For a engagement dinner my fiance and i want to have a get together at a restaurant ...is it rude for people?

Question

to pay for themselves or how should i do it????

Answer 1

Yes, it is rude. Do what I did - I ordered about $100-$150 worth of appetizers. If people want more food, they are more than welcome to order additional meals on their own.

Answer 2

Just ask them if they want to join in your celebration at the restaurant. Then tell them that they will have to pay for their own dinners, but you will pay for the wine and drinks.
or .....
Take them to a restaurant where you can order lots of different dishes and they help themselves. It's a lot cheaper this way because when they help themselves they don't eat as much.
Have a fun night. Congratulations.

Answer 3

When people are invited to a gathering such as an engagement, wedding, shower, etc. it is expected that the hosts will pay, not the guests. If you definitely want it in a restaurant and you need to keep costs down go to a sunday brunch buffet so you know exactly how much it will cost. plus you will not have a bar bill on a sunday morning.

Answer 4

If you are expecting everyone to pay for themselves, then don't say that you are "hosting" the party - just say something like "we've reserved a room at XYZ restaurant for everyone to eat at the same time and celebrate the occasion."

If you must say something about gifts, make it "no gifts, please." Especially if you are expecting others to pay for their own meals.
The socially adept will ask you where you are registered if they want to send a gift. Or, they will wait for the wedding invitation to send a gift to your house. [Only the truly clueless bring gifts to a reception.]

Make sure you put your phone number on the party invitation in case anyone doesn't get it.

Perhaps you might want to consider providing a dessert of some sort to make it even clearer - and say that on the invite. "We will be bringing a cake to share at the end of YOUR meal." (No caps, just done for emphasis for you.)

COngratulations! Good luck!

Answer 5

Well, you said it yourself. If I invited people to such an important personal event, I'd want to make them feel good and happy so I'd definitely pay. If you'd rather not , then you can always organise your get-together at home, prepare a few nice things, and let your closest family and friend have fun and really wish you a happy married life.
Sounds a bit instructive so forgive me and, you and your fiance, enjoy life together!

Answer 6

Having a party anywhere, means that you are the hosts. Hosts do not ask guests to pay, it is the same as catering an affair, or having someone come to your home, you bear the cost. You are however, justified in limiting the available menu choices, and it is appropriate to expect guests to purchase their own alcoholic beverages.

Answer 7

If you are inviting people out for an engagement... then you are responsible for the bill. However, what you can do is pay for the food and tell them that they are in charge of covering any liquor. This way, they dont feel as if they are left out, can eat... but will only consume what they can afford in drinks. If you pay the bill ont he drinks and someone has an accident you are the one responsible for this person, not offering liquor is your best bet. Good luck. and congrats!!

Answer 8

If you are hosting an engagment party you need to pay for your guests. The waiter will give you one check at the end of the meal.

Answer 9

If it is a party, you would be the hosts and people would expect you to cover the cost, just like at the rehearsal dinner. Otherwise, to be sneaky, ask a friend to plan a get together with a "separate check" format, and then "surprise" you by planning it.

Answer 10

its just an engagement. theyll get the free dinner at the wedding. no dont pay. invite them and tell them the price range of meals. that why theyll know if they can afford it and at the same time know youre not paying for it. you have a wedding to plan for you dont have money to buy dinner!