My father doesn't even know I exist! Does anyone else have this same delimma? How do you deal with it?
2007-06-11 14:52:30 · 14 answers · asked by Kaliko 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hey Kaliko....I just lost my father in December....He was a really great dad.....I miss him. Some day I hope to be reunited...I'll introduce you to him.
2007-06-11 14:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Gramps died 25 years ago, my Daddy died 15 years and I miss them so very much it seems like a physical pain at times. I do have a husband who is an awesome father. Then there is my Father in Law, who is just the most wonderful person. These 2 incredible men do not replace the ones I have lost, but by focusing on them it does ease the empty feeling these holidays once brought....Taking the focus off my pain and putting on celebrating them turns a potentially bad day into a good one.
Peace be with you.
2007-06-11 22:22:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should not be depressing. Even if you don't know your Dad, just say a little prayer thanking him that he was a sperm doner. Without him, you would not exist. Some people have fathers that have died and they should use the day to honor his memory. Think of the good times they enjoyed with their Dad. In your case, I would spend Father's Day with my Mom. Honor her, she has raised you. Go out to eat together and enjoy the day. She has been your Dad for all these years.
2007-06-11 21:59:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do still have my father... but I also have a heart for fathers who have lost - or been abandonned by their children.
Perhaps you could get a group of folks together and visit a local nursing home and bring a little card to men that the nurses indicate have no families...
Sometimes doing for others who are hurting helps us deal with our own pain.
I pray you have peace, dear one.
2007-06-12 01:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by Depoetic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My father killed himself. I can't help but think of that on Father's Day, when there are so many reminders in my face. But I don't really get that depressed over it. I know that Dad made his choice, and I have to make mine, which is to live and be happy.
2007-06-11 22:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by solarius 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know a father who has lost children or have a male figure in your life, you may want to keep them in mind instead of feeling depressed about your biological father. It's his loss afterall. Another thing, these type of holidays are just made up; technically, you dont have to celebrate them.
2007-06-11 22:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by karyzmatik87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is sad and depressing. I kind of know how you feel. I felt that way during mother's day because my mother had died in March.
If your father is not around and your mother is there for you, then your mother is during the job of Mother & Father.
Celebrate your mother on Father's Day. Let her know you appreciate her and all she has done for you.
2007-06-11 21:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by Life is Sweet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gotta tell ya not being a father isn't much better. I'm sure it's nothing compared to your situation but it ain't a pleasant thought either.
2007-06-11 23:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by † H20andspirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad. Mine is dead, but I have a husband and will help him celebrate Fathers Day. Have you ever tried to contact your dad?
2007-06-11 21:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've dealt with that issue my whole life, hon.(I'm 42)
Only he KNEW I existed, but didn't care to know me or my siblings when after abusing us, abandoned us.
It's hard. Enjoy the love that IS around you.Whether that be your mother, cherished uncle(I was lucky to have)etc.
2007-06-11 22:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by mrs O 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋