Do you think that parents today are relying to much on the School's and churches to raise there children?

Question

It seems like I hear a lot of complaining that the schools and the teachers are not doing a good job and thats why there kids can't pass and are getting into all kinds of trouble. I also hear, well thats not a good church with a good childrens programs and that why my kids don't have a spiritual life.

Answer 1

Yes! Parents are relying way too much on the schools to take care of their children. We are required to feed them breakfast and lunch (and in some districts...dinner.) We are required to provide after school care.

As an educator, it sometimes seems as though I've had 20 someodd children dropped off for my care. If I don't meet every single need...including their education...I'm held at fault.

It's unfortunate, but it's reality.

Answer 2

I'm a minister, & my wife's a teacher; so I think I can answer this one.
Parents today are under tremendous pressure just to make a living.
It used to be that the father worked to support the family, &
the mother stayed home to raise & school the kids.
That started to change drastically after the industrial revolution.
Then we had the depression & the world wars, & everything changed.
We're into the second or third generation who were not 'raised' by their parents.
Both parents are working or they are separated.
Children are coming to school (because the government makes them) without basic skills or even the desire to learn.
In many cases, they don't even have basic socialization.
Very few parents even go to church, let alone take their children.
It's just too much hassle after an exhausting week.
They fail to understand that this is one way to recharge.
Most churches try to cater to the children who do show up.
But some are more oriented to the adults.
A lot of parents are blaming the results they get on the schools & churches, rather than looking at themselves.

Answer 3

I have always felt this along with my own daughters one of them never taught their kids anything because it was up to the schools to do it..she said--many parents rush their kids off to school--with a lunch and not thinking that maybe that child wants or could come home for a nice meal for a change--parents want their time to themselves ---many shouldn't be aloud to have children--we teach our children at home before they go to school so they know what to expect then they will have a better chance all through their life... good question

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Very good point you raised. I agree with what I think is the point you are trying to make. Parent's these days are making excuses in so many areas of their children's life where they are not showing up as parent's. Where they are truly failing. It does seem that many of us parent's are dropping the ball and blaming it on churches, schools and any other place that we might find to blame. Our job at home is extremely important and in my opinion the most important place to reach our children.

Answer 6

E-i-i-i-i-y! Such is the case in the global-society nowadays.
When I was raised (many-many moons ago %the 1960's) raising a family was seen as an "obligation" in the family-setting.
During the next 40 years, society has shifted priorities. - Look at what has "happened" since that time; The Korean War, HIPPIES, WATERGATE (the Nixon-fiascos), the REAGAN years, and the BUSH (Sr.) years, the GULF WAR, and the Bill and Billery Clinton years, and now with BUSH Jr. and his Texan "y'allism's"
Oh, if we could muster the foresight of our original founders how this country could prosper!

Answer 7

Yes, I do believe that. And then it turns into a blame game. I find the trend scary because it feels a little like communism. And what makes it worse, our government schools are failing miserably at the job and we are wanting them to take on more of our responsibilities!

Individual freedom and accountability are becoming things of the past. Any good suggestions to turn the tide around?

Answer 8

Parents need to be involved with their childrens lives. If not, then of course that could lead to getting into trouble, etc. You cant just pass the blame and point fingers at everyone else. What kind of parent would you be then?

Answer 9

The only ones who complain are the parents, the fact is; the parents aren't doing their jobs in raising children right. its not the schools job to teach children to stay out of trouble, don't do drugs, mind your manners, and all that. it is the parents job to do that.
Teachers teach reading, writing and arithmetic, parents are suppose to teach morality, and religion.

Answer 10

Yes, we rely on school and church because we don't have the time. We have to work to provide for our kids expensive taste, pay for them some place to live, make sure they have transportation, entertainment, college, etc. etc. Just to keep up with what others are doing, we neglect our kids "emotional and spirtual growth" unintentionally to make sure they have the same things others afford.