ask questions about your ex? Just wanting to know why it ended. The guy is just a friend, sometimes it seems like he is interested, but I never know with him. He asked if I still talk to my ex and I said every once in awhile that the guy cannot understand that we cannot be the friends we once were because of what he did. That you cannot go back after that, then my friend put his head down. Why and why did he bring it up out of the blue?
2007-06-11 09:33:37 · 6 answers · asked by Jen_n_TX 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Insecurity is the bane of EVERY relationship. We always want to know where we stand with people. Unfortunately, we cannot read minds and know what the other person feels about what we say. Your friend is trying to be supportive and judgemental at the same time. If he wants to know about your ex...it seems like he's trying to see where your tolerance level is, maybe not repeat the mistakes of your ex. It's obvious he doesn't approve of your ex...the question is why. Ask him if he thinks you were in a healthy relationship before. Maybe he'll clue you in...
2007-06-11 09:53:03 · answer #1 · answered by 55JD55 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't understand. If a guy is interested, it's part of the getting to know you process we all go through when we're "feeling" each other out (not physically mind you)....I think it's a very fair question that deserves a fair and honest answer.
But if he can't deal with the fact you still are on speaking terms with an ex, than it shows he's insecure about himself, or that he doesn't understand the dynamic of an amicable break up.....alot of people don't understand that scenario...which really is too bad!
2007-06-11 16:40:06 · answer #2 · answered by jlradioguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, he is interested otherwise he wouldn't care about asking about your ex. I assume guys ask what happened so they won't make the same mistake.
Take it from my experience... Keep at well, he did this and this is why it ended. DON'T go into details.. nothing about intimacy or anything.. it only causes problems. Have a "no talk about past" policy.
2007-06-11 16:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your guy friend is interested in you but is afraid to either hurt you or get hurt himself? Or is he friends with your ex? If he is not a friend of your ex more then likely he is afraid to hurt you or get hurt himself. Has he had a bad experience in the past with an ex? By me saying he is afraid to hurt you i mean he is trying to avoid doing what you ex did to you again.
2007-06-11 16:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by tessalove03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may b having probs. with a past relationship and is trying 2 c it through a girls point of view aka u
2007-06-11 16:38:03 · answer #5 · answered by sweetheart2594 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmmm.. could it be that your ex is using him to find out about how you feel about him? hmmm.. too obvious.
2007-06-11 16:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋