well, i have this "friend" and i was over at her house with 2 guys and well my friend went w/ the other guy and left me w/ him... and i gave him a bj, i dont like him, i dont no why i did what i did, i dont talk 2 him! now every time i see him in the hallway its so wierd!! now that girl i was w/ will tell the entire school about that night if i dont hang out w/ her!! i dont like ther any more b/c she left me alone!
how do i get over it i no it was a mistake and now i cant stop thinking about it! what should i do about her?? i really dont want 2 hang out w/ her! help plus i really dont want my parents 2 find out im only 16!!
2007-06-11 15:45:37 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I gave oral sex to a guy I hadn't known very well, and I did it when my friend left the room with another guy, it was father's day and I had to visit my dad an hour later and I felt soooooooo dirty. Eventually i got over it, but it affected and I was really disapointed in myself because that's not the type of person I was. As for the girl just tell her that it's sad that she has to blackmail or sleep with people inorder to make them her friends, if she for some reason tells all deny like crazy.
2007-06-11 15:56:52 · answer #1 · answered by Jamie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it's a good thing that you realize that it was a mistake. You need to realize though you didn't have to do that and don't blame your "friend" for leaving you alone with the other guy. This girl doesn't sound like your friend if she is going to tell the whole school about what happened. Just so you know high school will be over and done with soon. If this girl happens to tell everyone it will be quickly be forgotten. This girl sounds very sad and she does need some friends but she is going about it the wrong way. I think if you think your parents are going to find out. Perhaps you should talk to your parents about it. Don't worry about this it will either be soon forgotten or you'll laugh about it later.
2007-06-11 22:51:52 · answer #2 · answered by archaeologygrl2000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok what you did was really stupid, but we all make mistakes. Tell the guy you hope you can start over and don't want to give him the wrong impression. As for the blackmailing girl, talk to her and ask why she is threatening you. It's weird how she is acting mean, and is threatening you to be her friend. Tell her you want to get along and to please not tell everyone. Tell her that if she does, then you'll REALLY not want to hang out with her and you don't want to hang out with the type of person who blackmails you. Hopefully you can work things out and she'll be nicer. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel. Don't let this ruin your life. If she does tell, don't let teasing get to you. Shrug it off and tell people it was a big mistake. I wouldn't continiue being friends with her since she's being such a jerk and taking advantage or you bad situation. As for your parents, TELL THEM. They really won't trust you if they find out you were hiding it from them. They need to know and hopefully might help you come up with a solution for the girl who's blackmailing you. Sorry about your friend and this whole situation. Good luck! :)
2007-06-11 22:57:29 · answer #3 · answered by Tigger_Gal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, I'm not going to lecture you on the perils of teenage sex, even just oral sex, because you already feel bad enough about it. As far as what to do about the girl, tell her that the guy is lying, that nothing happened. How does she know, you say she left with the other guy? If you've already told her what happened, say you were confused and making it up. Then don't hang around her anymore. Before she starts spreading the rumor tell all your real friends that she's a horrible liar, and you two got in a fight. Then once she starts spreading rumors you can go to your friends and say "see, I told you that she's a liar, now she's spreading nasty rumors about me just because I won't hang out with her anymore. What a loser!" Or you can just come out and tell the truth to everybody and admit you made a mistake. Your real friends will understand. As far as your parents finding out, don't worry about it, I know that's hard to do, but parents are easy to get one over on. Just tell them "Oh you know how girls are in high school, don't listen to them! You know me, I'd never do something like that, that's disgusting!" and say it like you mean it. They'll believe you.
2007-06-11 22:53:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things happen. Don't focus on the problem.
Relax, clear your mind, and think about what really matters.
"Who knows what" doesn't make you who you are... you do.
You made a mistake, but the good thing is that you learned not to do it again.
If all else fails, you CAN your parents. Tell them that you love them. Tell them you feel bad about it. Most parents really will understand and make you feel better. It might even make them feel closer to you.
Finally, ditch the girl. She is not a friend if she would do that to you. You will feel great when she no longer has control over you.
You can deal with the consequences... it's part of growing up.
2007-06-11 22:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Brad T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well. The first thing you could do: DON'T GIVE BJs TO PEOPLE YOU DON'T LIKE! Maybe grow up a little bit? What do you care if she tells the whole school? Deny it. Or just admit it. People will get over it. And I'm sure that there are lots more kids in your school doing much sluttier things. Yours will be forgotten in time.
2007-06-11 22:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hope she not your only friend besides school is over and the summer is a long time to be separated from the people around you. distance yourself. get interested at the house in doing something for a few weeks and lay low. I wouldnt give it too much attention but i wouldnt forget how it made you feel to do something you thought you shouldnt have done just to fit in either. you dont need to fit in with people who have such low standards for themselves you'll be ok just lay low and try to stay away from them for the summer it will lose its interest to others by september and never, never allow yourself to do something you are not really prepared to do and let others find out about b/c someone will always have a big mouth somewhere
2007-06-11 22:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by ronk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deny deny deny
or even better, beat her at her own game...tell everyone at school that you hung out with her and those two guys and she told you that she was going to give that guy a bj and that you should do it to the other guy but you said hell no and walked away.
If you start the rumour first then people will believe you. You might think it's mean...and maybe it is but whatever highschool is eat or be eaten man.
and for yourself, don't worry we all make stupid mistakes like that. hopefully when you're older you and your friends will laugh about it :) If anyone asks you about it just laugh and be like "yeah right, are you stupid? I would never do that"
haha
good luck
2007-06-11 22:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
invent a rumor so big about your "friend" and try to incriminate her with proof so that whatever you did will seem pointless compared to her horrible and scandalous sin...
ps.. i would suggest you exploit the fact that she went to the other room w/ other guy, remember if you tell a lie enough time it will become the truth and whenever she tries to say that you gave the other guy a bj it will only seem like she's lying to make you look bad. also i would suggest you talk with the guy you gave the bj to.
2007-06-11 22:52:36 · answer #9 · answered by Happy hippie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to find a new circle of friends and work on your self-esteem. Your friend is not to blame at all for what happened. You were in total control of your actions. No one forced you to do what you did. As for the guy you "entertained," all you did was reinforce to him the notion that women are only good for one thing. You need to move on.
2007-06-11 22:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Emily Dew 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋