My brother left our house a few years ago, and he won't take my calls, it's odd. I don't think he hates me, but I'm not sure why he won't answer when I call. I mean, even talking to him in person seems like a chore to him, when I do see him. He barely speaks! Maybe he's just self conscious because he stutters a bit, and is depressed.
My problem with him, is that when he left, he went to go live with our abusive alcoholic father, who spoiled him rotten after the divorce, to literally buy his favor. He still does it because he bought my brother a house! The kid's never had a job in his life, and he has a house already. Mind you, his Dad still drinks like a fish so he's gonna die one of these days and this kid has no real life experience at all, and he's gonna have to deal with all of that. I think he's expecting our Mom to help him with it, which she probably will. Sorry, Im ranting again. I am gripey about some things with my brother, but he's still my brother, I wish he would pick up
2007-06-11 15:42:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If he stutters, that could be the reason he doesn't answer the phone. To a person who stutters, the phone can be a source of fear when it rings. If the stuttering came from the father's side of the family, the father could feel responsible for the son's stuttering as it is hereditary. How about mailing your brother something that will help him with his stuttering problem. Include a sweet sisterly note. Maybe, he will call you!
Several uncles and cousins of mine used to stutter and all of them overcame it by working through the steps in The Stuttering Foundation's book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer." Only one also went to a speech therapist who specialized in treating stuttering at the same time he worked through the book. If you brother isn't working, he should have plenty of time to spend on bettering himself and his speech.
It could be that your father turned to alcohol because of stuttering. Have you ever heard him stutter? Many stutterers have found that they stutter less when under the influence of alcohol as it relaxes them; however, it isn't a fix and some end up drinking more and more. You may have two family members in need of the book!
You can get it for a few dollars online at www.stutteringhelp.org
2007-06-11 21:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Bud B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say stop calling, my cousin and I don't talk anymore, I have my reasons to why I don't want to talk to her and her sister. It's been 4 years, at first she was calling, I never called her back, now she sends me emails once in a while but I ain't want no part of her and her sister. Why can't she just leave me alone. I had problems with them before, forgave them and now they want me to forgive them again, forget it.
2007-06-11 16:07:25 · answer #2 · answered by LATIN POWER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your brother is embarrassed by his behavior and situation. He may feel unworthy of your concern. Leave him to his life and perhaps someday he will contact you. You won't be able to fix things. Alcoholics are dependent upon someone, and your dad fixated on your brother. Perhaps it would help you to contact Alcoholics Anonymous. They have information and programs for children of alcoholics, their codependents and enablers.
2007-06-11 15:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him up and thank him for the birthday wish. Ask him what has he been as much as and while is he going to do precise by his little ones. Its a initiate. convey your self and notice what he says. anticipate no longer something yet a minimum of the door is open.
2017-01-06 08:47:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
simply stop calling him
he will contact You if he wants... stop bothering with him for now
2007-06-11 15:48:03 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋