The man I was dating for 6 months, just stopped calling me.. He ignores my calls, texts and any attempts of communicating w/him, so ultimately I stopped trying. I'm heartbroken..
..but mind you this happened a month ago.. and I still can't get over him. This has brought me down so much.. I attempted to drive from Miami to Naples to try and talk to him but I got a blow out midway and just headed back home..
I never thought that i'd feel this way for someone in such a short time.
I can't get this man out of my head.. I always think of him and w/e I do, thoughts of him pop into my head. Every stupid little love song reminds me of him and I get really bummed out to the point where I start to cry.. I don't know what to do anymore..
Why is it so hard to let go when he clearly wants nothing to do with me any longer???
2007-06-11 12:40:47 · 18 answers · asked by Are we done yet? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we always want something we cant have - and the toys that are taken away before we've become bored with them suddenly become 'extra' special. quit obsessing over the 'might have beens' and move on. since he ended it, consider him dead.
anyway, six months is still the honeymoon stage - you've been blind, and the breakup spared you of ever seeing his flaws. if he is so perfect, use his memory as a ruler to measure future boyfriends.
in the meantime, keep busy. friends are always neglected whenever we get into a relationship so renew old ties. if possible, get a pet, even a goldfish, as a recipient of all your love (cleaning out the bowl also gives you something to do). nourish the mind by reading - they arent called the classics for nothing. or keep updated with current events. and the best thing to do? exercise. it not only gets rid of excess and negative energy, but it'll be your gift to the next lucky guy.
happy hunting. lol x
2007-06-11 12:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by dg 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change is the most scary thing for most people, followed closely by rejection. It's the fact that you had no input that really annoys you, and you feel like it was something you said, or did, or didn't say or didn't do. As logiclly thinking creatures we find it hard to compute the ill-logical.
trust me on this one, you'll never figure out what his problem was, so stop trying. And remember, you felt the same way before you met this one, about the last one. we are naturally loveing people, sometimes it's a blessing, sometimes a curse. Go out get laid and everything will fall back into perspective, or just get a cat.
2007-06-11 19:51:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby, I am so sorry he's done this to you. First, stop calling him and don't go to see him. Stop all contact with him, because you are only pissing him off and making the matter worse. Next act like you don't care, be indifferent to the situation. He may call you later, but act like you really could care less, when actually you are dying inside, don't let him see you cry, ever. Now find something to occupy your free time and move on because the truth is he will not come back. It has nothing to do with you, it's all him. I understand that he is always on your mind, but you must find something else to think about and move on. The pains of love will eventually dull, just give it time. Go out and buy your self something nice. Treat yourself to a spa day, go out with some friends and enjoy your life without him...Good Luck...
2007-06-11 20:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to understand, your mind can know things but for some reason it is always late telling the heart. The sign is right in your face. You even got a blow out. That means you need to tell yourself and make yourself stop thinking of him, because I guarantee he isn't think of you. Go out dancing, find someone to dance with (you don't have to date him) and allow yourself to have fun. If a song comes on the radio, change it. If every station has a song that reminds you of him, then put on a CD. Make him go away.
2007-06-11 19:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's simple attachment...and it does have an ending.
The worst break-up of my life - and I mean this was horrendous - the girl was horrible to me but I fought to fix the relationship for 5 months. Finally, one day, I just up and decided OK, tonight I am going to meet someone new. I went out and threw myself into a social event. I met every girl in the place. Did I meet the new love of my life? Well, no. But I did forget about "her" for one night.
I just kept doing that over and over until something else took her place. Find something or someone to take his place. Seriously. You're going to be fine. it just takes time and effort. I'm here for you and I'm cheering you on!
2007-06-11 19:46:42 · answer #5 · answered by contrafilms 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're having a hard time in letting of that guy its because its not clear what really happened along the way... he doesn't even give you any reason of why your relationship did came to that point... and even if his acts already explained that he doesn't want to be in that relationship anymore...
maybe what you need is an explanation from him...why and what's the real score between the two of you... and i believe that its also fair if he'll explain what happened...
but in your case..if he's ignoring you... do you think it is still worthit to waste your tears...time...and love for that kind of person...there's someone better out there who deserve all that you have for him.. so better move on and save the best of you for the right guy...
gudluck...:)
2007-06-11 19:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to let someone go that you care about... i know.. i am going through the same thing... you want to talk to them and to always be around them.. damn i think we would just be happy being in there lifes but it does not work like that... leep yourself busy... you will get over it... it will just take time.. i think that you need to focus your time and energy on other things... work school your friends... go out more.. you will probably meet someone new and who is not scared to tell you the truth... This guy is a jerk if he cant atleast call you and tell you on the phone that he wants to break up with you.. you dont need to be around someone that does that...
2007-06-11 19:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly normal. But this has happened or will happen to every woman on Earth (and probably to every man). There isn't much you can do except live each day and try not to think about him. Eventually you'll meet someone worthy of your love.
2007-06-11 19:44:41 · answer #8 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard not to want someone to love you. You have to know that not everyone can love nor will everyone love you. That is why it is special to find someone who does. It is not easy to let go when that love no longer is. The way to let go is to let yourself know that you can handle being alone for a while and then you can truly feel free from them.
2007-06-11 19:51:20 · answer #9 · answered by Michael M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because you still love him, this happened to me but i only dated the guy for 3 months and he assumed i was cheating on him because someone told him that, its been almost a year and i still get teary eyed whenever someone talks about him, but hang in there it will get better this made me get closer to my family, and realize that they will always be there no matter what, they have to, and guys well they can leave whenever they want, i am going to be honest it hurts, but in the end you will see that it will work out i promise you that, and i am pulling with you i am still trying to get ahold of him, and yesterday i saw him, and he tried to kiss me and i just pulled away, i promise you everything will get better
2007-06-11 19:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋