My sister is getting married and I don't like the guy she is marring! Please Help me!
2007-06-11 12:03:06 · 37 answers · asked by lilsis_890 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You don't need our help. You need to acknowledge that you are not marrying the fellow. In that, love your sister and respect her choice. You might find that the guy isn't so bad. You may never like him, but he might not be too bad a guy anyway. Let them enjoy their life together. Never speak badly of him in front of his wife. Else you risk your relationship with your sister.
2007-06-11 12:14:45 · answer #1 · answered by Jack 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to your sister, you have to accept it. When my sister got married I did not like the guy either. You will learn to love him. Just seeing how happy they are will make you realize that he is a good guy. Please be open to the acceptance of him as your brother in law, and talk to him and your sister, and find out what it is about him you don't like. Then find ways to resolve it. I did that with mine, and him and I have a much better relationship and when I have problems with guys he is the first I go to. Hopefully you will feel the same in a few years.
2007-06-18 08:14:07 · answer #2 · answered by azswteepie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First give the guy a chance. If she makes your sister happy, and there is no other guy for her, I would give your brother inlaw to be time. He may get better as time goes on!
2007-06-18 15:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this brother inlaw and that sister inlaw and sally and bob dont have some thing to do with being drafted within the conflict. a million. they have got to be younger two. they cant have served earlier than (and feature left the navy) three. they are no longer even doing a draft ! so no.
2016-09-05 13:11:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes. Does your sister know? Do you dislike him because he's creepy or because your personalities clash? If it's the former, mention it to your sister; if it's the latter, wish your sister lots of joy and love and get on with life. I am friendly with one SIL, lukewarm with the other. Just how the straws were drawn, not much to do about it except try to build a positive relationship over the years.
2007-06-18 16:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by K N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i HATED my sister in law and weeks before the wedding I told my brother that and reasons why. Well do you think he listened? NO! People in love (or think their in love!) never do. Dont ruin your relationship with yer sister. She will marry him any way. All you can do is be there for her someday if the marriage fails. My brother and I have never been the same. His wife doesnt care for me either! Sometimes thats just the way it goes! Keep your relationship with your sister special!
Good luck...I know how you feel!:)
2007-06-11 12:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by lane 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain! The most you can do is just grin and bear it and let her do what makes her happy in the moment. My sister-in-laws hubby is a turd and dropped the F-bomb on the FIL...since then he is banned from their house and all family events until he apologizesfor treating everyone like crap (myself, my fiance, the grandparents, the in laws, including a sister in law and her boyfriend). He refuses. We invited him to the wedding so as to not get involved in family drama of it all...you can't choose your in-laws so all you can do is make the best of a bad situation and be on your very best behavior with them. Treat them all sweet and nicey-nice and maybe someday he'll take a hint.
2007-06-11 13:22:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I hate to tell you this but welcome to having in-laws! I don't like my Sister-in-Law and my brother doesn't like my husband. Nothing you can do but respect the other ones choice unless that person is a cheat or an abuser. In that case I would try to help them see the true person they are intending to marry and yet in the in it is still their decision.
2007-06-17 19:31:51 · answer #8 · answered by M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately... we don't get a choice....
If you love your sister.. then you will do your best to get along with this guy...
If you have a valid reason to dislike or distrust him.... then be honest with her... tell her the truth... BUT make sure she know's that NO MATTER what.. you will stand by her.... if she marries him or not.. she is still your sister.. and always will be...
2007-06-11 12:13:28 · answer #9 · answered by gin_in_mi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The decision is your sisters. Not yours. If your sister really loves him, let it go. You are not the one getting married. Just don't be around him if you dont like him.
2007-06-11 12:10:44 · answer #10 · answered by Tidus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋