sex worries?

Question

if you have a regular partner then finish with them and get another partner and want to have sex with them do you worry about getting naked,your performance,compare an ex with the new girl,compare their bodies?wish they would do such and such that the old flame did and wonder how to ask??just wonderin.also would you tell the new girl i love such and such done to me ,even tho she will then know you have obviously done that before and get her jelous.10 points to the one who answers all point.

Answer 1

Well.... thinking about your ...Sex worries.

Everyone is different and most people worry (at least a little) about getting naked and sexual performance with a new partner. I guess it is only human to compare an ex with the new partner particularly body type but this should be fleeting... and you should find these people different. I don't think you should focus on who has a better this or that but just enjoy the differences. I wouldn't think about what it was the old flame did but I would ask and let your new partner know what it is you would like to do. Also I'm sure there are some things that this partner will like or not like that will be completely different than your past relationship just enjoy the experience! Don't worry about getting her jealous she knows or should know that you have had a previous girlfriend so she will probably expect that you have had some sexual experience. That is a good thing! It is much easier to have a satisfying experience when both people know what pleases the other...isn't that what you are worried about missing? Just listen to your new partner's needs and tell her yours and it should be a great experience :)

Answer 2

I will answer each one a questions about having sex with a new unknown partner

Worried about getting naked…. not really I figure they're naked also so our fears are somewhat equal. Of course that first time you're both probably still kissing while trying to figure out how to undo some fancy complicated faster she has.

Performance: certainly…. who knows what porn star she's been with. I deftly draw out forplay longer and ask her to she like this or that….. and then concentrate on providing that for.

Comparing ex with a new girl: absolutely…. I've got a logbook with checkmarks… some have two pages. Some partners are wild while others are not so wild. But each one provides a unique excitement

Wish they would do such things as the old flame did in wonder how to ask…. I never wonder how to ask. That is absolutely a drawnout plan. let everything go where it wants to go the first couple times. I'm certainly not going to say my old girlfriend did this…. that would get you thrown out of bed really fast. I am going to say something like hey have you ever tried this ?? I I've heard others say they like it…. How about you? and always ask that question about into 20 minutes into foreplay. You deftly want them going it high-speed before you ask a question that might derail them…. typically at that point they'll say let's try NOW. Hopefully she doesn't say all I've done it with hundreds of guys !

Advice Man

Answer 3

Getting naked with someone new is always a bit scary, and as for performance - we all worry about that time to time, sometimes even with old partners who we've been with for a while.

You are bound to make some comparison between your ex and he new girl, it's only natural, and she's probably doing the same with you.

So you're not alone. Think back to when you first met your ex and started sleepng with her... you and your ex wouldn't have known what each other wanted or how to ask for what you wanted when you first started sleeping with each other, no-ones psychic... it's exactly the same with this new girl.

Over time, you and the new girl will get to know each other, get to know each others bodies and also get to know exactly what each other wants in (and out) of bed... again, just like you and your ex started out - and look how the two of you developed over time.

As for being scared to ask her things... don't be! Remembe communication is the key skill to any relatonship!

So, Good Luck, i hope it all goes well!

Answer 4

Please don't indulge in sexual intercourse until your twenties - and then only with someone with whom you are intimate emotionally and mentally. People fall madly in love, but the ecstasy, excitement, strong passions and desires, and high emotion are very hard to keep up, so eventually we start to come down, typically after around 18 months to three years. If people have discussed their mutual values, shared ambitions, interests, etc., in some depth (obviously there will be some differences, which help make relationships interesting), and make plans, work on their personal development, etc., this can develop into a long and wonderful relationship. If one party feels insecure or low in self respect, it can make for a difficult partner. It's easy to behave at our best when in love, but marriage involves a lot of self discipline, sacrifice, compromise and flexibility. Teenage & 20s marriages are so very often disastrous in the longer term: it's very hard to get to know and understand others until we get to know ourselves, our own needs, etc. which are still fluctuating a bit until we are "mature" (typically women in mid 20s, men mid 30s). Hence, adolescents' feelings often fluctuate somewhat. This is a very good reason for avoiding the emotionally bonding sexual intercourse, as it can so often lead to serious emotional confusion. Sex might be fun, and so may drink and drugs be, but the consequences are usually disastrous if there is no planning and serious thought involved. Read the questions here - so very are about very unhappy people who had sex - and often children - when in their teens and are completely miserable as a result.

Answer 5

It's normal to have anxiety about your performance, but if you think the woman you are with is only concerned about your performance, then lose her. Immediate performance can be a sign of deep attraction, but it can also be a sign of inflated ego. If you're someone who cares about your partner, you're more likely to need some time to warm up and get to know them. If you're merely a vessel for testosterone, you may not. Don't worry about it. There will be good times and bad times. The good ones will mean everything to you in the long run. Talk openly always. The good ones will respond to that.

Answer 6

Well, every woman you are with is unique. They all will be different. Don't try to compare one to another, just enjoy the things they do well and try to coach them nicely on the things they don't do so well. Never EVER mention another girlfriend when you both are naked. There is no quicker way to get her pissed off at you than that. Just say "Hey sweetie, that feels so good, but if you could just do it like this, it would feel even better. Can you try that for me?" and see what she does. Hopefully she is open to the idea of learning what makes you happy. If not, just try to enjoy what she does well and don't force her to try to be someone she is not, or do something she is uncomfortable with.

Answer 7

worries there are, but once it starts going, experince will take over...lol.

unless you're truthful, she wont get jealous about your past experiences and keep a lookout for the limit, gals can only take so much and sometimes certains things is best left unsaid?

each individual is different in everyway and mind yiu most gals are not that generous to share and accept such intimate and private matters?

judge it for yourself and take it as it goes along.

good luch.

Answer 8

the thing with gaining sexual experience u find out what u like and don't like u store that information automatically.

that could be a good thing and a bad thing. as humans we always tend to compare now don't we, so might end up doing that.

in sex its always good to communicate, but remember u require tact in order not to make ur partner feel inadequate. gently compliment followed by a request "oh that feels good, but do this..." u get a more responding partner that way

Answer 9

Most people are so self conscious about their own bodies that they really arent thinking about rating yours so dont for god's sake ask them.

Just be very enthusiastic about pleasuring her and be helpful to her by making happy noises when she gets something right.

Definitely ask her if she likes it soft and cuddly or wild and intense. Either of those could put someone off if they prefer the other. she will probably say something in the middle so just be yourself and she will guide you from there with her reactions

Answer 10

If you don't satisfy your partner, then you really have to worry about your performance. All of us men want to be the best in bed, right? Just look for body language, u'll know if they like what ur doin. Discover what they want and fulfill them first before yourself.