I asked my boyfriend to move out today beacause i found porn on the computer. We have been through this before & he promised me that he wouldn't do it again, he was sorry, he loves me etc.
but he was full of it. Problem is it has only been a few hours and I miss him. Should i ask him to come home or teach him a lesson?
2007-06-11 12:49:46 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
porn is not that big of an issue. especially not big enough to kick him out. all guys look at it, well not all but a lot do. no matter how content they are with their girlfriends guys still do it. its their nature. i think you should apologize, well if you really feel that you are wrong, and let him know you over reacted and were just upset. tell him it just makes you sad that he isnt happy with what he has and you wish he wouldnt look at it but if he felt like he needed to or really wanted to, it was okay with you; but ONLY if you will be okay with it if he does it.
2007-06-11 12:53:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-07-24 13:47:41 · answer #2 · answered by Claudette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's point of view, "what's a porn problem; not having enough! Seriously, I think porn is a "guy thing" that women will never understand. How would you feel if he threw you out for reading romance novels? As long as his looking at porn does cause him treat you badly and he doesn't ask you to do wierd acts that you are not comfortable with etc. Take him back and don't make a "federal case" about the porn. Note: he probably won't stop looking at porn, he will just get better at hiding the evidence!
PS; I think almost all guys inherit the "porn gene". Its on the Y chromosome, right in between the "won't stop and ask directions" gene and the "I can't make a commitment" gene!
2007-06-11 13:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by Flying Dragon 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You seem a bit uptight. Men will be men and watch porn every now and then. As long as he is not physically cheating on you whats the problem? Is this all he is doing? Is he more into them than you? Does he make yo do sexual things that you don't want to do because the porn stars did it? If it's not taking a big toll on the relatioship in general then let him have his little fun on the computer when he wants.
Since yoou have already kicked him out you can't ask him back because you will seem weak and he won't take you seriously. Give it some time.
2007-06-11 13:04:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm confused. What's the problem? Lots of guys are into porn and women should automatically assume that their boyfriend is into porn...unless he's really religious.
If you have a problem with porn (which seems to be the real problem here), then you should dump him and forget him. Don't try to change him. You won't be able to. You have to accept him. Trust me, the more you nag about the porn, the more he'll want to watch it.
Watching porn isn't a problem. Be thankful he isn't a drunk who beats you. He doesn't, does he?
2007-06-11 13:00:18 · answer #5 · answered by contrafilms 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough one. Because you are probably feeling that if you ask him back in then you are just inviting the problem right along with him. I don't know how you can handle this but obviously if he doesn't stop looking at porn after you have asked him to then he doesn't respect your relationship enough because he puts his feelings and wants ahead of yours. It boils down to whether or not you can tolerate the fact that if you allow him to come back he will be right back to his old ways.
2007-06-11 12:54:09 · answer #6 · answered by benz s55 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is nothing to break up over. Trust me, you would rather porn than an actual girl. Men dont watch it because they like it better than you, it can just be a turn on to watch other people do it. Just make sure youre doing the same stuff theyre doing because thats obviously what he likes.
Remember sex is not really emotionally attaching like it is to women... him watching that doesnt take away from how he feels about you. He's just being.... a man! :o)
2007-06-11 12:54:02 · answer #7 · answered by frankee_77 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
are you really affended by the porn.. if it bugs you that much then dont invite him back.. but i honetly dont think porn is a problem.. i am the kind of person that will sit there with him but that is just me.. you do what you feel is right... everyone is different and how they feel.. if you think that you cant live with that then you need to let him go.. but honestly i dont think that you will find a guy that does not watch or look at porn... they might say they dont but they all do ... they just dont want us to know.. and i rather know about it then having them lie to me about it...
2007-06-11 12:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Humm. "Teach him a lesson" sounds kind of manipulative and mean. Don't do that one.
Do you have strong feelings *against* porn? If not, talk it through with him. Maybe the two of you can incorporate it in your naughty touching. It may even spice things up. Women can get enjoyment out of it too, see. Also, if he feels he doesn't have to use it in private, it'll lose some of its appeal, anyway.
2007-06-11 12:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by Munchkin 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
guys look at porn. it happens. i have absolutly no issue with my fiance looking at it because we have this thing called TRUST! we have enough sex that i dont need to worry about him getting it somewhere else, and the stuff on the computer is just pictures and video, he cant do anything with them but jerk off anyways. unless he is looking at porn more than spending timewith you, i see no problem here. if you love him and trust the rest of your relationship, why blow up at him for something every guy has looked at at least once in their life?
2007-06-11 12:55:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley M 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋