Do you think these statistics are true?

Question

There is a lot of divorce even amongst christians, there are people I know that have no need for church lived together and haved sex before marriage and have good marraiges and there are people in the church who have these whirlwind courtships of romance and fanfare and now are miserable and divoced. Do you think people who are virgins and get married have more of a fighting chance for a good marraige? Are the statisics true that non christians have as much divorce as christians, or do you think it depends on the person and how commited they are to thier spouse?

Answer 1

The mess with Statistics of any kind is that the greater the size of the Aggregate, the greater is the error due to assuming that the average is representative of the mass as a wole..

The truth about religion and marriage is that those who are truly religious( and not just pretending to be so) and those who are truly not bound by religion but live by a Code of self regulated ethics and morals, are equally successful in working a marriage, whether of the arranged kind or of the Courtship leads to marriage type. What matters is the ability to see things from the other's perspective and the willingness to have a give and take attitude.When one cares more for preserving one's ego than preserving one's marriage, a failure is foretold and inevitable. Every organized Religion with a hierarchy invariably produces a clutch of people who get to manipulate resources of others in the name of expected behaviour and this situation leads to the formation of large masses of floating believers who do not have any solid base for their faith, but they conform to the external trappings of that religion such as the rituals, but do not live by its Core Values. It is among these peop[le that Double dealings and divorces occur more frequently. This is true irrespective of the name of the Religion.In Religions like The Sanatana Dharma of India, where the Religious authorites do not exercize any temporal powers over the followers, conformation and survival of marriages is relatively less but they are also not totally free from the malaise, mainly because of the Ego problem.

Answer 2

The statistics show that atheists experience less divorce than christians. However, you have to be careful, this is a correlation, not a causation. Just because you are an atheist doesn't mean that you stand less of a chance to get divorced. There can be many covariables, such as atheists tend to get married later in life (and hence correlated with more maturity) than their christian counterparts.

Atheists tend also to have more education before they marry than christians (again correlation).

Being a virgin before you are married does not guarantee a happy marriage. Not being a virgin before you are married does not guarantee a happy marriage either.

It depends on the specific circumstance. The key (IMO) to a happy marriage beside love, is a total understanding of your future partner, not some romantic vision, but a real understanding.

Answer 3

"Til death do us part..." was a lot easier to abide by, back when people were only living to be 35-40 years old.

Faith doesn't enter into the equation. Each situation should be looked at as a unique circumstance. Some people grow apart; some are unfaithful; differences about money, raising children, family...there are hundreds of reasons why marriages fail.

Truthfully, there as many reasons why marriages work: commitment to each other; children, financial obligations; growing as a couple; rather than as individuals...

Regardless of what the self-help section at Barnes & Noble would have people believe, there are no hard and fast answers to either side of this debate.

Answer 4

Divorce rates among Christians, especially the Evangelicals are about 54%. People, who live together prior to becoming married, tend to have the greater chance for marriage failure. No doubt, "whirl wind" marriages lend themselves to the higher divorce bracket. Just because people who are virgins when married does NOT guarantee him or her a greater chance at marriage success. Whether one is "Christian" or not has no bearing on marriage. It all depends on compatibility, willingness to change and devote to one another, to stick together during those "rough times", and to become and remain "best friends". If you get married because the person is only, "good looking" - you are playing with dynamite. The 3 Bs of themselves, (Beauty, Bucks, & Brains) will not cut it. Hollywood has proven that ! Commitment is a neccessity but you MUST love one another and treat one another accordingly. There are a lot of good self-help books out there -read some BEFORE you marry, as this will help give you a reality check. Marriage isn't a business but an institution of love and respect. Further on "virginity"; studies show people, who retain their virginity prior to marriage have a more healthier bond when married. They have less emotional damage and are psychologically more apt to be ready for it [marriage].

Answer 5

It's all very simple; ye must love one another; as long as you are faithful to one another no problem. If you want to start looking for someone better later, it's all over; either way: whether you find better or not. It was so much easier, when men had no teeth and chewed tobacco, and women had no teeth and rubbed snuff; and both bathed once a month whether they needed it or not.

Answer 6

Statistics schmastics.

Answer 7

The politically correct police will not like this, but if you check you statistics more closely, you will find that the increase in divorce rates coincides with the increase in women working outside the home. I am not suggesting that they should not, just pointing out the facts.

Answer 8

I think it all comes down to the people involved. I don't give Christians any more of a fighting chance than anyone else. My father (a devout Christian) just decided after over 30 years of marriage to call it quits...

Answer 9

Yes, see who tops...

1998- 2000
Saudi Arabia
Murder105
Rape87
Burglaries 11
Assaults4705

UK
Murder850
Rape8,593
Burglaries836,027
Assaults450,865

USA
Murder12,658
Rape89,110
Burglaries2,099,700
Assaults2,238,480

figures taken from nationmaster.com

Answer 10

I think the problem is that many people rush into marriage without truly understanding the committment it involves, or they get married for the wrong reasons. When it comes to divorce, people use the excuse, "due to a lack of communication." But I think the problem is not necessarily a lack of communication, but rather what's causing the lack of communication. Sad to say though, divorce is just as prevalent among believers as it is among non-believers.