2007-06-11 18:22:19 · 9 answers · asked by annie78 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My sister in law and my husband (her brother) have always had a tumultuous relationship, but we've always tried to keep her involved with our son. However, the latest issue was her angrily calling our son "that child" and telling us that we were expecting special treatment because we "had a baby". She does not have children. This is when we stopped communication. Should we still keep the gift?
2007-06-11 18:39:01 · update #1
It sounds like she has issues beyond your control and maybe she is very sorry. She may be impulsive or have an explosive personality disorder or anger issues that she cannot control and needs professional help with. At any rate, I would acknowledge the gift and let the child have it. I wouldn't initiate anything with her. I would let the ball remain in her court and let her make a move in your direction. If this happens again, she has an outburst, I would talk to her about getting help with her issues. You don't want her going off on your child at some future time. But, please be caring and thoughtful when and if you have to speak to her about this.
2007-06-11 19:25:52 · answer #1 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are going to keep it, because despite the difference with your SIL the present is meant for your child. You are not a vindictive evil person and you refuse to hold on to the past! Perhaps it is the beginning of rebuilding a relationship. Your child would appreciate the love from the aunt.
God Bless
2007-06-11 18:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's not estranged from your toddler, is she? Why would you send it back? The gift wasn't for you personally. Be gracious and thankful that she thinks enough of your family to remember your kids birthday. Send her a thank you note and try to keep the bar just as high on your end as she is trying to raise it on hers.
2007-06-11 18:27:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should keep it, her relationship with your child should not change just because her marital relationship is having trouble. If you send it back she will feel like she is unwanted by every one in the family.
Send her a thank you card. and a picture of your child.
that would be the decent thing to do.
Her problem is in her marriage not with every one in the family.
2007-06-11 18:30:03 · answer #4 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it, and send a thank you. What things happen in our lives, our family, may not be forgotten, but all should be forgiven. Sending it back would just be in spite. The more you give, the more you get. Your acceptance and Thanks would be a gift for all, even if you need to keep it in confidence.
2007-06-11 18:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jenispent 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, if its free, its good, whats the point of sending it back & making it worse, laugh about it w/the family & let the kid have the present, let ur sister in law see that her stuff isnt gunna affect u @ all, just act like it wasnt from her, its just another item in the house!
2007-06-11 19:00:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it and send a thank you note. It's not about you. Unless the gift is somehow inappropriate, let the toddler enjoy it. He/she doesn't care who it's from!!
2007-06-11 18:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your grief is with her. the problem should not involve your child. let her be his aunt. keep the present and send a thank you card in his name.
2007-06-11 18:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by jezbnme 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should have apologized to you. However it sounds as if the gift is her apology. Keep it and thank her for it.
2007-06-11 19:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋