My bf and I have been together for almost 3 years. I love him a lot but sometimes I question whether we could really be together forever and get married and all that. We have been arguing more lately over stupid stuff. Plus, he always tells me that he feels like i have a strong chemistry with a guy I work with (who we happen to have a lot in common and are like best friends). My bf always says that I should be with my friend, not him. The friend likes me too and I can see myself being with him too. My question is, I don't know what to do so do I stay with my current bf or say i need some time and try things out with someone else?
2007-06-11 21:00:39 · 14 answers · asked by Wishing on a Dream 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay i probably should have mentioned that my bf doesn't want me to go, he really does want to be with me and tells me all the time with cute texts and such. he just gets in a mood sometimes and that's when i start questioning things.
2007-06-12 05:59:38 · update #1
Whenever this happens. And it does a lot.
The best solution is to take time for yourself. By yourself.
2007-06-11 21:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tyson boy's dad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your boyfriend keeps saying you should be with the other guy, hoping that you'll do just that - then he'll be off the hook. In my experience, guys hate to look like the "bad guy" because they hate the emotional reaction they are faced with from their girlfriends, and if they are ready to end a relationship, they would much rather work something out that makes you end it, instead of them. I think you need to have a serious discussion with him - try to not to get emotional, so he feels ok to tell you how he's really feeling. If he's feeling insecure, don't get mad at him - this will just stop him opening up. If he's ready for the relationship to come to an end, at least you'll know, and can go your separate ways without feeling that the other person did the wrong thing by you.
2007-06-12 04:11:46 · answer #2 · answered by MJF 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From What I know, You should Try things out with that Best Friend of your, That you have so much in Common with. Because if your Realationship is Getting No where and You Are Being Acussed of things that Arn't True it needs to be Over For atleast a Little While Until you Have enough time to think things Over.
2007-06-12 04:15:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question in your mind? If you are just in it for laughs or to date and not for the long haul, then it doesn't matter either way, but...
If you are of marrying age and that's what you're after, then you really need to move on - whether with the friend, someone else or alone.
First, why would anyone who cared for you try to convince you that you belong with someone else? That's truly odd.
Second, you have questions about your future with him and this alone is enough reason to send you packing. Most marriages fail when both parties are without question. How much chance do you suppose this one has?
2007-06-12 04:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Ande 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're a fan of The Office, you will note the similarity between the receptionist, Pam, and her attraction to her coworker, Jim, even though she is engaged to her bf, whom she "loves a lot." This has been done before. You are a sitcom romance. Break up with your bf and sleep with that other guy so that you can cuddle up afterwards and talk about how much you have in common. Then he will break your heart by confessing he is bisexual and you will end up begging for your ex-bf's attention. You will eventually end up with neither guy.
2007-06-12 04:09:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you current bf is saying that you need to be with your friend then maybe he is trying to be nice about not wanting to break up with you. And on the other hand he could be scared that you like the friend and might break up with him so he is testing you. this is a chose only you can make. the best thing I can tell you is don't break up with your boyfriend maybe take a vacation somewhere go to your mom's or a friends for a few day's weeks how ever long you need to chose witch one you like better or want.
2007-06-12 04:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely not ready to settle down. It is sad when a long term relationship fizzles out. That is, however, why we have them---to see if this person is the right one for us. Obviously your bf is not filling the bill. You would not be considering this if he were. Just let him go gently, and move on with your life before you waste anymore of your time and his time.
2007-06-12 04:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's hinting that he doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore.. You're hinting that too. Sit down and have a good long talk with him about the future. If your goals aren't the same then it's probably wise to get out it now.
2007-06-12 04:13:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he's got trust and self esteem issues. You should move on, but since you have a long history you should stay as friends if he wants. See how things go with this other guy, he might make you happier relationship wise.
2007-06-12 04:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by ßỰŦŤΣЯ§! Guess who's back...for now! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's be with you for 3 years but still suspicious on what you've done? When there's no trust between each other, you should go... Unless you really did the wrong thing.
2007-06-12 04:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋