Living. Help in making life more wonderful, more interesting... Less of a sheltered outlook.?

Question

i guess i should first say that i live a very sheltered life. I've been in private schooling since the age of five and have always lived in a "successful" environment, my parents, neighborhood, school, it all revolves around a successfull mentality, basically everything i am exposed to. my family is all doctors and lawyers, everyone has high expectations of life.
For the last year or so, I've been talking to this sort of-friend i know not from my school through AIM, a couple of conversations, less than ten. But afterwards, I feel more... aware, I guess, of how sheltered my life is. It's like, I have basically grown up around people that only act a certain way and though in comparison to some people, I am rather open, when compared to this fellow, i am probably one of the most reserved, uptight little girls in the world.
But, I don't want to be. I don't want to be like this... so I need help, any suggestions on some things to loosen me up a bit...? To make life more interesting?

oh. I am near fourteen, so yes, my parents do have control over all aspects of my life... But, I guess I'm trying to open up my *outlook* on life, and it seems as though that is related more to your daily life and the things you do... than, i guess, actions...?
I don't know exactly how to phrase it, because obviously it DOES include action.

Answer 1

Sweetheart, covet your life for what it is at the moment because, soon enough, you will be thrown to the lions and will see it for what it is then. Until then, appreciate all that you are provided but never be arrogant.

In the meantime, maybe you could ask to help at a homeless shelter or food line just to expose you a bit to the outside. Battered womens shelters are always looking for help in one form or another. Help the local children learn to read or volunteer at a hospital.

Just whatever it is you decide to do, embrace your own life. You are very fortunate.

Sandy :O)

Answer 2

Go to your local library and ask the librarian for help in choosing books written about kids your age. Tell her you want to experience different life styles and she will help you.

Since you are 14 it would be difficult to visit places that your parents did not approve of. You are already on your way to being an open minded and aware adult just by the desire to learn about how other people live and feel.

As you get older and are able to move about more, you could volunteer at a womans shelter, volunteer to tutor other kids that need help or work in a reading program. Take the time to look people in the eye and listen to what they are saying. It is quite an education!

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with the fact that you have been "sheltered"! Knowing that you are naive is good. Asking questions is also good. BUT if you are not 21 yet I would hope you at least stick with the guidance of your parents awhile longer.
I was "sheltered" and thankful for it. Kids grow up too quickly and lose their innocence nowadays! I'm 51 now and that feeling that the world is a happy one, keeps me well-adjusted even when times are rough. Just because you were protected doesn't mean that you are stupid! You'll be more than fine! (People used to call me a goody two shoes.) I didn't let anyone talk me into "experiencing " anything that I felt unsure of! Today I have few regrets and a happy outlook.
Listen to your inner voice and decide for yourself.

Answer 4

I think it's wonderful that you are considering 'what else to do'. A well-rounded person is a beautiful thing!

I have a couple of suggestions. These are things that opened my eyes to the world around me, and maybe they will work for you too.

First, find the purpose in life by seeking God. Once I began to get to know God, I began to understand how others felt and what they were experiencing.

Second, volunteer! There are so many organizations that need your help. Try a soup kitchen, a womens' shelter, meals on wheels, Habitat for Humanity - there are literally hundreds in just your area. This will get you into environments where you would never go otherwise.

The best way to get, is to give of yourself. It will bless others, but more importantly it will bless your own heart.

Answer 5

I am glad that you are realizing that you are gifted with an environment that most people could envy. Take advantage of that by knowing that you have alot at your disposal to help those less fortunate that you are. Look into philanthropy, which can be very rewarding and fun in the long run. You can travel, meet new people from all types of backgrounds, while making a difference in someone's life. Look at Angelina Jolie, who is filthy rich, but chooses to fly the world and giving back to hungry children. She also learned how to fly a freakin plane! Take advantage and dont turn into the type of people you see around you! Have fun!

Answer 6

Go to the teen section in your local library. There are lots of books written from different points of view. Such as a story written from the viewpoint of a girl living on the streets in Seattle.
Or maybe a boy in foster care. Most are not actual true stories but just novels and very interesting and also usually true to life. Opens your eyes and makes it easier to relate.

Answer 7

What I would suggest you do is go on and live the life you are living if you like it that is great if not. You know you don't have to keep it up after wards. Your life is just that your life and after school and if you are not 18 already, It is your life you can do and live it any way you see fit. Not everyone that isn't a lawyer or a doctor is low life. You grow up and you have your life not your parents'. So, go ahead and please them for now and be happy when you get out on your own be yourself not a phony person. They will love you for you not your career or what you like to do in life.
Good luck.

Answer 8

go bungee jumping!!

no seriously, how old are you? if you are still of age that your parents rule your world completely, then there isn't a whole lot you'll be able to do.

if you can go out and live your life, try to experience new things. if you have never been to a run down bar or cafe, do it, you will see all different kinds of people. go see local shows in your town, anything!. you just have to open your eyes and take it all in, instead of taking just the great parts and revolving your life around them.

Answer 9

well I'm 15,....and maybe you should meet new people who aren't as "uptight" and as "privileged" as you? start listening to other sorts of music.....maybe even a little out of your "comfort zone". Now I'm not saying go Heavy Metal head banging rock,....just something more out there in society. Try not to let the influences and expectations of the things your family all want out of you. Your the one who keeps your body alive right? so you should be able to do things you want....that you are allowed to do.....lol. My parents are strict so theres things i wanna do and cant. Possibly watch different TV shows then normal. I hope i helped out a little. <3 zoe

Answer 10

I suggest you travel more. Take trips to Europe, the Mediterranean countries, Asia, India and China. Travel will make you see the world, people and yourself in a whole new light.