Say there were these two really good friends a guy and a girl, and the girl had been starting fights with the guy for the past month over stupid things and just overall being a ***** to him (but was the best friend ever before that) The guy finally says "enough, if your gonna keep starting **** with me for no reason, just dont talk to me"...after about a week the girl realizes what a b*tch she's been (never has before) and is completely discusted in how shes been treating her friend (who really cares about her) She swears she's back to the way she used to be, Would you forgive her?
2007-06-11 18:25:26 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im the girl, btw and im sooooo sorry
2007-06-11 18:28:38 · update #1
Yes, I would. If the girl wasn't in the habit of starting fights before this, I'd give her the benefit of the doubt and believe that she intended to be a lot easier to get along with and I'd appreciate that she'd put some thought into things.
I do think the girl should make a sincere apology, though. It's hard to forgive someone if they don't apologize, stating what it is they've done that they are sorry for. If the apology isn't made, it's too hard to know what is going on and one doesn't want to assume that both people are thinking of the same problem.
2007-06-11 18:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by LC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you would get another chance. Why were you acting that way? Are you secretly crushing on him? You can't really blame him for not wanting to talk to you if you've been like that for a month. I hope you realized that you could of lost a great friend and won't treat him like that. Look within yourself and find the REAL reason you acted that way. Maybe there are more than "friendly" feelings. Good Luck.
2007-06-11 18:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she definitely should get another chance and yes, forgive her. Here's the reason, as you know everyone should get a chance in their life especially if they have learned what they'd done and how terrible they were such as treating a friend as you said because it shows her true feelings and her relationship with the guy is very "tight" which helped her to get out of the anger and to rethink about it. Plus, this is life, things do happen, so we give each other chances after chances and so there'd be no other problems. Although, chances are limited
2007-06-11 18:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by Gaylord Focker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should ask her what was going on, why she was trying to pick a fight. Did she need his attention, does she want a different kind of relationship with him? If she doesn't know, she needs to figure that out before she asks him to forgive her. Yes, she should use those words. Words got her into this mess and words have to be used to get out.
Is she a b*tch to other people regularly? Maybe he shouldn't forgive her if so because it's just a matter a time before she lets loose on him again?
2007-06-11 18:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best Friend is a guy, We've Been so for the past 5 years. I'd say that if i was him i would forgive...I mean, you've been best friends for a reason. He probably said that so the girl can really get how she's been treating him. I wouldn't worry too much about it.
2007-06-11 18:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by P.C.E. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends can sometimes let us down - it doesn't have to be the end of things.
The REAL question should be, what was the reason that the girl was being a b**** in the first place. People don't just pick fights for no reason. What was behind it?
Maybe she has feelings for him and doesn't know how to tell him properly but fights with him for attention.
2007-06-11 18:30:19 · answer #6 · answered by banana6464 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course! Good friends are there for the good and bad. Your relationship wouldn't die from a small dent like that. Im sure that person will understand and forgive as long as you approach him and talk to him and truely appologize for what you did. If I was the guy and you appologized to me and had a long talk and all, I would forgive you. I'm sure he still cares for you and likes you.
2007-06-11 18:39:16 · answer #7 · answered by RxV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard to get everything back to normal but I think that if you show your sincerity and that you really care about your friend then you two could become very close again. Though, keep in mind that there will be some awkward moments and that your friend will keep caution between your friendship.
2007-06-11 18:29:35 · answer #8 · answered by GiRLfrM510 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Action speaks louder than words...and you've apparently said plenty up to now. So my advice would be...stand back and let him SEE that you are sincere in wanting to be good friends again. Don't push the issue. Just be the 'way you used to be' and hope he sees it too....and never do any 'stupid' things again. It may be too late now. Only time will determine that. I wish you well!
2007-06-12 09:23:04 · answer #9 · answered by Rocky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course, but you don't have to be a door mat. Don't put up with bad behavior. Always forgive, forgiveness doesn't mean lay down so people can walk on you. God says forgive everyone for everything.
2007-06-11 18:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋