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Question

hellooo.
Well, for a couple of weeks now I've liked this one guy. We know eachother for about a year and a half and we're pretty good friends. Things were going great until last Saturday. Me, my ex-boyfriend, this guy I like (who is actually his best friend!) and some other friends went to the movies. We sat beside each other, and he kept trying to give me hints to come closer to him, but I felt sort of weird because my ex-boyfriend was there. After the movie, my ex-boyfriend asked me what I would say if his best friend was to ask me out. I told him that I don't know because I would really have to like him. The truth was, I would say yes. I just didn't want to tell my ex-boyfriend that because I know that's wrong. Especially after telling him while we were dating, that I would never go for his best friend. The next day when I talked to the guy I like, he was acting really weird. He didn't say much to me & didn't sit beside me or anything. What should I do?

I'm sorry that it's so long!

Answer 1

Oh....geez. These types of situations are always sticky. I have a personal rule to never date friends - especially best friends - of my ex boyfriends. It's just messy and someone's feelings are bound to get hurt.
Any-who, back to your situation....sounds like you sent the wrong message to your crush. You tried to spare your ex's feelings, but wound up telling a half-truth where the best friend is concerned. If I were you, I would talk to the best friend directly and explain the situation/your reasoning and see what he says.
I hope that helps!

Answer 2

Tell the truth and stop playing games if you like the guy then say so. Obviously he likes you because he did the whole if my best friend likes what would you say. I mean you said that you would not go for his best friend when you two were together because you did not want to disrespect your boyfriend but he is know your ex and he does not seem to mind so why don't you talk to they guy you like yourself and be honest about everything and tell him how you feel. The more honest you are in the beginning the less drama you will have to deal with in the end.

Answer 3

I personally don't believe in dating friends. I think in some cases it can cause more harm than good. if your ex is really jealous of you two being together would he tell his friend personal thing that happened between the two of you or would he be malicious and tell lies. I don't know you, your ex, or his friend and this may not be the case at all.