What do you do when your ex-bf tell you that he wants a "break", then clarifies a week later that it is a "break up", then clarifies "he might want to meet other girs", then calls u drunk and says he wants to get back together, only to "forget" what he said the next day...BUT he calls everyday and says he wants to see you (me) (we live 3.5 hrs away)?
p.s. I thought he was the one
p.p.s. he claims he wants me to have his children...
p.p.p.s. I'm heartbroken, and feel like my entire future has been ripped from underneath me
2007-06-11 19:45:24 · 22 answers · asked by zz 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh that almost made me cry a little. dear god this is tough one.
well, if you "thought" he was the one, then that means that you no longer "think" that he's the one, in which case you should take a break form his B.S.
it's all a matter of how you truely feel inside. take what's yours in life, you don't have to love him if that's not how you feel.
i imagine you're pretty frusraited and whether this is true love from him or not, it is a very unhealthy way to show it.
get away from him, (afterall, what happened to the "break"?), do your own thing for a while. get out, make friends, be social. learn some more about yourself and be strong on your own. then, if he comes back to you with a steady head, and if it feels right to you, maybe it will work.
you should never let someone bring you down. if someone that you love is doing something they shouldn't, then set them straight.
it sounds like his lifestyle and emotions are going downhill. that's a crying shame. just don't fall with him.
2007-06-11 19:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When your ex-bf tells you (through such clear actions) that he is an idiot, believe him. Ignore any contact, but if you feel compelled to respond, then tell him - only once - that you are sure that he is a loser...That you deserve better than a guy who treats you with disrespect. Go find someone who will not use you like a yo-yo, use alcohol as an excuse, or forget whenever it is convenient. Find a man who is strong, knows what he wants and who will value you, your love and relationship together...no matter how many miles or hours are between you both. Good luck and stay strong. Don't settle. You are worth much more.
2007-06-11 20:00:17 · answer #2 · answered by nightowl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...
I'm sorry, but he sounds like he doesn't deserve you. The way you make it sound is like he is an insensitive jerk. How could a person, that says he supposedly loves you, put you through so many games like that playing with your heart? He doesn't deserve you. You need someone that will love you back as much as you love them. Someone that will not make you cry, and not toy with your heart.
Don't worry, there must be another person out there that is so much better than he could ever be. Please don't act like it's the end of the world. Maybe you should use the break as time to reflect on how your relationship has been so far and maybe you'll see everything in a new light.
hoped i helped : )
2007-06-11 20:09:26 · answer #3 · answered by SooperPnai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me get this straight... you're worried that you might upset your ex boyfriend, because you have a new boyfriend?? what since does that make? your ex is in the past, so leave him alone.. you are not with him for reasons we dont really care to know, but love the one you're with and cut your ex out of your life for good... why would you hold onto the past?? seems like you were not, and maybe still are not ready to be with anyone else...
2016-05-17 23:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar thing happened to me once. I think he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He really does care about you, but he wants to play the field and see what's out there. Don't play his game. Tell him you are not interested in a "friends with benefits" or other ambiguous relationship. You are either boyfriend and girlfriend or nothing. This will either cause him to rethink his decision and rekindle a relationship with you, or he'll disappear. And either way, it is better than the agony I know you are in right now of not knowing how things stand. I know it's hard, but there are other guys out there. Don't miss another opportunity because you are wasting time and energy on this guy.
2007-06-11 19:53:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why not you ask him once and for all.Tell him to be serious this time as you will take his answers seriously no matter what.Not to hurt you or anything,but i would prefer if he said i want a break up and that's it.You might be sad or perhaps angry with my answer,but it's far better than dragging this relationship on and off then on again.If he wants you back,then make sure he is sure about it.Be serious with and with a little angry tone,tell him about it.Good luck.P.S if i were you i won't want him anymore.
2007-06-11 19:56:08 · answer #6 · answered by zic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him not to call you again until he is serious. He has no right to play with your heart like that. He just wants you to be his stand-by, for when he can't pick up somebody.
Tell him that you deserve respect, and if he does not want you to be with him as a girlfriend anymore, then he has made his decision, and he will have to live with it!!!
I know that it will be hard for you, but you will find happiness with a better guy later on. Respect yourself, or no guy will ever respect you. They will just try to use you.
Good luck. You deserve happiness.
2007-06-11 19:55:03 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He clearly doesn't know what he wants or is trying to have the best of both worlds i.e: his independance and you when it suits him. Give it six months without seeing him and see if still wants you. By then, one or both of you would have moved on or you will know that you can be together. Either way you will know for sure and be better off.
2007-06-11 19:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants a break. Give him 30 days of total silence. You might gain some self-respect during that time too.
2007-06-11 19:57:09 · answer #9 · answered by UnderwaterTomato 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey, just thank the good lord that you two are already broken up. he's not someone you should put your whole future to. guys that don't know what they want are mostly losers. find someone that will not ask for a break or forget what he told you that easily.
2007-06-11 19:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by myohmymyohmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋