I have 2 friends, A & B, I've known them almost 17 yrs. A & myself live in the same state, B lives in Vegas. B is having her Bachelorette in Vegas in September. A & I are flying out for it.
My hubby & I are driving to Vegas this weekend to get some "us time" away from the kids. We have tickets to go to 2 shows & reservations for 2 dinners. We planned on some pool time & shopping as well.
I have not told friend B I will be in Vegas, hubby asked me not to. He doesn't want to feel obligated to meetup. He wants to be just us. Friend A knows about the trip.
Do I tell friend B in passing, or when I see her in Sept? Do I just keep my mouth shut?
2007-06-11 17:38:38 · 16 answers · asked by mkt 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Why not be proactive on this - when you see her at her bachelorette, give her some great advice.
"There will be times when it's really important for you and your hubby to get away, just the two of you, for a romantic weekend. Like we did in June. We get so busy and so wrapped up in work and kids and clubs and volunteering and politics (throw in whatever you want here) that you just have to get away from it all. It's a great time to plan something silly as well -- go to Disneyland, or go snowshoeing or go on a bike hike, or just go somewhere that you can veg out and simply enjoy being together again."
If you present it in that frame of mind, she can't take offense and may even remember it in a year or so when she and her hubby are feeling stressed out or wanting a romantic interlude.
2007-06-11 17:58:10 · answer #1 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't it be nice if there was someone to tell you that you are about to do something you will regret?
Well, you are about to do something you regret.
If your friend finds out that you were in town and didn't tell her, she will be hurt and she might not get over it. It will cause an irreparable rift in your friendship.
What the better thing to do would be to call her and tell her you and your husband will be coming to Las Vegas to spend some time alone together, but maybe you two can arrange to meet briefly for coffee. If you explain to her that this is kind of your second honey moon and so can't stay long, she will probably be very flattered that you took a few minutes to visit with her.
As for your husband, he can spare 20 minutes away from you.
But it might be the case your friend is too busy to meet with you after all.
2007-06-12 06:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by minuteblue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell friend B she'll want to meet up and that ruins your original weekend plans. So I wouldn't have told either friend to be honest.
Is there a way B could find out from A though? If yes then maybe say hey I'll be in Vegas if I'm not too busy maybe we catch a lunch together if not well I'll be at your bachelorette party in September!!
I would not tell anyone...When I take trips back home I hardly tell anyone...I just kind of show up, see who I need and want to see and get back to my new home.
Less drama that way!
Enjoy your weekend in Vegas!
2007-06-12 00:49:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a great time to get back in sync with your hubby. I would go with his wishes and not let B know that you were in the same city if hubby wants you all to himself for a weekend. Lots of women would jump at the chance to have a weekend with just their husband. You will have your time with B later on. Personally I would just keep my mouth shut and if A spills the beans or if B finds out somehow tell her you were taking a second honeymoom with your hubby and it was not to ignore your friendship at all.
2007-06-12 00:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Deb D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, don't mention anything. Your not obligated to tell people everything you and your husband do. I won't even mention it. If she finds out, just say it was a last min thing. You two where very busy and didn't want to bother her on sudden notice. She might feel badly that you didn't call her, but she should not be mad.
2007-06-12 00:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep quiet, unless you think friend A will blab. In that case, you need to explain to friend B that your trip was a husband/wife thing. Otherwise, what happens in Vegas......lol.
2007-06-12 00:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by warriorwoman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What will you gain by telling friend B? Just keep quiet and then your husband is happy and your friend is not hurt. If friend B finds out then just tell her it was a romantic get away and that you did not see anyone on your trip.
My husband always says to blame him if I want to.
2007-06-12 00:47:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jenn 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It will come out sooner or later. You have no obligation to meet up with her socially just because you're there. Just tell her it was a second honeymoon.
2007-06-12 03:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by starrrrgazer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not tell friend B until after your vacation is over. You and your husband need time for your relationship. Your relationship does not involve friend B.
2007-06-12 00:43:54 · answer #9 · answered by rowena utopia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to tell friend B, so don't.
Have a good time - don't think about it - just enjoy your time w/your hubby.
2007-06-12 01:00:31 · answer #10 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋