ok i've been hanging out with this guy for a while and he wants to be just friends with benefits...i like him and normally wouldnt agree to something like this but the sex is amazing and i really dont wanna miss out on that haha!...what do u guys think of that kind of relationship? you think the fact that i liked him is gonna end up being a problem? FOR GUYS!...WHEN A GUY SAYS HE WANTS A FWB WHAT IS HE SAYING ABOUT THAT GIRL??... like could he end up likeing her, or does he just think shes hott, or etc??
btw we're both 19 if that makes any difference...
2007-06-11 22:00:46 · 13 answers · asked by fini 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It may mean he's just not ready to commit right now.. you are both young and he may have plans for his life (even unspoken) that might have a different direction then being in a relationship.
If your doing it in hopes that he will come to his senses and want more from you then I would tell you not to do it.. But if you are close friends and enjoy your time with each other I don't see a problem with it.. Just don't expect to much from him...
2007-06-11 22:05:59 · answer #1 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok - from a girl's perspective.
Sex is sex.
This is not a guarantee for potential love. For men, sex really is sex. It can be that way for women too, but more often than not, women end up having much deeper emotional needs in a relationship such as this that the man did not bargain for, so she ends up hurt and feeling used, and he ends up feeling suffocated.
When he says FWB - he's telling you that he likes to hang out with you and is hoping that sex with you will be a no strings deal. He's absolutely NOT telling you he wants more than that. It's possible that could change later, but don't count on it. Just keep telling yourself what it is - two friends who like to have sex.
2007-06-11 22:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Gina K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When i guys is getting the goods without being committed to a girl..chances are he will not want to be more than fwb...it is cool if you would never start having feelings for him and only want him for what he wants you for! but if you think you might like him a little more than just sex watch out because he might not feel the same!
good luck !
2007-06-11 22:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanna fall in love or lust ? dont you think sex is about love ? i like sex,, yes but this kinda relationship can tend to make you disrespect yourself, look for someone to love,, sorry to say this,, 10 years from now do you wanna think of yourself being a s*ut or easy ? you do need your self respect dont you ? you do wanna grow up thinking that you need a real man that respects you because you have respected yourself dont you ? or do you wanna end up with anyone because you feel you have nothing to lose ? think about it,, IM a guy here, i like sex but i also like a women with self respect, if you want sex then try to get into a love relationship where you will be treated as a person and as not a sex thing.. just dont go shout around men doesnt appreciate women when you dont appreciate yourself in the first place,,,, respect starts with women .... but at the end of the day its your life and do as you wish
2007-06-11 22:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are two types of people who have FWB relationships. One of the people in the relationship is the shallow person who thinks that the other person is good enough to sleep with but not good enough to take out in public. The other person in the relationship is lying to themselves and the other person by saying that they don't want more, but they actually do. Do not enter into a FWB relationship relationship thinking that you can change the other persons mind. Because it will not happen. I think that everyone deserves to be loved. If the person that you love does not return the feelings that you have for them, you should find someone else who loves you.
2016-04-01 03:10:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are the best kinds of relationships, because there are no pre-conceived notions of either person's behavior. You come and go as you please, you enjoy each other's company while you are together and jealousy is non-existant. As soon as you start putting labels and rules on a relationship, the dynamic changes and then the question of 'ownership' comes into play...bad karma for a happy and healthy twosome! Trust is the answer; and there's never a question of trust when you don't have a reason to distrust...
2007-06-11 22:15:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be many reasons for taking such an approach. Personally, I like the freedom of such a way. It allows you to hook up and take things as they come without the burden of unecessary expectation. Many ppl might put him down as being commitment phobic or whatever but I reckon the majority of them are just scared of being hurt , and should just grow up!
2007-06-11 23:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by bushy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll regret it. Just keep him as a friend and find a guy who you will still enjoy sex with and who also wants ALL of you. This guy is not worthy of you if he doesn't want to be with you completely. You could, eventually, seriously fall for him and get hurt by being treated as an object and not a lady.
Just my opinion.
2007-06-11 22:08:44 · answer #8 · answered by Nika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say, you deserve better. Why let yourself being used like that? I think guys who are into that, do it because it is convenient, they think no strings, when they see another girl that they are really interested in, they will drop you in a heartbeat. The thing is you are a woman, we are wired different...things become personal especially when you share something like that, like you said you like him and I want to bet you will develop feelings for him.
I agree with Truthfinder respect yourself that's where it all starts. When you do that they will respect you and what you stand for.
2007-06-11 22:07:52 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FWB is just that, sex with no strings attached.
yes if ur like for him progresses to something more u will be handling a huge emotional ride.
what he is thinking is that the sex is great, y'all get along why not?? as long as its not serious.
u hot for the moment, not for long term according to him
2007-06-11 22:09:34 · answer #10 · answered by Phoenix21 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋