breast removed.she is having treatment of chemotheraphy. could we have sex ? is it permissible or wrong ? if yes, will it have any effect on me.
2007-06-12 00:15:28 · 6 answers · asked by dpkdrj 5 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
There treatment will not effect you in any way if you two have sex.
If she is up to doing it, then go for it. From experience, during that time when they have had such a major change to their body, lost their hair, etc., to know that their husbands still loves them and finds them attractive can be emotionally good for them. But realized that she is also going to be very exhausted and emotional drained from all of this. She may very will not have the physical/emotional strength to do it. It is not a rejection of you if she says "no".
If that is the case, she needs to know that you will not be disappointed or feel rejection from you, She is going to be very fragile at this time. As anyone would be who has had part of their body cut off. She may only want to be held or comforted. Give her what she needs, and put your own horomones in park for a while.
If you do have sex during this time, be extremely careful not to get her pregnant. That would cause major complications for both her and the child. So be sure to be extra careful during the next few months until she is well beyond the end of her treatment. No baby needs to have radition pumped through them.
She will be in my prayers today...
2007-06-12 00:34:28 · answer #1 · answered by dewcoons 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have breast cancer and after Chemo and radiation, have been in remission for the past two years.
Yes you can have sex whilst your wife is having Chemo, however, I very much doubt that she is feeling much like sex at the moment. It really depends on what she wants.
The chemo unfortunately kills her red and white cells and therefore her immune system is very low and she cannot fight off even the common cold, so please be careful with her.
When the chemo is over she will soon get back to her old self and you can resume your life as it was.
My sincere love to prayers go you both.
2007-06-15 01:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by foxylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My prayers are with you and your wife. I had a lumpectomy in December, just finished chemo 3 weeks ago today, and start radiation on Monday.
My advice to you, is to follow her lead. She is most likely feeling very uncomfortable with herself right now. She's probably a bit sore still (how long since the mastectomy?) Don't be surprised if she all of a sudden gets very shy about letting you see her. Just love on her as much as you can and make sure to tell her how attacted to her you still are. It's going to take a LOT of patience for you, but she will feel better again.
Again, my prayers are with both of you. Hang in there!
2007-06-12 18:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by JC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is well enough for sex then yes you can have it without being harmed...it might also help her emotionally if you two are still sexual she is probably having feelings of not being sexy after losing a or both breast...i know when i had breast cancer i was very self concence about my apperance and lack of hair and my husbands support and love and telling me how beautiful i was made all the difference...hope the best for ya both
2007-06-14 15:26:55 · answer #4 · answered by little78lucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she feels up to sex, then it is ok!! The chemotherapy may cause her to feel ill, vomit, be more susceptible to illness, hair loss, among other possible side effects. However- as long as you are healthy and she feels like it- more power to you. I hope that she is OK!
2007-06-12 00:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As long as she feels up to it, it won't have any affect on you. If it's fine with her then it's completely alright.
2007-06-14 12:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by Jenna 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋