We're both around 17. My off and on boyfriend of 1 year and 3 months is saying that he would break up with me if I didn't move in with him when we go to college or whatever and that he wouldn't wait any longer than 5 years to move in with me. I have told him that I don't feel comfortable, my concerns about it and that I'm not ready to take that big of a step in our relationship just yet because I think it would be getting too serious for me. Even after 5 years in our relationship I'd still be pretty young (20 or 21) and not wanting to settle down for a life time. Don't get me wrong I love him and care about him a lot but I just think it's a bit too much.
2007-06-11 12:41:55 · 18 answers · asked by hearts99992000 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its definitely unreasonable....i mean if he really loves you he would understand your feelings and your only 17! don't make hasty decisions becase your too young and since you are going to college many things can happen 5 years is a long time, many changes can occur....i think you should have a serious talk with your boyfriend...blackmailing you that he would break up with you is pretty darn low....using your feelings to get what you want is bad...he doesn't deserve you if he doesn't understand you're feelings
2007-06-11 12:50:44 · answer #1 · answered by ♥♫HiKaRu_ShiDoU♫♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although his demands are unreasonable, I'm sorry to say but he WILL break up with you when he goes to college (especially if he's going to other state). Long relationships RARELY work. And I don't think 20-21 is young at all. At 21 you become a woman.
2007-06-11 12:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Attila 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't even gone to college yet, why is he threatening you about what comes after?
Most schools REQUIRE first year students to live on campus in dorms -- no choice about that, and there's no cohabitation. After that, you could likely rent an off-campus apartment, but it's hard to have a relationship and a college education like that.
2007-06-11 12:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion your pretty young to be moving in together and also relationship wise aswell you have only known each other a year that isnt very long and he his self has just proven he isnt ready for it by demanding to move in if he really loved you he would be patient and move in together when your ready you have the rest of your lives if your meant to be together there is no reason to rush and if you do rush you end up letting time pass you by take life slow and enjoy it while you can.
2007-06-11 12:53:38 · answer #4 · answered by VibeLord . 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is too much....DON'T DO IT!!! Take it from me. Been there done that. You are too young and you need to spend your college years single or at the very least live alone. I moved in with my boyfriend very young, and if I had it to do over I wouldn't do it again. That experience made me not want to ever shack up...NEVER. Gotta be married 1st. Good Luck!
2007-06-11 12:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he can't or won't understand the way you feel, he isn't the person for you. A relationship is an equal partnership. It seems to me, he wants you to be the junior partner. Back away, before it's too late.
2007-06-11 12:46:32 · answer #6 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an ultimatum to me.... "Move in with me or I'll break up with you"??? He's putting the pressure on you to do something you're not comfortable with yet.... and you said it first... he's your off and on boyfriend. Does he really need a room-mate that bad... or is he expecting a housekeeper.??
2007-06-11 12:53:53 · answer #7 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you were 25 or 40 and ur b/f said he'd break up w/ u if u didnt move in with him, if you dont feel comfortable, then dont do it. Only do what u feel comfortable doing.
2007-06-11 12:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Sick of F*ckwits 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've got in no way asked that of a woman however the only reason i might think of that a guy might ask is probably she would not have a extreme intercourse rigidity, like my spouse, and if she performs with herself then she would be able to maximum no longer likely be prepared while the guy returns...if she has a healthful intercourse rigidity then i might say who cares if she performs with herself as long as she nonetheless should be actual in many cases together with her guy. in basic terms my tackle it.
2016-10-09 00:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you thing is most comfortable with your own feelings. Also, dont let your boyfriend come in between you and the school you want to go to. You future is more important than your current love. If he loves you, he will respect your decisions. ALWAYS
2007-06-11 12:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by debcsr09 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋