i have this long time crush of mine. he never notices me but now i am shocked when he asked me to go on a one night stand with him. i really love him but i am still not yet ready. what do you think? you're opinion and suggestions matters.
2007-06-11 23:20:30 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You will get your heart broken.....this is %99 probable.....
2007-06-11 23:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by chaminda l 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't do it. I don't care what ANY woman says-when you sleep with a guy you are giving a part of yourself to that person. A woman can do it so much she can become desensitized to it (like they might not admit to themselves that they got used but on a deeper level they know that they did and screws with their self esteem), but it is still very harmful on a deeper level. I have not had a one night stand but I have had sex with people that I didn't love when I was younger. I can't describe the feeling I have about that but it is very bad. To this day I cannot let myself think about it because I feel too gross. The way that you feel after words is really disgusting. So I will give you advice that I wish someone had given me a long time ago. Never sleep with someone you don't love, and never sleep with someone who doesn't love you. I have done both. Guys can be really cruel because most of them can have sex without feeling a sense of attachment to the person that they are having sex with. You will, I promise, feel deeply attached to this guy, and it sounds like he is out for one thing. When you connect with someone that deeply and then that attachment is severed, I swear to God it kills a part of you inside. Only, only have sex when you are in love, and you know for a fact that the other person is in love with you.
2007-06-12 06:42:12 · answer #2 · answered by Princess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have to ask the question to strangers
then you yourself are not fully ready for this type of
commitment
even if it is just a one night stand
and besides 2 in all honesty
it sounds like this guy
isnt really worth
a damn
and definately shoudnt mean anything to you but just another piece of trash to throw out
THink about it
How long have you liked him
in that time has he shown much interest in you
because you say he hasnt
and also
if he asks you to go not on a date
but for a quick fling
it seems pretty obvious
that all he wants is to sleep with you
Think to yourself
how it will feel the next day after the sex is over
do you really think he wants you to be his gf
or anything more
if all of a sudden he wants to sleep with you
you need a guy who wants to take you out on a DATE
not a
quick fling back at his place
a guy
who isnt after you just to get into your pants
and at the most
all he would ask for after a minimum of 2 dates
is a goodnight kiss
guys like that "true" gentelmen
not players are hard to find but they are out their
i myself am one of them
i dated a girl awhle back and we didnt even kiss until our 2nd month
dump this loser
and tell him
if you really want to be with me
why are you so anxious to get in the sack with him
ask him that
see what kind of answer he can come up with
2007-06-12 06:41:37 · answer #3 · answered by darknesseternal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready to deal with a crying baby, should any accidents happen? Is he man enoigh to stand up and own up if this leads to a child? Baby or no baby, will he still love you and respect you in the morning?
2007-06-12 06:28:35 · answer #4 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want just a one night stand tell him so. I myself don't like one night stands. I've had them. But it just turned out that way. Not that I would have wished it so. We just didn't connect, didn't see eye to eye on important issues and it didn't work out. You know you want more then just one time. Tell him so. Make him aware that you are interested in having a relationship with him.
2007-06-12 06:29:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sunset 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One night stand, Red Flag Alert, do you want a one night stand, have more respect for yourself, do not be used by this, do not do it!
You will get hurt after that one night stand, I have been there and done that, and it took me a long time to forgive myself, after that, I wised up!
You are not ready, do not do it, love means more than a one night stand and if he wants a one night stand, honey, he does not love you!
Do not hurt yourself like this! Do not set yourself up for a big fall!!!
2007-06-12 06:27:38 · answer #6 · answered by carriegreen13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, he is just looking for a piece of a##. Have more respect for yourself than to jump into the sack with a guy that just ask you for a one night stand. Wait for a guy that will respect you.
2007-06-12 06:28:40 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you think will happen if you sleep with him? You have sex, you'll lose that special virginity moment you can never get back again, and he'll get sex, exactly what he wants. Then do you think you'll fall in love with each other and live happily ever after? I think he's more likely to use you a couple more times for sex and then ditch you. Please, please don't lose your virginity like that
2007-06-12 06:28:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way. please have a better respect to yourself, and you can't use your body to keep a man, especially he only means One-Night-Stand.
he is obviously a player, and jsut play his game back. just say you go, and not show up, and call him and say sorry that i am sick. and quickly hang out. never answer the phone back.
he is a shity man, and you surly should not pay attention to him. use all your energy to look better and have confident. then, you can find a good man who loves you for you, not jsut sleep with stupid guy.
you need to ahve some friends to hang out, not to think that stupid guy.
good luck.
2007-06-12 06:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by Tracy But 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, if you are in love with him, I wouldn't have sex with him. That's why, because you are in love with him.. cuz you'll have your heart broken, and truly will be "crushed." I'm sorry hun. But yeah, I wouldn't even pursue this guy anymore if I were you.
2007-06-12 06:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
'i really love him but i am still not yet ready.' - You answered your own question. Don't get pressured by guys to do things you do not want to do, or you will regret it later. If he loves you in return, he will respect your decision.
2007-06-12 06:25:54 · answer #11 · answered by Michael T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋