Comes in the room and starts talking to you would you put the book down and listen to what they have to say? What if they do it for the whole time that you spend together. Would you get annoyed.
2007-06-11 16:52:11 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Urg! This happens to me ALL THE TIME! I love to read, and there are very few people I will stop reading for. I think if you start reading in the middle of a family function or a party its rude unless you have been ignored for 10 minutes. This always happens to me, it's like I'm invisible, I swear...so I pick up my book and start to read. If someone comes over and dives into a conversation, I usually put up a finger silently, and don't look at them until I have finished the paragraph. I then keep the book open, so they know I have not completely stopped for them, and say, "Sorry, I'm just so into this book, it's really great, I can't wait to finish it." They should get the hint, and keep the conversation short. It's rude to interrupt them if they are talking about important things, but if it's just idle chit chat or small talk, you can, when there is a pause in the conversation, sigh and start reading again. If they start up again, repeat the process until they get it.
If you were in a room reading alone and someone sits next to you and starts jibbering, I usually say, "Umm, could you give me just a minute? I'm just really into this." And continue reading. They will probably feel rude if they start talking again, and will give up if you just keep reading. If they want to talk to you about something important, though, finish the sentence, fold the page, close the book and set it down. Give them your undivided attention for 10 minutes, then try to end the conversation politely. Then say, "Well, I enjoyed our little chat!" while picking up your book, "Thanks!" This lets them know that you are done and would like them to vacate and leave you to your stories.
2007-06-11 17:10:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person. If it is someone that knows that I am reading but truly needs to talk to me that moment, I will put the book down when I'm at a stopping point (end of a paragraph or sentence) and talk to them to see what is going on. If it is someone that is just wanting to chit chat, I will be honest with them and let them know that I will be available at another time. Reading is something very important to me. I don't really like being bothered. Most people understand that. This is why I do it in rooms that are closed off so that people know that I want privacy. Think about this -- why do you think so many people ready in the bathroom? ;-)
2007-06-12 11:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by One Odd Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on how long the time is that you spend together. If you are away on a retreat, I think it is acceptable for them to feel that the communication between the two of you is available. If you see this person all the time, just let them know that you would appreciate having some time to just read, say from 7-8am or whatever.
But, if someone comes up out of the blue, yeah, just put the book down and talk.. People are more important than things.
2007-06-11 17:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by Greg L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Normally, when I read a book, I get so lost in it, I'm the character in the world. At first I'd not hear them. Then I'd just assume they weren't talking to me. Depending on what they did next I'd probably figure out that they were talking to me. I'd respond to what they said and if a) they continued talking I'd listen or if they b) allowed a lull in the conversation I'd continue with my book. If they kept talking the whole time I'd just stick a bookmark in and put my book down.
If the person was talking about really stupid stuff or was being really obnoxious then I'd get annoyed, but otherwise I'd probably be fine with the interruption.
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2016-10-09 00:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by bramwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a college student my studying time is very important and when someone is butting into it I get pretty angry!
I will talk for a few minutes then shove them on their way! I don't mean to be rude but my education is more important to me than what anyone has to say!
It all depends on the situation I suppose.
2007-06-11 17:57:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens to me alot, because I love to read. I just put the book down and listen. Then after they leave I resume reading if I don't have anything else that I have to do.
2007-06-11 17:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say who the person is, or what you are reading. If it's a family member and your reading for pleasure, put the book down. life's too short.Time spent together is far more important. If you are reading for a class assignment and it's just chatter, you could say, 'hey, can we postpone this until tomorrow? I have to get this read for class tonight"
2007-06-11 16:56:24 · answer #8 · answered by J M 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
the first time, i would put the book down, maybe even the second time, but after that, i would be annoyed BIG TIME
2007-06-11 17:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by uranus2mars 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. I have a stepdaughter who would do things like this all the time. I finally told her to please not interrupt me when I am reading or in the middle of a movie etc unless it is important. It is rude and self centered.
2007-06-11 17:52:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋