Eat Drink and Be Merry for Tomorrow we Shall Be Dead- What's the point of being moral?

Question

I try to be a good person. I try to always be kind. I try to do the right thing as much as possible. However, my ex boyfriend has begun seeing someone that makes me question just WHY it is that we are moral? This woman is part of a group of partiers...They spend their free time drinking, sleeping with one another and partying on boats, in bars, doing coke, generally having a great time....I initially thought, well, I'm better than that. I can't live that way, that's not reality. These people are living completely decrepitude. But it IS reality for alot of people. They are having fun. What is a GOOD reason for NOT living this way? I mean, I don't see it. If there's no prize at the end of the day for being moral (and you god fearing folk, I appreciate it but I am not religious so I don't want to hear that God thinks I should live a certain way), then WHY be that way? why not party hard with no morals? Why try to live within a moral way if there's no payoff?

Answer 1

You basically highlighted the short-lived happy times of their lifestyle. They can't keep that so-called happiness act for too long. You can only drink, do coke, and party up like that so many times a day/a week/a month before you get burned out and all that comes around and bites you in the a$$.
Living with morals means more than just doing what's right. Being moral also means respecting yourself and not taking today or tomorrow for granted. They are taking today, tomorrow, and their own life for granted. Don't give into that life because you think they are happy and free spirited? The reality is, they wake up feeling cracked out, addicted to drugs, a slave to false securities, sick, possible std's, a feeling of true lonliness. Then they develop all sorts of health conditions, in their state of sobriety they have a negative perspective on life, some may get in trouble with the law eventually for possession of coke (class A felony), a dui.....So in order to feel better they go through their routine again...such a vicious cycle...
There's nothing they have that's worth an ounce of envy. I promise you....

Answer 2

There is absolutely a prize for not living like a degenerate, actually several. You pick which one you like best:

1. You won't get arrested and have the expense, rap sheet and reputation to follow you around the rest of your life. You will be able to get credit, buy a house, get a good job, pass security clearance checks, travel outside the country and not have hide sonething from your future freinds and family.

2. Being healthy. All that behaviour you think is so fun destroys your body. You'll be living in your body for the rest of your life. Is a party tonight worth a lifetime of medication, nasal infections, kidney failure, etc...?

3. Cash. Why blow bucks on people who aren't going to be around? Save your money and spend it on your education, traveling the world and having a great sober life.

4. Self image. These people are insecure, trust me. They are not creating anything that will last them and in 20 years, they will be the pitiful people who didn't do anything with their lives. Spend your time with people who challenge you to grow and become a better person with more skills and talents.

5. Reality. This constant partying might seem like reality to you now, but once the reality of getting to work on time, paying the bills on time, feeding, clothing and taking care of the kids kicks in, the party skills no longer apply. Learn what is really happening in the world and decide where you want to be in 5 years, in 10 years, etc...

6. Tomorrow we shall actually be alive. Tomorrow is pretty inevitable - and if you want to have a good tomorrow, you need to start paying attention to it today. Partying and sleeping around makes for a lousy tomorrow, because what you did yesterday is what is talked about tomorrow.

A lot of people are in for a pretty big and rude awakening. Please don't be in that group - society is going to have to support a lot of these people on welfare and other social programs. You can do so much better than that for yourself.

Maybe some of those other people will learn from your example of having a great life and not just a great night.

Answer 3

There is a payoff. It is knowing that you are living a good and just life. It is knowing that you are above the crass disrespect many people show to each other. You have friends who love you, trust you and know you are a reliable person who will be there if they need you.

If you cannot look inside yourself and see a good person, then your journey through this life is wasted.

It is important to care, to be truthful, to respect others, to help others when you can, to love your family and children.

If you do not, you are an empty shell and life will lead you to be an empty shell and you would have wasted your entire life.

Don't let one low-life ruin your whole outlook. There are millions of people who have suffered like you....many who have nothing and what they have, someone steals.

Trust me on this; in 10 years, you won't remember this man or his friends.

Answer 4

morals are one thing but look again at how happy these people really are. They do get that big high but I'm willing to bet most deal with bigger problems and stressors in there lives than you do. Some of the biggest things that turns people to and keeps people doing the things you listed above are depression and low self esteem. Also all of that partying punishes your body and down the road it could lead to a lot of complications.

Also you have to ask yourself if doing all the things you listed will really make you any happier. I know people who've lived their lives like that and are fairly miserable.

Answer 5

"If you catch yourself doing an unGodly act in the course of doing what was best for you, the error is not having put yourself first, but in misunderstanding what is best for you." --Neale Walsch, Conversations with God

Okay, they're having fun. That's swell! But what are they doing to themselves? Coke is so bad for not only your brain but your heart... they could get exposed to disease... are they driving these boats high? One day they'll never come back.

If the risks of death aren't much deterrent, think of it this way: what are they creating for themselves? They are not being loving; there is no lasting satisfaction here. There is no caring, no nuturing, no growth. It's like a firework: BOOM, lovely, and it's over. I see this kind of behavior as a cry in the dark, the acts of people who are empty inside and can't feel satisfied with life on its own. This is not how people behave who have inner peace.

I'm a Taoist and that means my morality may be more flexible than others with more administrative religions, but I see the benefit of living with wisdom and compassion and achieving peace with oneself and the world. Reckless living, however fun, is not wise. It works for some people for a while, but it's not sustainable. It should be done in balance and harmony, which of course makes it not reckless anymore. If we do not draw boundaries for ourselves, we are open to a lot of damage and hurt.

I'm moral out of pure self-interest. It benefits me to be moral because I create my life the way I want it to be, and that means, using the rules to my advantage. And knowing when it's safe to use a loophole.

I eat, drink, and make merry, but not in a self-desctructive way. I'm responsible for my life. There's room in there for fun too.

Answer 6

At some point in life most everybody comes to the same conclusion, which is to live for tomorrow. Whether that tomorrow is the literal tomorrow or the figurative afterlife, we generally should choose to do things that will make it easier. All the activities you describe have pretty damn big consequences, and if they live like that they'll either be lucky and die (which depending on belief could be worse), or have to face them. The other famous quote "live by the sword also die by the sword" would certainly apply to those who treat their bodies like **** and end up in jail for illegal activities.
Even with all that aside, an immoral life tends to hurt others and it is our sympathy and empathy that makes us better people.

Answer 7

Who said "tomorrow we shall be dead?"

God said we will not die. We are only on this earth but for a season, then we will spend and eternity either in Heaven or hell. Either way, we will not die. (see Revelation)

As for being moral, being moral does not get us into Heaven or keep us from hell. Of course that does not mean you should go and do what those unmoral people are doing. They will suffer consequences for their actions. Instead, rather than focusing on them, and things of this world, focus on God and what He says. That is where you will find the answer to that question. Read the book of Romans in the Bible, and I guarantee it will give you the full answer. Pray about it and read it. Trust me, just try it. If you do and still have questions, you can always ask me by clicking my link and emailing me, or you can ask ask anyone more questions. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain. Please read it.

Many blessings

Answer 8

Epicurean s lived existence in he now, giving no theory for the after existence. Friendship and affection replaced right into a solid concept among them and residing a satisfying existence interior the right here now, and for that reason the announcing consume drink be merry for the following day we die. The apostle Paul addressed that state of innovations in 1st Corinthians15:32.

Answer 9

Do you ever see these people when their not partying and having a good time? Do you see the depression that overcomes them? How about the pain of STD's, unplanned parenthood, and the emotional stress?

So what if your ex is partying with people like this. There's someone out there for you who will treat you how you should be treated, for who you are.

P.S. I guess the people who answered before me don't know how to read :P

Answer 10

Well lets see...
HIV/AIDS
Syphilis
Body Lice
Herpes
Hepatitis
Unwanted pregnancies
Drug addictions
Rotted teeth
Aging faster
Dying sooner
etc etc etc

These people may be partying today but where are they going to be in five years? Ten years? Twenty years?

Not in a fun place.

Wouldn't you rather have a nice house, and car, and a good job with financial independance?