What should a non mormon do if they want to seek a relationship with a mormon? What is the rules?
2007-06-11 13:57:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What should a non mormon do to seek a relationship with a mormon. Are there any rules?
2007-06-11 14:06:23 · update #1
I am LDS and by NO means are we 'required' to have a relationship with someone who is a member. It's just encouraged. I mean, wouldn't you feel comfortable with someone who had the same beliefs as you? It's just a natural human feeling, I think.
If you are interested in having a relationship with a particular Mormon, try talking to that person about it. That always helps.
2007-06-11 18:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Daniel 4 · 6⤊ 3⤋
When a Mormon marries, it is for time and all eternity, not until death do you part. This eternal marriage is only available to active Mormons. As a non-Mormon, you would not be able to enter into this eternal relationship with a Mormon. If your Mormon husband were to take his religion seriously, he would know this and it would cause a lot of contention in your relationship. Marriages have failed because of this. In general, marriages between Mormons and non-Mormons do not end well. Because of this, Mormon youth are counseled to not get involved with non-Mormons. Your friend may fall head over heels in love with you. In a couple of years you will both be old enough to get married. Then what happens? Will you join his church? Will he quit? Will he grow up and realize that as much as he loves you, he can't marry you for eternity, and then what happens to your relationship? Getting involved with a Mormon is a fast track to heartbreak and unhappiness. Don't go there. Either you join his church, or you find another boyfriend - there are plenty of fish in the sea.
2016-04-01 02:42:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mormons and non Mormons can have a relationship like any one else. Mormons and non Mormons can even get married!!!! What a shocker to some people who have answered this question.
gw
2007-06-13 05:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by georgewallace78 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How open is your relationship? Are you or the other on a 'spiritual quest'? Are you or the other a mormon? How 'faithful' are you or the other to your respective faiths, it any?
You may want to answer these questions first before you decide on 'rules of engagement'.
2007-06-12 03:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by Dances with Poultry 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
that really depends on the people. I know hundreds of people in the church who are happily married to nonmembers, my sister being one of them. I also know of many failed or failing relationships with people who date and marry outside of the church.
I would have to say that the biggest deciding factor that I have seen that helps determine the success or failure of a relationship between two people Mormons or not is how much respect they are willing to show one another.
2007-06-15 00:26:04 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to them about what they believe. That way, you can understand some of what our church teaches. I would ask for a date, or a meeting to talk to them about whatever you want to talk about.
The one thing I can say is that if you want to date them, don't plan on any sexual contact! If they are a devout member, sex until marriage is out.
If it's just to be their friend, then try to talk to them about other things, besides just religion. I'm sure they will talk to you about anything in your life. You would be surprised by how many things we really do know about. ;)
There is no "rule" about us not associating with people outside of our faith, in fact, I find it fun to talk to people who aren't LDS about what they believe, and about their views on things. We don't go into meeting new people with conversion in mind, so don't think that. Just being friends is a good thing.
Just make sure you go into it with an open mind, and the ability to see things from a different perspective. You may even learn something!! ;)
2007-06-12 14:04:31 · answer #6 · answered by odd duck 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't really recommend it. If they do date you they will probably face a lot of scrutiny from their family as mormons normally don't believe in dating outside their faith. If you do go ahead with it you should know they can't have sex before marriage, they can't watch rated r movies, can't drink coffee and theres a truckload of other things they can't do. If you do decide to marry her she will not be able to marry in the temple unless you convert, meaning you will only have an earthly marriage instead of being sealed for eternity which is what mormons believe happens if you are married in the temple. Refer again to the first sentence I wrote.
2007-06-11 14:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
mormons choose their actions they aren't forced to
they shouldn't...
~drink strong drinks (coffee or tea)
~do drugs or smoke
~dress immodestly (no sleeveless,no low cut, no short skirts or shorts)
~participate in sexual activities before marriage
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
they don't believe in pilgamy
and the wives aren't forced to obey husbands
and they can marry WHO EVER THEY WANT
they can date anyone the want
2007-06-15 12:25:54 · answer #8 · answered by ellen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends that are Atheist, Christian, Muslim, Astru(sp), Jewish, Agnostic and Buddhist. I love all of God's children.
2007-06-12 12:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by Dublin Ducky 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to your prospective partner about the standards they want to uphold in their life, and respect those choices.
2007-06-12 02:33:41 · answer #10 · answered by je_apostrophe 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋