advice regarding a girl?

Question

i had a first date tonight with a girl i 'met' online. known her two months... one month on match, one month on myspace.. in which she requested me on and sent me a msg first. i mentioned meeting up few weeks ago, just saying we should sometime, and that i enjoy talking to her. she said ' i like talking to you too' and agreed we should meet up. a week later she brought it up.. i asked her what shes doing that next week, she said, 'hanging out with you silly.' i was on vacation, which she knew about, so i replied 3/4 days later, to find a good time to meet up. she said she was getting over a cold... 3 days later she emails me saying shes all better and says "maybe we could talk on the phone. what do you think? and arrange to meet up."
i reply with yes and my cell#, and then she gives hers. we've been txting back n forth. so today around noon or 1pm she txted me (havent talked on phone yet) and said she had to cancel and shes really sorry, that she has to get a tooth pulled

, and hopes we can reschedule. i reply "ya of course" and she replies "good i was hoping you'd say that" and then on to say they gave her some sleeping medicine and shes about to fall asleep in a few seconds.

i'm not questioning her at all... if she didnt wanna meet she wouldnt of brought it up, and then again asked if we can arrange something, requested me on myspace, gave me her cell, said we should talk on the phone, etc.

question is... should i reschedule, or let her come to me?

Answer 1

Look my friend.
I'm d*mn suspecious on this.
having a tooth pulled is not something you schedule it with the dentist in half an houre.
You have to schedule it maybe weeks in advance.
So the girl is definitely playing on you.
something has come up to her mind and that's why she's cancelled.
And for sure it wouldn't have been an acceptable reason for you and that's why she's lied.

D*mn I hate it man. I personally will dump a girl immediately if she lies.

And the whole reschedule thing is just nice talk.

It's 99% the case.
The 1% is that she had it schedule with the dentist and had forgotten that. There she should apologize for her carelessness.

In any of the situations, you need to be very straight forward and should keep your words and not to change them.

Firstly, lean back, relax and give her some time and space.
The problem is that she still does not trust you.
She wanted to meet you but she's still in doubt.

So don't call back and do not txt her at all.Let her txt you or call you.
Be cold on her.
Show that you are not happy with what has happenned.

Here is what I do if a girl calls me to cancel a date just couple of hours ahead with no good reason.

Her: I'm really sorry I can't make it. I've this rare tropical desease that's causing me to shrink by the hour.

Me:Pause.dead silence as long as it takes untill she takes it again.

Her:Hello? Are you there? What's wrong?

Me: What's wrong is that I can't believe the bullsh*t I'm hearing.

Her:Whattttttt?

Me:Look, you made a commitment to me to spend time with me & now you are blowing me off. You are disrespecting me and disrespecting my time and I'm not gonna put up with that. My rule is, if someone makes a commitment to me, I expect them to keep it. If they can't keep it, I need to know at least a day in advance so I can make other plans.Got it? If you can live with this rule, great......If not, sayonara. HANG UP.

You have not been as harsh on her as I am on girls and that makes it more probable to repeat what she's done.

So from now on, be careful, don't let her play on you.
Don't let ANYONE disrespect you and your time.

Do not bring up the going out issue and wait for her to ask you.

Then tell her something like this:
Are you sure this time you are not going to have a spanteneous meeting with Brad Pitt which will be scheduled just one hour before we meet?
If she responded jokingly(this case she most probably had lied about the previous case), be serious and answer like this:
You: Look, The other time you told me you have to pull your tooth.
Don't think I'm a fool who don't know it takes a week to set up a meeting with your dentists.
I don't care why you lied to me but I'm not happy with what happened.I'm not expecting you to make joke of it cause it is a serious matter. I was a nice guy not to bring up the issue but the fact is that your jokeful behavior toward what happened is unacceptable to me. I give respect and I expect respect. Have I made myself clear?

This time she'll apologize and WILL show up on your next date.If she did it again, dump her immediately.


But If she answered like:
Her: Whaaaat? you think I lied that time?
and she got angry,
Then tell her like this:
You: I don't think you definitely lied. But if it was not a lie, you made a commitment with me which you could not keep it anyway and that wasted my time and I felt so disrespected.
Aren't I important enough for you to check your other schedules before making a commitment to me so you'll not waste my time?
What I'm saying is that I don't want that thing happen again.
Am I clear?
Here again she'll apologize and will show up in the next date.
If not, Dump her immediately again.

And my gut is telling me you must check these other two answers of mine to the two guys too.

Here is one:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AoOIa5yCnw20dnsQUY6ivZHsy6IX?qid=20070606004855AAfMDVs&show=7#profile-info-3cb5d6412abe24f7a985a0fa7ed61044aa


And the second one. I'm the answerer 19 here:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ao5CzIBbAYYFNH80D8Z2kwnsy6IX?qid=20070606004431AAlqGit&show=7#profile-info-MarUqM5faa

Hope you GET IT!
Good Luck!

Answer 2

I would wait for her to come to you because it's kind of fishy that she had no idea she was getting a tooth pulled that day, but don't distance yourself too much. Try not to look clingy because there are a lot of girls who don't like clingy. If she's telling the truth and you suddenly stop talking to her, it'll make you look bad. On the other hand, if she's lying because she wants to avoid you and you keep clinging on, it'll make you look obsessive. I guess texting her in a couple days asking, "how are you feeling?" and not really mentioning the whole meeting up thing again wouldn't hurt.

Answer 3

nice story...

it doesnt sound like she wants to cancel, but you never know...

i would wait untill she mentions it again, and then rescedual...


im 12, and i must admit, this sounds kinda like something thats happening with a girl to me... well, its differant..... we were just talking(msn) and then she sais "people keep asking me if ive kissed you yet, and sometimes i wonder if you realy ARE gonna kiss me..."

and then i find out that she wants me to kiss her... and then caus im(an idiot) not too ready for that kinda thing (like wait a few months or so) and i didnt realy tell her, i dont realy know, it was sorta kinda all a blur, but she sais "oh dont worry, i wont kiss you then"... and now i AM ready, and i dont know what i should do, i mean, she said she wont kiss me, and now im wondering if it was just because i got all crappy and (sort of) told her that i wasnt ready (not in those words)... or if she said it because she doesnt want to kiss me...

anyway i'll get to the point: i dont know if i should kiss her, or if she will make the move if she wants to kiss me... 'caus i WOULD make the move, but im not sure if she still wants me to kiss her or not any more...


but im getting off the point =(

just do what you think you should when she mentions it or something about it comes up... expecially if you love her...

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Answer 4

Hey she is just waiting for you to be a MAN ;) I know women are supposed to be all emancipated and stuff these days but somewhere at the bottom of their hearts they all are waiting for the princes at least ;) Be the one for her! Why don't you just finally CALL her and arrange a date, pick her up, give her flowers and be the sweetest man ever. I bet you both gonna have a lot of fun!!! Good luck ;)

Answer 5

Wait until she mentions it again, then reschedule. If she asks why you didn't say anything, tell her that you weren't sure when she would feel better. If she cancels again, quit talking to her, she is playing a game.

Answer 6

http://www.watchtower.org/library/g/2005/5/22a/article_01.htm