Why do women (not all but a lot) get angry when a man doesn't say it first and why do men take so long before they say it? Does it really make any difference? Does it mean the woman loves him more because she said it first? Or that the man loves her less? Or is it that men just don't like expressing how they feel?
2007-06-12 00:09:45 · 19 answers · asked by Pyro 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesnt matter who says it first aslong as you mean it.my partner said it to me first which was fine by me.i didnt say it straight back to him i talked to him and said that i had strong feeling for him but didnt no if i was in love with him,and he accepted that bout a month later i said it coz i new i was in love with him.i think you shouldnt say it untill you mean it and it doent matter who says it first.xx
2007-06-12 00:27:38 · answer #1 · answered by deliciousde 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love exists beyond language. If neither person ever said it love could still exist between them. The whole who said it first issue is more about the fear of who controls the relationship. Apparently some people believe if they say it first then they are giving some perceived control to the other person.
I said I love you first to my now husband. It was scary, cause I had never said that first in any relationship before that. But I was so in love with him that I couldn't hold back and dared to tell him. He told me he loved me also and everything turned out wonderful.
2007-06-12 07:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are simple creatures. Astonishingly, most of us are extremely shy when it comes to expressing our feelings (specially when it comes to LOVE).
The best way to know whether a men loves you or not is to ASK him.
It does not matter who says it first if the feeling is mutual. Moreover, now when women are proposing men for marriage, I think saying the three wise words should not be a conflicting issue with either one ;-)....
2007-06-12 07:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anupam S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many times it is the most paranoid who first says, "I love you." If it is said before the feelings are true, it could show desperation, and a man (or woman) will head for the hills. Do not be to anxious to be spurting out things like this. Wait for the feelings to be true or you could feel foolish and embarrassed later.
2007-06-12 07:11:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a person is mature; they are not afraid to express their feelings and won't care about playing games; better to be honest in your own being than live a lie for fear of saying it first or for someone not reciprocating; if you love someone just say it ; if they don't feel the same; just know that you were able to love and mature enough to be able to stand up for your own feelings. That's life! no fear to hide behind what people think, games, etc
2007-06-12 07:14:18 · answer #5 · answered by sml 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it matters i think you should not worry about when you say it because when you feel it you will know when to say it.No it doesn't mean loves her less if she said it first woman are usually more romantic and into saying i love you i don't think it matters as long as you mean it
2007-06-12 07:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by opal fruit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it shouldnt matter but it does coz women esp are more or less anxious in new relationship and expect the man to be the Man and show affection first or risk showing to much feelings and scaring the guy off. oh its too complicated.
2007-06-12 07:15:46 · answer #7 · answered by ViRgO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just depends who is ready first. . . .. i think love is a growing thing and both people in a relationship love each othe rin different ways and it does not matter who said it first all that matters is that it is there and it grows every day!!! xx
2007-06-12 08:05:19 · answer #8 · answered by Very Sexy Vixen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're both well adjusted, it shouldn't matter who says it first. If she/you is concerned about who says it first and thinks it means one of you loves the other one more, neither of you are ready to be 'in love'.
(Just a stab in the dark, but you're about 14 right?)
2007-06-12 07:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think it matters if you love the person and feel like you should tell him so be it. if you guys really love each other i dont think you need to always have to say it, its better to show it in actions or deeds. at times though its better to say it only and only if you really feel it, if you just say it because your friends always say it to their bf, well forget hell ever say it back and youll probably feel very bad
2007-06-12 07:22:46 · answer #10 · answered by peris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋