A friend of mine told me that when her daughter was little she couldn't get her to wear dresses. She said that her little girl just refused to wear them. Why are parents arguing or debating with their children?? When you tell a child to do something they need to do it or else their will be consequences to pay. Are these days over?? Are all parents allowing their children run the household and telling them what they will not do?
When I was a child I did as told or else I got my behind beat. This didn't happen too often because after one time, I learned my lesson. So are you one of those parents who's children run you or do you run your house hold???
2007-06-12 02:47:41 · 9 answers · asked by Cheryl J 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I know what you are trying to get at, but I don't think the clothes thing is a good example. In this case, it's just a personal preference. As adults, we have certain preferences and likes and dislikes, and kids have a right to also. For example, my younger sister doesn't like jeans, so she doesn't wear them. Does my mom make her? No, cuz that's my sister's personal preference. Now if the daughter doesn't want to wear a dress, but your friend makes her wear one for a certain occasion where it is more appropriate, then that makes sense. So it's understood by both sides that the child may not like wearing dresses, but knows she sometimes has to anyway. Sorry if I strayed from the actual subject. I know how you mean, about kids running households. Too many kids nowadays do what they want, when they want, and think they can - and they can, cuz the parents let them. Hopefully I will do a decent job raising my 2 yr. old, and she won't ever be one of those kids. I am the parent, and I will be the one in charge. Not in a mean, bullying kind of way, but more of a "I'm the boss but respect goes both ways" kind of way.
2007-06-12 03:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really have to pick and choose your battles. Children need to learn to assert themselves and make their own choices so when it comes down to silly things like picking out clothing, it can be good to let them wear what they like. There is a big difference between a child not wanting to wear a dress and a child running the household. My son may leave the house in mismatched clothes but he still does his chores and listens when I tell him to do something.
2007-06-12 09:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by PinUpGal 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well i run my house hold. Some parents are lazy though. Then there is sometimes you have to pick your battles even with kids. Some girls prefer not to wear dresses its not a behavioral thing. if both parents are working outside the home that means everyone else is raising their kids
2007-06-12 10:23:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is a difference between not wanting to wear a dress and a child blatantly disobeying the parents. Parents need to pick their battles. Not everything needs to turn into a huge "Lesson". Beating a child because they don't want to wear a dress is ridiculous.
2007-06-12 09:53:54 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My first reaction was heck no, no child is going to TELL me what she is/isn't going to do. I'm the adult, I'm the parent, no is not an option.
Then you started talking about a dress, and I'm wondering who cares? As long as it's weather appropriate, does it matter if your kid wears a pretty dress, or purple shorts with striped tights, green sneakers, and a pink & yellow t-shirt? In my house, it does not. I think a big part of it is picking your battles - it's tiresome and inefficient to control everything with your kids.
2007-06-12 11:59:23 · answer #5 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tell my kids what to do, but they just tell me that they aren't going to do it. I have tried everything to get them to listen to me. I have spanked, yelled, took there t.v.s from them, took toys, everything. Nothing seems to work. My kids are 7, 5, and 1. Of course, I haven't done that stuff with the 1 y/ol, he is still kind of young and besides right now he will help pick up his toys. I am not allowing my children to run the house, I just don't know how to get them to listen. I have read the Nanny 911 book and watch the show and tried her methods. Nothing works.
2007-06-12 10:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by orphan annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY job is to teach my children how to control themselves not for me to control. MY job is to teach my children how to be able to make those decisions for themselves. Do I really CARE if she doesn't wear a dress? I always gave my daughter a choice when it came to clothes between 2 outfits. Then I'm happy with what she was wearing AND she gets the independance of havign made a decision.
2007-06-12 09:53:33 · answer #7 · answered by Betsy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have kids? If you don't you are in no position to criticize other people's parenting.
If you do have children then raise them the way you know best and don't stick your nose into other people's business and judge them as a parent.
2007-06-12 09:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
make them do it.
2007-06-12 09:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by justasinnersavedbygrace 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋