think that he is not having sex with someone else? I mean way break up with you?? Maybe so he will not feel guilty that he had sex with someone else? I mean think about it!!
You have no reason to hold on to someone that breaks up with you because you are not having sex with him. He should respect that!! You said he does, but he really doesnt! Because if he did, he would not break up with you because there is no sex in the relationship. Take my word for it when I tell check up on what he is doing, he MIGHT be up to no good and let it be known that you DO NOT WANT TO DEAL WITH THAT!! And dont wait for a man to break up with you, that is just not right. If he is doing wrong you break up with him.
2007-06-12 10:27:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on a lot of stuff. You should imagine you have just broken up with him and think whether you are happy or sad. Can you do get any better. You should write down his strengths and weaknesses, etc.
Many women would not take it, but he is waiting for you - sort of. Just do not do it with him without a wedding ring as he will then just dump you too - he understands that you are something better - and realize eventually he will probably cheat on you, but is likely to always have you on a pedestal.
So long as it is not thrown in you face, you may not care, many women don't, but if you do, it is a real problem.
2007-06-12 10:21:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him for good. he do sent respect you if he does that. why break up with have sex with another girl then get back with you. that's the same thing as cheating. how would he feel if the tables were turned and you were doing that to him, ask him that. one time your going to break up and then when you finally are ready hes going to give you a std. not trying to scare you, just being real.
2007-06-12 10:19:19 · answer #6 · answered by zah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on recognising that you are not ready to take this sexual step - many woman feel pressured and regret giving in to this. It worries me that he is breaking up with you periodically in order to (seemingly) satisfy his needs. The question you need to ask is .. a) if this guy really cherishes you, then why does he do this ? b) what is your own self-worth actually worth ? Sorry, but if this guy really respected you, then I feel that he would not break things off when he is "dying to have sex". Let him die !!!
2007-06-12 10:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by square_dotzz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a boyfriend nearer your own age and in the same city.
This guy will continue to take his "wild weeks" even if you do have sex with him.
Wait until you are ready, don't let this guy play you.
Doc Hudson
2007-06-12 10:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Doc Hudson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually, he is just using you. if he breaks up with you just to mess around with other girls and then come back to you, you are being used. get out now before it's too late.
if he really respected you not wanting to have sex, he would wait for you. good luck!
2007-06-12 10:17:30 · answer #9 · answered by Hitch™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop him. You may be exciting because he considers you hard to get. Has he asked you to marry him or date him exclusively? If he has, he is cheating. What if he picks up a disease on one of his "wild weeks"?
2007-06-12 10:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by WonderingWanderer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋