I'm overwhelmed with child support and bills. I'm stuck living with my dad and everytime my kids visit they hate him because he's so grouchy. I feel like my only alternative is to go back to a job I hate, but better money! I'm confused!
2007-06-11 20:47:10 · 11 answers · asked by Parercut Faint 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I support my dad to, I have for several years. I moved back into a home I own with him. It's a long story. There is no way I can explain every detail. I'm just confused right now.
2007-06-11 21:34:39 · update #1
My child support is $1,600.00 / month I'm only $375.00 behind but the resent for not being up to date with that and my other bills is driving me crazy. I can't sleep! The way things are going right now it will get worse. My pay is based on contract work. I don't get a regular pay now
2007-06-11 21:46:47 · update #2
stef423 needs to grow a pair before shouting her mouth off!
2007-06-11 21:50:57 · update #3
Applauding you!!!!!!!!!!
Have you thought about going back to court and having the support adjusted. You are doing all you can plus supporting your father. The house you have invested in, does it have any personal value? If not maybe moving into one that is in your range could free up some funds also. Give yourself a pat on the back, you could be like other parents I know (male and female) that would rather quit there job and not pay a dime. As for the kids not liking there grandfather, talk to him and tell him when they visit you would appreciate him trying to help you enjoy what little time you get with them.
2007-06-12 02:07:06 · answer #1 · answered by ~4NOW~ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You've made some bad choices in the past and not having enough money to get out of it is a big problem. It's hard to work at a job you hate. Can you find a different job? Can you work a second job? Can you take your kids out somewhere when they come to visit? Why is your dad so grouchy? Find out what's wrong with him and is there anything you can do to help? He may feel stuck too. At least by helping him you would have a pleasanter place to live and for your kids. That's half the problem. If you need more money, you're going to have to make it and if you make it they will raise your child support. Is there anyway you can lower what you spend? Put yourself on a budget. It's amazing what you can do without just to get some peace. Looks like you have a lot of stuff to do and some choices to make. . .
2007-06-11 21:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by towanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus and Breath! First things first, find a job in which you are comfortable and will provide you the salary you need to pay your bills and child support. If you are totally overhelmed with your bills, consider consolidating them into one monthly payment. About your dad, talk to him. Tell him how much he's not being a good grandpa to his grandkids by being grouchy. When all things come into place and you have money left over, save them to where you can get a place of your own!
2007-06-11 20:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by nagirl4ever2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's better money and it's going to necessary things and it's only a temporary thing. Save up some money and take your kids somewhere cool for a weekend like an amusement park or something to get away from your grouchy dad. Good luck
2007-06-11 21:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a no-brainer. Go back to the job you hate for the better money--that way you can pay your bills, and move out from your dad. Then you can find a job you like while you are working at the job you hate. But you know that already...Don't you?
2007-06-11 20:56:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 00:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by bjorne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow a pair. Pay your child support and hang out with your kid in a place other than your pad with your grouchy pops. Just go to the job you hate because you don't want your kids hating you for not paying child support to their mum. You only have yourself at this point and you got yourself into the mess so take care of it.
2007-06-11 20:55:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Alright, so this may sound like a lame answer, but it works.
Sit in a room by yourself and pray and just vent to God. By placing your burdens on Him, you will be able to think more clearly and the direction you should take will be less elusive. Also, another alternative might present itself (such as a job oppurtunity that you love).
Good luck.
2007-06-11 20:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Rockzee 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well don't think of it as a job you hate. Not many people like their jobs. But they do like what they provide. And if it can get you out of the rut your are in right now, then go for it. Goodluck.
2007-06-11 20:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No wonder stef423 is 0% best answer. She only see one side of the equation. Dumb Biatch
I understand what you are going thru. I wish I had the answers but I don't. I do wish you well. It seems you are trying to do the right thing.
2007-06-11 22:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by Junky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋