Ok im 15 and so is my girlfriend, we have been together for a few years and are wondering if we should get engaged but wanna get married at 21.. and i was thinking i should wait till were 16. Is it ok to be engaged at 16 in South Australia? i need some opinions pls help
2007-06-11 23:55:55 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Wait until you are 21, then get engaged. Marry a year or so after that.
Life and love changes after you get out of school. Do not allow young love to cloud your decisions that will have great impact on your future, such as college. Both of you should finish school and get out of your parent's houses, be comfortable with yourselves as adults before you can join together as an evenly matched pair in marriage.
If your relationship is meant to be, it can last for the next few years. Stay together, make safe choices (use protection if you are having sex. Adding a baby at a young age is a very bad idea, and is not the way to start a marriage) and allow each other to grow up and develop into young adults. It will be worth it.
2007-06-12 00:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is one thing to say you are engaged at 15 (I must have gotten engaged at least 3 times in my teen years!) but no one will take you seriously until you are at least 18. My husband and I got unofficially engaged when I was 19, officially at 20 and married at 21. We are still happily married now in our 30s...but we did have do do a lot of growing up together. Finished our educations, got jobs first, then enjoyed some traveling and spending time together as a couple...had kids much later and are glad we did!
2007-06-12 00:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by Smiley 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know oyure excited and love each other, but I honestly think you should wait at least until youre 18 to think about getting engaged.
Firstly and engagement is more than bf and gf-you cant just call the whole thing off if you decide to change your minds.
It was originally meant to be a sort of 'practice' marriage-you move in together and live like a married couple before signing any paper work to see if it still works out. BELIEVE me, living together is a completely different experience to being just bf and gf! Its alot easier to move in than to move out!
Have you both spoken to your parents? Firstly in some countries you nedd parents approval before doing anything matromonial and some places that includes engagement.
Think you should visit the Dr Phil website, theres some very interesting stuff on young marriages and marriage in general.
Bottom line, wait a bit-my bf and me have been living to gether since I was 16 and its NOT easy, when my friends were clubbing and telling me their stories of this hot guy the other night...we were arguing about washing and why the rooms messy!
I love him and things are working out fine between us, but maybe wait a couple of years-18/21 to decide. Believe me your perspective of everything changes after 15-17, so wait till then.
Other wise-congrats on your maturity about relationships and girls and have fun!!
Good Luck!!
2007-06-12 00:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by Lea C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes wait till your 16 to get engaged. Then wait till your 21 to get married. If either of you have a change of heart before reaching 21. Just call the whole thing off.
2007-06-12 00:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by Sunset 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
12 and 13 year olds dont date. Liking each other is not dating. No, you cannot get engaged. Being engaged means ready and capable to legally marry and plan a wedding for the near future. At 15, that's impossible. You can't even drive and are still going through puberty for crying out loud. Engagement is not the next level in dating. It's the time period to take steps for marriage. It means nothing at your age.
2016-05-18 00:21:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot changes between the ages of 15 and 25, not that I don't think young people can't stay together and be happy, but just don't rush, finish school, travel together a little, see some of the world, experience some life and then get married. Why not get her a promise ring or commitment ring or something along those lines for now.
2007-06-12 03:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are way too young....you both are going to change so much over the next 15 years. I was with a boy as a teenager, married him at 20.......36 years old and 3 kids later, we are divorcing. Mine lasted much longer than the normal kid relationship and should have ended a few years after it started which is the typical duration of relationships of this nature. Live life and grow up before you decide to get engaged/married........you will thank me for it later!
2007-06-12 00:04:16 · answer #7 · answered by RetroChick 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're really in love, then it will last. No need to get engaged or married so soon. If you plan to spend the rest of your life together, why not just wait until you're independent and out of school.
My fiance and I started dating when we were 13. We knew in the 8th grade we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together, but also knew we would wait until we were grown up to get married. Instead, we just betrothed ourselves to each other for fun.
We're still together and we're getting married in October. We felt we weren't ready before now (even though we knew early that we were the right match for each other) - we wanted to make sure we finished school, had stable jobs, had a home, etc.
There's no harm in waiting. Your relationship, if it's really what you think it is, will just get stronger.
2007-06-12 02:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by clawofiron 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to marry at 21 then wait until you are 20 to be engaged
2007-06-12 00:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Library Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you want to be together forever...it won't matter waiting until you're 20 to be engaged and married at 21. being engaged at 15 won't make your relationship any stronger!
2007-06-12 04:12:23 · answer #10 · answered by szberi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋